How romantic are you?

[Sweet Bliss]

Originally Posted by honeybarbara

I've thought about this a bit more. I don't like formulaic romance. I like goofy, sarcastic and yet sincere under the humour.

So when someone picks me up, treats me formally like a princess all night, walk me to the door and maybe give me a kiss on the cheek and refer to me being a lady, I wind up not heaving a sigh after I close my door, but getting depressed and missing my exes.

But then oodles of people may find my version of a fun day together traumatic.

Gawd Ms HoneyB, you are the luckiest woman in the world, Honestly.

now that's real romancing the pants off ya kinda stuff.

thanks for the visuals, it made my day! xoxoxo

[deedarino]

Note to self: Add romance to my "to do" list...

[deedarino]

Originally Posted by deedarino

Note to self: Add romance to my "to do" list...

A friend reminded me that romance is not a "to do" it is a "to be". So I will change lists

Honestly, I am with honeybarbara. If it doesn't come naturally, from the heart, spontaneously, it doesn't do much for me. Try too hard, buy me flowers, run around the car like a Olympic sprinter to open the door and I will smile and think how sweet. But give me a rock you found on the ground in the shape of a heart and I melt. One of the most romantic gestures I ever received was a hand drawn, crayon pic of two stick people holding hands with little hearts floating all around them. I framed it.

Romance to me just says; I am thinking of you not I am trying to impress you.

[Bard]

My darling wife is a romantic something I had never experience before I was always the romantic BUT she leaves me love notes surprises me with flowers sweet words soft kisses.. she cares for me tenderly when I have been sick or injured she is the ying to my yang

I love her to the moon and back

[mountainbikedyke]

Very! Ha!

[meridiantoo]

Originally Posted by deedarino

Romance to me just says; I am thinking of you not I am trying to impress you.

That's the best definition of romance I've come across.

[imperfect_cupcake]

Totally. I love little things. Personable and individual. Things just for me.
My exwife used to carry the bags home on the bike after grocery shopping, not because she wanted to be a gentleman, but because she didn't want my front tire to wobble and thus possibly get smucked by a car.
She would find me a seat at an event 30 min in not because that's the chiverlrous thing to do, but because she knew 30 min was the time limit of my sore feet in heels.
Probably the most romantic thing she ever did was when I had food poisoning in her sisters bed in the middle of the night. On a brand new super expensive mattress. I knew how freaked out and upset her sister would be. I was in a state. What did she do? She woke up her sister and told her she had done it because she drank too much. Even though she caught the wrath of her sister for three days over it.

That's love. That is romance. Someone taking the shit for you because they can't bare seeing you sick and upset. Fuck flowers and poetry. Cleaning up my puke while I'm crying, lying to your own family and going out to get carpet cleaner to wash the mattress with is stellar romance.

[bokster]

This got me thinking as I don't do any of the usual romantic things like leaving notes, though, once, I had a bunch of flowers delivered to a special friend on her birthday - she lived in another country and I ordered a floral arrangement online of I-don't-know-what flowers they were (they looked pretty).

I agree with what I've read so far about not trying too hard. But I'll open doors for you if you don't beat me to it. And I'll bring a small cooler of ice cold beer when I pick you up from the airport. Save some for me.

[ForeverMe]

I am absolutely a romantic. I feel that romance is best when both parties are on the same page. I enjoy being romanced and also I also love to do some romancing.

The fastest way to my heart is to hold my door, gently touch my hand, planning little outings, or numerous other thoughtful, romantic moves. A little creativity will carry you a long ways.

[VintageFemme]

This is one of my most favourite threads on BFP. I love reading how others perceive and welcome romance into their relationships. It's such a special effort that means so much and lingers forever. I remember each and every romantic notion ever showered upon me.

That birthday you played Happy Birthday on your harmonica to me naked.
The midnight picnic in an empty field under the stars as well as all of the floor picnics in your apt.
When you learned to play Imagine on your keyboard because you knew I loved it.
The love letters mailed to me when you lived in the same city & all the creative romance they said to me [including the sexy drawings!].
Writing me poetry.
All of the hours you worked to buy me that puppy.
Serenading me on my balcony, with your guitar from the lawn.
Kissing me in the parking lot in the rain.
Taking my photo with you so faraway after we had just met.
Getting into the bath with me in your clothes.
Handmade gifts from your heart, working overtime to earn the money to come see me, going through all kinds of drama & hell to come see me, and the poetry. All of the poetry.
When you dug up an entire rose bush & left it on my door.
When you left a candy bar & greeting card on my car windshield.
When you walked on the streetside of the sidewalk to protect me.

These are just a few of the things that have sent my heart and head into a spinning whirlwind of romance over the years and in those alone moments when I feel a little 'less than' - I remember them and remember when I was 'more than'. Mhmm, romance is very important and that one gesture, that one handpicked wildflower, that one mix tape will mean more and linger longer than you can ever imagine. Do it.

Love.

[Femmadian]

Originally Posted by VintageFemme

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When you dug up an entire rose bush & left it on my door.

Holy shit. That's super romantic (and maybe a bit illegal depending on where the bush originally came from, hahaha). What a great twist on a traditional idea. Love it! What a lucky lady!