Terminology question

JAGG · 03-14-2012, 12:10 PM

Here is how I think about titles labels etc. I look like a guy , I walk like a guy (so I'm told) I think like a guy, but I have a few female body parts. I guess I fit into the butch label or trans maybe but really no title fits me. No label is correct, I'm just me , I was born this way . I have always been like this if other people like to put me in a catagory or assign me a label it makes no difference to me. Some people like things to be clear cut, so they can try to see where they fit in and how they relate to everything in there world. Its just not that important to me. One time when my nephew was about 8 we were on our way to the lake and he said are you a guy or a girl? Very honest and just wanting to know . I said does it matter? He thought about for a second and said no I guess it doesn't. That's my spin on it. Does it matter?

LaneyDoll · 03-14-2012, 12:28 PM

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Originally Posted by JAGG

I look like a guy , I walk like a guy (so I'm told) I think like a guy, but I have a few female body parts.

Sounds like Riley. Walks/dresses/acts/thinks like a guy but he has a few female body parts.

We refer to those parts as "upgrades."

To me, Riley *is* a guy. No question at all. The masculine energy he has is far stronger than any female body part that happens to be there. To me, he is the best of both worlds.

Corkey · 03-14-2012, 12:37 PM

Try human, works for me. My pronoun is he, your milage may vary.

Toughy · 03-14-2012, 01:12 PM

Here let me confuse you some more..............

There is gender identification and there is sexual orientation/attraction. Two different critters although many folks do confuse them.

sooooooooooooo...............

butch and woman are my gender identifications (you can have one or more)

my sexual orientation is lesbian and more specifically I am, 99% of the time, sexually attracted only to those who are femme.

Gender Id and sexual orientation are what you pick for yourself. No one else can tell you who you are and who you wanna fuck. Have fun!

macele · 03-14-2012, 03:15 PM

from what i am understanding, those who are calling you straight, ... thinks that butch just means a-wanna-be-man. that reflects a closed mind.

i'm up in age lol. sometimes i get really tired of all the labels. but i suppose, we do need them, ... to sort things out for ourselves. in all honesty, i don't care. been there, done that. i've always told myself that i am aloud to fall in love with whomever. a label won't deny me that. like the old saying goes, the heart doesn't ask permission. i may very well fall in love with a man before i leave this ole world lol. and that would make me bisexual or straight or something. we figure things out as we go, ... pick up bits and pieces along the way. some we keep, ... some we throw back. it's a great feeling when the light bulb clicks to the on position and we see folks "like me".

whatever the label, it's yours. in the end, it only benefits you. just traveling along, figuring things out. good luck, toss.

(little side note lol. i know a heterosexual butch woman, or two, three, ect.)

Christy51274 · 03-22-2012, 06:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Toughy

Here let me confuse you some more..............

There is gender identification and there is sexual orientation/attraction. Two different critters although many folks do confuse them.

sooooooooooooo...............

butch and woman are my gender identifications (you can have one or more)

my sexual orientation is lesbian and more specifically I am, 99% of the time, sexually attracted only to those who are femme.

Gender Id and sexual orientation are what you pick for yourself. No one else can tell you who you are and who you wanna fuck. Have fun!

Nicely put, Toughy!

03-14-2012, 12:10 PM	#1
JAGG Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: JAGG Relationship Status: =) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tulsa (cat free zone) Posts: 6,093 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,651 Thanked 17,531 Times in 4,137 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Here is how I think about titles labels etc. I look like a guy , I walk like a guy (so I'm told) I think like a guy, but I have a few female body parts. I guess I fit into the butch label or trans maybe but really no title fits me. No label is correct, I'm just me , I was born this way . I have always been like this if other people like to put me in a catagory or assign me a label it makes no difference to me. Some people like things to be clear cut, so they can try to see where they fit in and how they relate to everything in there world. Its just not that important to me. One time when my nephew was about 8 we were on our way to the lake and he said are you a guy or a girl? Very honest and just wanting to know . I said does it matter? He thought about for a second and said no I guess it doesn't. That's my spin on it. Does it matter? __________________ I don't want to spend my life with someone I can live with, I want to spend my life with someone I can't live without.

03-14-2012, 12:37 PM	#3
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,270 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Try human, works for me. My pronoun is he, your milage may vary. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

03-14-2012, 01:12 PM	#4
Toughy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: pervert butch feminist woman Preferred Pronoun?: see above Relationship Status: independent entity Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Oakland Posts: 1,826 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,068 Thanked 7,652 Times in 1,522 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Here let me confuse you some more.............. There is gender identification and there is sexual orientation/attraction. Two different critters although many folks do confuse them. sooooooooooooo............... butch and woman are my gender identifications (you can have one or more) my sexual orientation is lesbian and more specifically I am, 99% of the time, sexually attracted only to those who are femme. Gender Id and sexual orientation are what you pick for yourself. No one else can tell you who you are and who you wanna fuck. Have fun! __________________ We are everywhere We are different I do not care if resistance is futile I will not assimilate www.butchfemmesocials.com/

03-14-2012, 03:15 PM	#5
macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,231 Times in 847 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	from what i am understanding, those who are calling you straight, ... thinks that butch just means a-wanna-be-man. that reflects a closed mind. i'm up in age lol. sometimes i get really tired of all the labels. but i suppose, we do need them, ... to sort things out for ourselves. in all honesty, i don't care. been there, done that. i've always told myself that i am aloud to fall in love with whomever. a label won't deny me that. like the old saying goes, the heart doesn't ask permission. i may very well fall in love with a man before i leave this ole world lol. and that would make me bisexual or straight or something. we figure things out as we go, ... pick up bits and pieces along the way. some we keep, ... some we throw back. it's a great feeling when the light bulb clicks to the on position and we see folks "like me". whatever the label, it's yours. in the end, it only benefits you. just traveling along, figuring things out. good luck, toss. (little side note lol. i know a heterosexual butch woman, or two, three, ect.)