Being an adult...what does that really mean?

Bèsame* · 09-15-2015, 12:19 PM

Ascot, I came up during that same generation. My parents had the parties as well. Never once thought of that as being a adult for me....it was watching adults still have fun. Our parties, included, being thrown in the pool. Clearing out the furniture for dancing, and all kinds of laughing among the "older" people.

On occasion of my at home snooping of my mothers things, I found her high school yearbooks and her dairies. I read them of course, looking forward to that time of my life. I thought then, "I wonder if she remembers this stuff" ? I suppose once you get older, those memories drift. My younger memories are with me always. Just because I'm older, I didn't loose those younger times.

You know, I look back at different stages of life, phases, and all the things you were suppose to do as you get older. The things that "make " you an adult. I know I'm an adult in the choices I make, the responsibilities I have, the consequences, and the life I lead.

Yet, when, I'm among family or friends, it's the same younger emotions, thoughts, and or fun actions. It doesn't make me feel " adult" like. It's just me. It's just us.

So for me, I know I'm an adult, yet in my mind, I'll never be.

Please, please, don't you ever call me "old lady". Lol lol

imperfect_cupcake · 09-15-2015, 12:30 PM

I'm pretty immature in certain ways. I'm a big teenager and kid. I tend to get on well great with people in their 20s and early 30s. I love hanging out with my classmates who are 18-26. My flatmate is 29 and we get on like a house on fire (im 46 going on 10-25, depending on the day). My closest new friends I make are always about 20 years younger than me.

However, I know myself *incredibly* well and accept myself FAR more and am less bothered by things about 1/100th of the degree of when I was younger. I wish I had the energy level of a 20 year old though. I know and accept my limits. I own my mistakes. I am not trying to constantly change myself into what I think a better person is, like used to. My work is now just accepting and working with the hand I was dealt.

My boundaries are waaaayyyyyyy better and I say "no way" and "fuck that" with happy confidence now!

Play · 09-15-2015, 12:41 PM

Being an adult to me means having the capabilities to make the tough
decisions and take care of my responsibilities while maintaining my
"don't give a fuck" attitude and keeping my goofy sense of humor in tact.

On days when I don't really feel like "adulting" I just tell people my
"give a damn" is broken. Reaching this stage in life def has benefits.

C0LLETTE · 09-15-2015, 02:45 PM

Means you stop blaming everyone and everything else for the choices you've made.

Tuff Stuff · 09-21-2015, 07:41 PM

Sometimes you're forced to grow up.It's taking responsibility for your life and not running back to mommy and daddy.Owning your life facing the consequences for your actions.Treating others like you want to be treated.
But I did all those things as a kid...so I don't fucking know what it means to be an adult.Keeping a Job? Paying your own way..paving your own path..having a conscience?..paying my bills..driving my own car,owning my own house?..did it.

I guess if I had to pick wanting to be a kid or an adult..adult then.

A. Spectre · 09-21-2015, 07:47 PM

Being patient and calm in the face of challenges and adversity. Understanding that most people want to love and to be loved, give them a break when they upset you.

Laugh with people, not at them.

Just a start.

09-15-2015, 12:19 PM	#1
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Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,315 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9408454	Theories Sometimes you're forced to grow up.It's taking responsibility for your life and not running back to mommy and daddy.Owning your life facing the consequences for your actions.Treating others like you want to be treated. But I did all those things as a kid...so I don't fucking know what it means to be an adult.Keeping a Job? Paying your own way..paving your own path..having a conscience?..paying my bills..driving my own car,owning my own house?..did it. I guess if I had to pick wanting to be a kid or an adult..adult then.

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Play Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Nope Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Boondocks Posts: 105 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 593 Thanked 381 Times in 95 Posts Rep Power: 2165824	Being an adult to me means having the capabilities to make the tough decisions and take care of my responsibilities while maintaining my "don't give a fuck" attitude and keeping my goofy sense of humor in tact. On days when I don't really feel like "adulting" I just tell people my "give a damn" is broken. Reaching this stage in life def has benefits.

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