Infidelity

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by Kobi

I might just be getting cynical in my old age, but whenever someone makes a public pronouncement of how wonderful their relationship is, it sets off all kinds of red flags for me.

I am thinking either they are trying to convince themselves and/or others of something they are not sure about, or they have their heads so high in the clouds, they are a victim in the making.

It makes me sad to think that talking about having a wonderful relationship is a red flag.

How has infidelity looked in my life?
That sick feeling in my stomach when I KNOW something has been going on
losing my place to live
losing who I thought was my best friend...for a time
it all being blamed on me
thinking I was losing my mind
being told I was crazy and jealous
having my partner's girfriend's husband knocking on my window at 3am looking for his wife while I was keeping her kids
having my partner move a new G/F into our house after a week
finding out it was all worse than my most extreme fears....

But the good is, I am stronger and happier and have a great life. I refuse to think of my 5 year relationship now as a red flag. It is good and we work hard at making it so.

Yes I have forgiven those who cheated on me, compared to other stuff that is happened in my life, being cheated on is far from the worst thing that can happen. Far.