Terminology question

[EnderD_503]

Originally Posted by TossedNTurned

Hello!

Ok, so this is my first post and question. Something I am unfamiliar with is terminology when it comes to how some are described.

Prior to my boi and I getting together, I had never considered being with a butch. Since then, I have been referred to as a straight girl. Which...while I was until my new relationship, seems like a contradiction.

Is there something I am missing? Please explain to the noob. Thanks!

Some people in some portions of gay communities and more likely in the hetero world still see feminine queer women as "not really gay" or "actually straight," because they can't get their brains out of the traditional mentality of masculine = lesbian/queer, feminine = really a straight girl.

I also noticed your id says bi, unfortunately there are still ignorant people out there who see bisexual women as "straight women who have sex/make out with other women to turn guys on" (in the hetero world), or "not really gay" (in the gay world). And of course, they're the same people who think bisexual men are an impossibility and only means the guy is in denial of being exclusively into guys.

Yay for heteronormativity...