The Femme Continuum: The "Highs" and "Lows" of Visibility

tantalizingfemme · 05-06-2013, 05:44 PM

I live in the straight world. That is the only world that sees me. I have actually been more readily accepted in the straight world as a queer femme than I am in the gay/queer world.

I was actually part of a very large gay women's group in Delaware from it's inception, helped found it, and yet later found out that everyone all that time, 6 years, thought I just was a confused straight woman looking for friends. (They didn't "realize" I was queer until I started dating Dapper) Smh....

ETA: I am not unhappy, I love all of my friends. I do have 2 femme friends who I wish lived closer but I do have them for support.

AETA: I am a white femme and recognize my invisibility does offer me security.

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05-06-2013, 05:44 PM	#11
tantalizingfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: * Posts: 4,184 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,957 Thanked 3,984 Times in 822 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I live in the straight world. That is the only world that sees me. I have actually been more readily accepted in the straight world as a queer femme than I am in the gay/queer world. I was actually part of a very large gay women's group in Delaware from it's inception, helped found it, and yet later found out that everyone all that time, 6 years, thought I just was a confused straight woman looking for friends. (They didn't "realize" I was queer until I started dating Dapper) Smh.... ETA: I am not unhappy, I love all of my friends. I do have 2 femme friends who I wish lived closer but I do have them for support. AETA: I am a white femme and recognize my invisibility does offer me security.