Femmes: How do you like to be treated on a date?

imperfect_cupcake · 09-19-2015, 02:39 PM

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Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

to be honest, I don't even know what wholesome actually means. As far as I understand, wholesome = whole wheat bread and home baked.

Ok, I looked it up.

The definition is:

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whole·some (hōl′səm)
adj. whole·som·er, whole·som·est
1. Conducive to or indicative of good health or well-being; salutary: simple, wholesome food; a wholesome complexion. See Synonyms at healthy.
2. Conducive to or promoting social or moral well-being, especially in reflecting conventional moral values: wholesome entertainment; a politician with a wholesome public image.
[Middle English holsom, from Old English *hālsum; see kailo- in Indo-European roots.]
whole′some·ly adv.
whole′some·ness n.

If we are talking about conventionally moral in a white middle american kind of way (which is traditionally where it is used) then not in a billion years.
I'm ethical, not moral. Moral is the differentiation of action and thought between propper and impropper and has a religious/spiritual beliefs system behind it. Moral does not need reasoning and it's about everything being applied cross the board.

Ethical - being in accordance to the standards of practice within a system. Either within a group of people or within a scope of profession or culture. There is reasoning to why something is ethical or not. The same action might be ethical in this instance, but may not be ethical in that instance.

I do not consider myself moral. I'm ethical.
Ergo, I can't be wholesome.
Hey ho.

VintageFemme · 09-19-2015, 02:48 PM

I love reading this thread and everyone's answers, but here's the thing with me . . .

if I have to tell you how I want to be treated on a date, then I'm probably on the wrong date.

The_Lady_Snow · 09-19-2015, 07:34 PM

ETHICAL SLUT

*twirl"

Quote:

Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

Ok, I looked it up.

The definition is:

If we are talking about conventionally moral in a white middle american kind of way (which is traditionally where it is used) then not in a billion years.
I'm ethical, not moral. Moral is the differentiation of action and thought between propper and impropper and has a religious/spiritual beliefs system behind it. Moral does not need reasoning and it's about everything being applied cross the board.

Ethical - being in accordance to the standards of practice within a system. Either within a group of people or within a scope of profession or culture. There is reasoning to why something is ethical or not. The same action might be ethical in this instance, but may not be ethical in that instance.

I do not consider myself moral. I'm ethical.
Ergo, I can't be wholesome.
Hey ho.

FieryRedhead · 10-18-2015, 08:10 PM

First of all, a DATE does not include a drive through window. However, toward the end of the date if coffee is necessery it may be ordered at the drive through. I expect to be treated like a lady at all times because I am going to make you feel like a King. You will have my full attention. My cell phone will remain in my purse because you would be the center of my attention as I hope I would be to you.

I like my date to smell nice. Cologne is sexy.

We all have ex's. I'm a big girl and I get that but it should not be a topic of conversation.

Surprises are fun! I adore them! For my date to take the time to put together a fun (or) romantic (or) low key evening for us shows me that this date with me means something to you and by taking your time to put it together you think highly of me.

Our date is not about the money spent, but being who you are and showing interest in our conversation. I love hamburgers and beer, seafood, prime rib, you name it. I'm easy to please and would want you to go home excited and already thinking about our second date!

kittygrrl · 10-19-2015, 06:15 PM

If you please, please don't put your phone on the table at dinner..put it on silent (in your pocket), and short of an emergency, do not interrupt our conversation to answer it.

cinnamongrrl · 10-19-2015, 08:22 PM

what is this "date" thing you speak of...?

<<<<rusty

imperfect_cupcake · 10-20-2015, 12:45 AM

Please don't date me. Let's just go hang out - no rules, no formal behaviours, no formulas to follow. Just hang out as friends and enjoy each other.
After we hang out for a while, we might wind up in bed together at some point.
If we do that again, and it's agreed it's fabulous for us both, *then* we can go on dates.
This is how I grew up dating in the straight world and with non North american Butch-femme queers.
This is what I feel most comfortable doing.

