Changing last names

[julieisafemme]

I did not take my former spouse's name. It was a heterosexual marriage and I did not think about it. I did not feel the need. People used that last name for me automatically because I was married. That did not bother me. My maiden name is a mouthful and I do not have a strong attachment to it.

When Greyson and I got married he asked me if I would take his name. This was important to him. His last name is lovely and since it was not my first marriage I felt like this was something special I could give to him. My kid does not like it even though I have never had the same last name as her!

I feel like our having the same last name is a reflection of this marriage being a true partnership where my first was not. It says something about us as a couple. I like that. It may say other things to people on the outside...patriarchy or sexism. I don't really care about that.