Is Marriage for you?

Stone-Butch · 09-19-2015, 07:22 PM

I have never been married but after 10 yrs with my ex we had a union. No laws involved, just wanted to commit to each other. After 22 yrs I was committed to work and earn good money and she was lonely and fed up. I left her the house (not sell it to her), she got the trailer, the kids (two dogs and a cat) and all the furniture. These things mean nothing when your life falls apart, not to me anyway. Marriage? She would have to be super special and only after being together at least 5 yrs to even think about it.

MsTinkerbelly · 09-20-2015, 12:37 AM

My kasey and I were together for 2 months before she asked me to marry her...we were engaged on Christmas Eve 2002.

We had a Domestic partnership, as that was all that was available to us at the time...and I have to say we had our ups and downs (and even a brief break-up), but we have worked hard to make a very happy life together. We were married in July 2008 during the "summer of love", when marriage was legal for a short time here in California.

My Grandparents knew each other around 6 weeks before they married, had 5 children, and were married for 60 years when he passed away. I have friends that are a same-sex couple, have been together 22 years, will NOT get married, and have a committed relationship that is a joy to watch.

Married, unmarried, know you 12 years, met you two days ago....the only common thing that successful couples have, is the stubborn determination to stick it out no matter what.

Some people need the paper, but a lot of people don't. Whatever makes everyone happy.

JDeere · 09-20-2015, 02:03 AM

Probably no, I have come to the conclusion that I don't want to be married.

I come from a long line of bad relationships and the family curse has hit me already.

kittygrrl · 09-20-2015, 01:32 PM

yes, (someday)

job · 09-20-2015, 01:47 PM

Nope. I don't like traditions or ceremonies.
They make me nervous. Even other people's weddings creep me out. 😧 😁

imperfect_cupcake · 09-20-2015, 02:45 PM

Not a huge fan of traditional weddings. Or religious ones.

But small civic weddings with people dressed in whatever the hell they want with a party after? Fab.
I was still terrified at mine because I hate public speaking. But the party was great

three DJs from great clubs, people dressed up as goth faeries and other fun costumes with a home made buffet in a friends 17th century house. Nothing formal. Just fun.

Not a traditionalist. So we didn't have a traditional wedding. Amsterdam in the snow was fantastic.

Rockinonahigh · 09-20-2015, 04:58 PM

Burned twice, ten times shy. Once I though I would change my mind when I met someone who I really thought after all these years, ended up she was hooking up with someone I knew out of the blue.

View Poll Results: What is your ststus?
I am unmarried in my State or Country	103	58.52%
I am married in my State or Country	27	15.34%
I have had an alternate joining which is not legally marriage	18	10.23%
I wouldn't get married if they paid me!	28	15.91%
Voters: 176. You may not vote on this poll

09-19-2015, 07:22 PM	#1
Stone-Butch Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stonebutch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Canada Posts: 3,747 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,369 Thanked 9,431 Times in 3,089 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	never married I have never been married but after 10 yrs with my ex we had a union. No laws involved, just wanted to commit to each other. After 22 yrs I was committed to work and earn good money and she was lonely and fed up. I left her the house (not sell it to her), she got the trailer, the kids (two dogs and a cat) and all the furniture. These things mean nothing when your life falls apart, not to me anyway. Marriage? She would have to be super special and only after being together at least 5 yrs to even think about it.

09-20-2015, 02:03 AM	#3
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Probably no, I have come to the conclusion that I don't want to be married. I come from a long line of bad relationships and the family curse has hit me already. __________________ Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein

09-20-2015, 01:32 PM	#4
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: gf Relationship Status: Til you believe Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: wrapped in a shawl Posts: 9,762 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,730 Thanked 22,161 Times in 7,228 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	yes, (someday) __________________ "We're nine meals from anarchy"" Lewis

09-20-2015, 12:37 AM	#2
MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,897 Times in 5,017 Posts Rep Power: 0	My kasey and I were together for 2 months before she asked me to marry her...we were engaged on Christmas Eve 2002. We had a Domestic partnership, as that was all that was available to us at the time...and I have to say we had our ups and downs (and even a brief break-up), but we have worked hard to make a very happy life together. We were married in July 2008 during the "summer of love", when marriage was legal for a short time here in California. My Grandparents knew each other around 6 weeks before they married, had 5 children, and were married for 60 years when he passed away. I have friends that are a same-sex couple, have been together 22 years, will NOT get married, and have a committed relationship that is a joy to watch. Married, unmarried, know you 12 years, met you two days ago....the only common thing that successful couples have, is the stubborn determination to stick it out no matter what. Some people need the paper, but a lot of people don't. Whatever makes everyone happy.

09-20-2015, 01:47 PM	#5
job Junior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Join Date: Mar 2015 Location: Vegas area Posts: 47 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182 Thanked 159 Times in 35 Posts Rep Power: 644258	Nope. I don't like traditions or ceremonies. They make me nervous. Even other people's weddings creep me out. 😧 😁

09-20-2015, 02:45 PM	#6
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,711 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Not a huge fan of traditional weddings. Or religious ones. But small civic weddings with people dressed in whatever the hell they want with a party after? Fab. I was still terrified at mine because I hate public speaking. But the party was great three DJs from great clubs, people dressed up as goth faeries and other fun costumes with a home made buffet in a friends 17th century house. Nothing formal. Just fun. Not a traditionalist. So we didn't have a traditional wedding. Amsterdam in the snow was fantastic.

09-20-2015, 04:58 PM	#7
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Burned twice, ten times shy. Once I though I would change my mind when I met someone who I really thought after all these years, ended up she was hooking up with someone I knew out of the blue.