Attraction = physical, mental, emotional...

[AtLast]

Carriage... its all in how she carries herself (Hack mentioned this and I agree). That is what attracts me initially. Sure, most of this right off is physical, but it really only takes a few minutes of talking to a woman to know if there could be a connection. It takes time to really find out if someone has the rest- the mental (intelligence and for me, curiosity and a mind that wants to keep learning), emotional (stability and the ability to be emotionally present) along with a depth of spirit (or the soul as it gives us balance in life). And there are all those musts that both people have and the degrees of mutual acceptance, the possible compromises of some of these.

I don't know if having had a positive LTR with such a woman in the past is a blessing or a curse. Also, age is a factor I think, or simply experience with life's variables in that I have become absolutely unwilling to settle. I find being single to have its negatives, but honestly, I am content and have a full life. Unless someone will truly be additive to my life, I see no reason to be in a relationship. Yes, I get lonely for more the intimacy that being with someone affords and I know that not having the connections that I seek (and are sought by another), would be empty in the long run. I'm very relational by nature, but most of my needs here are met by family and friends. And I give back in those relationships as it should be.

I enjoy dating overall, although I don’t feel I have to continually be dating someone. I’m not really looking. I’m simply open to possibilities if this is what is to be. And sometimes I am just involved with what is in my life and feel satisfied.

I'm grateful for what I have experienced in love and if I died tomorrow, I would die feeling completeness in my life.