only another butch would understand

[Unndunn]

Originally Posted by WicketWWarrick

Realizing that this is a question of personal preference...

We know that within our butch ranks we have female-identified, male-identified, other-identified; those who prefer male pronouns, those who prefer female pronouns, and those who couldn't care less. One word I use frequently with butches is 'bro'. I'm assuming that male-identified would be fine with this, but does this term feel erasing to some? I'd love to hear your collective thoughts on this.

I'm coming late into this thread, but I appreciate you asking this question. I'm a female ID butch and being called bro or anything like it doesn't bother me. I don't care about being referred to as he rather than she. The only thing I don't like is being called one of those "other" pronouns like hy, shy, etc. I know some people love them and that's fine, but not for me.

It also would take quite a bit to make me feel erased or not included. It usually only happens when I'm told that I'm not a butch if I'm female ID, or that I can't be a woman and still be masculine. Other than that I'm fine.

And for the record, I love fixing things and can repair or build just about anything but don't like working on cars. I'm not big on burping or doing anything else like that in front of others if I can avoid it. Table manners, etc matter to me. I am very comfortable around straight men (I have 4 brothers, no sisters) and often feel like a foreigner around straight women.