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ruthie14 · 08-12-2012, 08:46 PM

While date was fun, she was definately pulling away. There was affection, but not as much as before. No making out etc. I know she is dating other people, and one other in particular. We have both been very honest with each other. I will not have sex outside of a relationship, she doesn't want a relationship..but does want sex. She has respected my boundaries and I respect her honesty. However, after today, I think she is leaning towards the other woman. We were seeing each other every other weekend (she has kids). Now she is going away on the weekend we usually see each other and the next time I see her will be at a women's event where we will be in the same cabin for a weekend with a number of other women. I know she is having sex with this other woman... fine. My head knows, and I told her, that she needs to figure this out for herself. She no longer wants to be monogamous because of past hurts. I want her to figure this out, I don't mind that she is doing this.It is something she feels she needs to do for a while and figure out what she wants. What bothers me is that she seems to be pulling away from me. She still seems to like me, played with my hair, kissed me sweetly several times, took me swimming and then out to dinner. But I am getting the feeling that she is wanting to go backwards... more of a friendship. I think I need some time away from her to figure out what I want to do. It's starting to hurt, and I don't like that.

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08-12-2012, 08:46 PM	#11
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	While date was fun, she was definately pulling away. There was affection, but not as much as before. No making out etc. I know she is dating other people, and one other in particular. We have both been very honest with each other. I will not have sex outside of a relationship, she doesn't want a relationship..but does want sex. She has respected my boundaries and I respect her honesty. However, after today, I think she is leaning towards the other woman. We were seeing each other every other weekend (she has kids). Now she is going away on the weekend we usually see each other and the next time I see her will be at a women's event where we will be in the same cabin for a weekend with a number of other women. I know she is having sex with this other woman... fine. My head knows, and I told her, that she needs to figure this out for herself. She no longer wants to be monogamous because of past hurts. I want her to figure this out, I don't mind that she is doing this.It is something she feels she needs to do for a while and figure out what she wants. What bothers me is that she seems to be pulling away from me. She still seems to like me, played with my hair, kissed me sweetly several times, took me swimming and then out to dinner. But I am getting the feeling that she is wanting to go backwards... more of a friendship. I think I need some time away from her to figure out what I want to do. It's starting to hurt, and I don't like that.