In Celebration of Butch Femininity

imperfect_cupcake · 01-31-2014, 11:51 AM

I hear your frustration. Perhaps opening a thread in the red zone about this issue and posting a link in this one might be a good idea. Although I don't agree with how Julie is communicating it, I fully understand her experience as I went through it when I came out as feminine into masculine in a Lesbian (as political, gender, social and feminist ID, not as a label for their sexuality). Luckily I escaped that community or I would have thought - and I did at the time - all lesbians were like that. I didn't ID as lesbian for four years because I thought that's what Lesbians WERE. I think a lot of us have been through that.
I now consider myself a queer AND a lesbian because my sexuality encompasses both. To me it's not an ID. It's just a name for PART of my sexuality. So I guess when I hear some femmes talk about "the Lesbians that told her how she was allowed to fuck and how judgemental they are" I personally hear a specific kind of lesbian and know who she is talking about, off the bat. Not all. Cause I'm a lesbian and I know she's definitely not talking about me. But then I am familiar with Julie and her posting style lol I'm just as ranty
I might not be so patient with a trans bloke I don't know going on about the Lesbians. I might get on my white horse and jab him with the pole I sometimes keep up my arse.

So sincerely, I think people have a lot to say about the issue. And if you think the conversation should be continued, start a thread and post a link.

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01-31-2014, 11:51 AM	#11
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I hear your frustration. Perhaps opening a thread in the red zone about this issue and posting a link in this one might be a good idea. Although I don't agree with how Julie is communicating it, I fully understand her experience as I went through it when I came out as feminine into masculine in a Lesbian (as political, gender, social and feminist ID, not as a label for their sexuality). Luckily I escaped that community or I would have thought - and I did at the time - all lesbians were like that. I didn't ID as lesbian for four years because I thought that's what Lesbians WERE. I think a lot of us have been through that. I now consider myself a queer AND a lesbian because my sexuality encompasses both. To me it's not an ID. It's just a name for PART of my sexuality. So I guess when I hear some femmes talk about "the Lesbians that told her how she was allowed to fuck and how judgemental they are" I personally hear a specific kind of lesbian and know who she is talking about, off the bat. Not all. Cause I'm a lesbian and I know she's definitely not talking about me. But then I am familiar with Julie and her posting style lol I'm just as ranty I might not be so patient with a trans bloke I don't know going on about the Lesbians. I might get on my white horse and jab him with the pole I sometimes keep up my arse. So sincerely, I think people have a lot to say about the issue. And if you think the conversation should be continued, start a thread and post a link.