Thanks for asking!

kittygrrl · 10-20-2015, 01:48 PM

31% of both men and women agree that 15 minutes of a date is all it takes to decide.

Angeltoes · 10-21-2015, 01:45 PM

I like museums, plays, picnics, etc. It might be fun to go apple picking or to a pumpkin patch. Chivalry is nice to a point as long as we keep it real. Mostly I enjoy spending time with someone who makes me laugh and has something interesting to say. If they have that much going on, then it doesn’t really matter where we go.

09-19-2015, 02:48 PM	#2
VintageFemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Outside Posts: 2,299 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,828 Thanked 7,620 Times in 1,655 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I love reading this thread and everyone's answers, but here's the thing with me . . . if I have to tell you how I want to be treated on a date, then I'm probably on the wrong date. __________________ Unfinished Business & Open to Serendipity

10-18-2015, 08:10 PM	#4
FieryRedhead Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single, for now. Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: Down in the South, y'all. Posts: 50 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 42 Thanked 141 Times in 30 Posts Rep Power: 3002099	First of all, a DATE does not include a drive through window. However, toward the end of the date if coffee is necessery it may be ordered at the drive through. I expect to be treated like a lady at all times because I am going to make you feel like a King. You will have my full attention. My cell phone will remain in my purse because you would be the center of my attention as I hope I would be to you. I like my date to smell nice. Cologne is sexy. We all have ex's. I'm a big girl and I get that but it should not be a topic of conversation. Surprises are fun! I adore them! For my date to take the time to put together a fun (or) romantic (or) low key evening for us shows me that this date with me means something to you and by taking your time to put it together you think highly of me. Our date is not about the money spent, but being who you are and showing interest in our conversation. I love hamburgers and beer, seafood, prime rib, you name it. I'm easy to please and would want you to go home excited and already thinking about our second date! __________________ Chemistry is you touching my mind and it setting my body on fire.

10-19-2015, 06:15 PM	#5
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: Fae Relationship Status: just for fun Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,370 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,595 Thanked 21,953 Times in 7,077 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	If you please, please don't put your phone on the table at dinner..put it on silent (in your pocket), and short of an emergency, do not interrupt our conversation to answer it. __________________ "MAKE AMERICA THINK AGAIN"

10-19-2015, 08:22 PM	#6
cinnamongrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: cleverly disguised as a responsible adult* Preferred Pronoun?: wild woman Relationship Status: No, thank you. Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Home in NC..gonna dig in like a tick this time… Posts: 7,661 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,231 Thanked 27,599 Times in 6,956 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	what is this "date" thing you speak of...? <<<<rusty __________________

10-20-2015, 01:48 PM	#8
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: Fae Relationship Status: just for fun Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,370 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,595 Thanked 21,953 Times in 7,077 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	31% of both men and women agree that 15 minutes of a date is all it takes to decide. __________________ "MAKE AMERICA THINK AGAIN"

10-20-2015, 12:45 AM	#7
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Please don't date me. Let's just go hang out - no rules, no formal behaviours, no formulas to follow. Just hang out as friends and enjoy each other. After we hang out for a while, we might wind up in bed together at some point. If we do that again, and it's agreed it's fabulous for us both, then we can go on dates. This is how I grew up dating in the straight world and with non North american Butch-femme queers. This is what I feel most comfortable doing. Thanks for asking!

10-21-2015, 01:45 PM	#9
Angeltoes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Nunya Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Bernlandia Posts: 1,740 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,286 Thanked 5,526 Times in 1,386 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I like museums, plays, picnics, etc. It might be fun to go apple picking or to a pumpkin patch. Chivalry is nice to a point as long as we keep it real. Mostly I enjoy spending time with someone who makes me laugh and has something interesting to say. If they have that much going on, then it doesn’t really matter where we go.