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03-21-2010, 11:09 AM
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First of all when I am looking at someone to date I look to see if I am going to be attracted physically initially...
Are they girly? Do they love getting their nails and toes done? Do they love to dress up with dresses as much as they love being in jeans and a t shirt? Do they love wearing makeup and not wearing makeup at all some days? Are they 5'3 or taller? Are they hygenic? Is her perfume intoxicating? Is her skin soft to the touch? Does her eye sparkle when she looks at me? Does she smile genuiniely at me? Does she look into my eyes when she speaks to me. She is talking to me and not at me Then I wanna know what kind of person they are... Are they kind? Are they generous? Are they loyal? Can I depend on them to be by my side in good times and in bad? Are they independent? Are they career oriented? Are they down to earth? Are they passionate about life? Do they treat people with respect? Are they truthful? Are they consistent? Are they gentle? Are they understanding? Are they sensitive? Are they romantic? Does she have a cat? Im highly allergic so its no cats for me or who I date. Are they affectionate at home with me and in public... Do they attend MCC services? Can they be intimate without being sexual? Do they believe like me that sex is between two people who love each other. Do they have a nurturing side? Are they understanding of the fact that I am trans. I have not transitioned as of yet. Can I laugh with them about anything? Can I open up my deepest darkest "secrets" and not feel judged? Are they understanding about my lack of family? Are they like me and dont want kids? Are they like me and can tell by the first kiss if we connect or not? Do they love to pampered by me doing the little things for them without the expectations that I should. Can they handle that I am old fashioned when it comes to romance. I wanna pick you up, take you out, and drive you home walk you to your door kiss your hand or forehead dates before our first kiss.. Lastly for now.. Can I without a doubt trust them? Have they shown themselves trustworthy? |
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03-21-2010, 11:26 AM
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spirituality ; inquisitiveness ; acceptance of neurodiversity [for starters] ; animal stewardship ; gentleness + hardcore -
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03-21-2010, 11:41 AM
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To me it all comes down to whether they can sing Sesame Street tunes in the middle of the night : )
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03-21-2010, 12:32 PM
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In my world I have to be the one I want to be with for her to be with me. just sayin... high expectations usually no one can live up to, often give unrealistic consequences.
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03-21-2010, 12:35 PM
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03-21-2010, 02:50 PM
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Excellent list, BBM - it mirrors mine...
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03-21-2010, 03:04 PM
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Physically, I am attracted to masculine energy, and an 'in-charge' attitude without being bossy or demanding. I love daddy types - and tho I don't mind being called 'babygirl - I am not a fragile 'babygirl'. I don't want to make decisions for you, but don't want you making them for me either. I wear 'big girl' panties, and carry them very well, thank you...I am an independent, strong woman. That said:
What works me? First, and foremost, intelligence, wit, and a wicked humor. Keep me laughing, and you might just steal my heart. A healthy body, mind, and spirit. Hygene, and self-love is important - you need to care for, and about yourself before you can care for anyone. Integrity, honesty, strenghth of character, fidelity, and trustworthiness. Someone I can lean on for strength, and who isn't afraid to lean on me as well. Creativity, imagination, whimsy, child-like curiosity and wonder of all things in nature and life, a reader, industrious, ambitious, romantic, sensitive but strong. A sense of fun, and compassion for the less fortunate without being a pushover or doormat. And the list goes on...but these are the main qualities I look for. Oh, and a p.s., if you love classic movies and can talk about them intelligently - that's a major PLUS!!! lol Knowing Spanish wouldn't hurt either!
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03-21-2010, 04:01 PM
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03-21-2010, 05:28 PM
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What I see when I'm in public -- and am attracted to -- isn't different than any other time but is perhaps ordered differently. We can all wax poetic about intelligence and caring, etc., but I think if you see someone across a room, without knowing them, it's hard to get beyond looks and energy. Until you engage with someone, you can't move on to the other characteristics.
I don't think I have a type, per se. For me, there's just a gut reaction to someone that's my particular brand of attractive. I think a lot of that is how people carry themselves. While I can appreciate masculine beauty, I'm not attracted to it. It's not what makes me go boom. *grin* All ranges of femme do it for me. I've been all across the board in the types of people I've dated. In the long run, deeper characteristics will almost always prevail. I just don't think people look across a room and think, "Wow he/she seems so smart and witty." I think it's more like, "Damn, what a hottie/cutie." On the flip side, I think all these other characteristics such as humor and wit and intelligence come into play much quicker and looks shuffle to the back of the line. Just my 2 cents. *smile*
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03-21-2010, 05:50 PM
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when I am in a room full of people I watch...and it is the one who is centered, grounded and interesting who I will gravitate to.
It is not the one with the crowd around him, as he spouts off his hotty totty lifestyle, attracting attention to himself. Nor is it the miserable one who shows anger and depression as his clothes. He who is looking around, the same as I, will meet my eyes....and with a smile...I might invite him over...
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