When did you come out?

Cowboi · 05-09-2010, 06:49 AM

When I was in the first grade, and my guy friends had girlfriends, I didnt understand why none of the girls wanted to be my girlfiend.
The first time I told someone, I was 26.
Since I am butch, I think everybody knew anyway!! LoL

ALittleStar4You · 05-09-2010, 07:06 AM

I haven't come out-but All your stories were very inspiring. Thank you.

(And I am 30)

apretty · 05-09-2010, 08:20 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ALittleStar4You

I haven't come out-but All your stories were very inspiring. Thank you.

(And I am 30)

you'll do it when you're ready, until then find a good support system. <3

chefhottie25 · 05-19-2010, 10:05 PM

when i was a sophmore in high school. i was dating rome overmeyer...and i slept with my spanish teacher...well she was actually a student teacher. when i broke the news to rome he said his mom thought i was gay(she was a lesbian)...it all worked out, i got an A in spanish and rome and i became good friends. he was very supportive, and so was my family.

Rook · 05-27-2010, 08:30 PM

I think the very first time I came out to anyone...Was to my brother, we were sitting on the top of a basketball Goal backboard, it was night, and yeah we were being evil lil peeping toms...
Keep in mind, I was 13, he was 11...
I'm not sure what I said, when he had this baffled dumb glance and said "I don't get it, you're a girl, how can u like other girls boobs?', took me a moment and I shrugged sayin 'I just do, always did like girls, if u like 'em why can't i?'
He shrugged and we proceeded to make stupid noises, and got shooed off the Court...

Years later, I was about 17-ish after I figured he totally forgot, I sat on his bed, tried refreshing his memory and after getting tired of the blank stare, I came out...again...He said "I always figured it was a phase, maybe u just haven't met the right guy?"
I shook my head telling him there's no way I'd be with a guy, there's no attraction, no inclination nothing that feels the way I do deep inside when with an intelligent beautiful gal, to this day he continues to hold to his bet that I'll find the "perfect Man" -snort-
Couple days later, I came out to my mother after she poked n prodded cuz I wasn't eating, or sleeping well....
After 2 years of really ugly spats, she and I sat down and she said "It wasn't so much the fact you are a lesbian, but rather, all those years...and those fake boyfriends u brought to me, it was the Lying that hurt me the most..I was raised a certain way, give me time, for now I'm just..tolerating this."
Our rel. has improved since then though....
Granted, Everyone else in the very big...Family spectrum found out thanks to my brothers big-ass mouth....
After my uncle called and told me my father was on the first plane to Puerto Rico to find out for himself, I slammed his ass to the wall and told him "dont ever think I will trust u again, especially if this goes really bad for me"....
And it did...-shrug-

homoe · 10-20-2015, 07:24 PM

I was NEVER in! It's been pretty obvious I'm a dyke so ...LOL

Tuff Stuff · 10-20-2015, 07:43 PM

I could never hide it from anyone,either..the fact I was a baby butch...and I definitely sure as hell can't hide it today.I liked girls at an early age and I never came out,I was who I was...my whole family knew what I was..besides,being queer kind of runs in my family's DNA.

05-09-2010, 06:49 AM	#1
Cowboi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Holding My Red Circle Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Louisiana Posts: 1,811 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,051 Thanked 3,962 Times in 1,230 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	When I was in the first grade, and my guy friends had girlfriends, I didnt understand why none of the girls wanted to be my girlfiend. The first time I told someone, I was 26. Since I am butch, I think everybody knew anyway!! LoL __________________ Let There Be Cowgirls

05-09-2010, 07:06 AM	#2
ALittleStar4You Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: complicated Join Date: May 2010 Location: NH Posts: 31 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 65 Thanked 14 Times in 6 Posts Rep Power: 26	I haven't come out-but All your stories were very inspiring. Thank you. (And I am 30) __________________ Amanda is a Little Star for you!

05-27-2010, 08:30 PM	#5
Rook Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A.G - Stone Butch - GenderFuck Preferred Pronoun?: Hym, Hyz...or, just b respectable, it's not that hard.. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Columbus Posts: 2,280 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,227 Thanked 3,182 Times in 1,287 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I think the very first time I came out to anyone...Was to my brother, we were sitting on the top of a basketball Goal backboard, it was night, and yeah we were being evil lil peeping toms... Keep in mind, I was 13, he was 11... I'm not sure what I said, when he had this baffled dumb glance and said "I don't get it, you're a girl, how can u like other girls boobs?', took me a moment and I shrugged sayin 'I just do, always did like girls, if u like 'em why can't i?' He shrugged and we proceeded to make stupid noises, and got shooed off the Court... Years later, I was about 17-ish after I figured he totally forgot, I sat on his bed, tried refreshing his memory and after getting tired of the blank stare, I came out...again...He said "I always figured it was a phase, maybe u just haven't met the right guy?" I shook my head telling him there's no way I'd be with a guy, there's no attraction, no inclination nothing that feels the way I do deep inside when with an intelligent beautiful gal, to this day he continues to hold to his bet that I'll find the "perfect Man" -snort- Couple days later, I came out to my mother after she poked n prodded cuz I wasn't eating, or sleeping well.... After 2 years of really ugly spats, she and I sat down and she said "It wasn't so much the fact you are a lesbian, but rather, all those years...and those fake boyfriends u brought to me, it was the Lying that hurt me the most..I was raised a certain way, give me time, for now I'm just..tolerating this." Our rel. has improved since then though.... Granted, Everyone else in the very big...Family spectrum found out thanks to my brothers big-ass mouth.... After my uncle called and told me my father was on the first plane to Puerto Rico to find out for himself, I slammed his ass to the wall and told him "dont ever think I will trust u again, especially if this goes really bad for me".... And it did...-shrug- __________________

05-19-2010, 10:05 PM	#4
chefhottie25 Member How Do You Identify?: boi Preferred Pronoun?: hy Relationship Status: happily taken Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: ohio Posts: 1,406 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26 Thanked 889 Times in 478 Posts Rep Power: 1175217	when i was a sophmore in high school. i was dating rome overmeyer...and i slept with my spanish teacher...well she was actually a student teacher. when i broke the news to rome he said his mom thought i was gay(she was a lesbian)...it all worked out, i got an A in spanish and rome and i became good friends. he was very supportive, and so was my family.

10-20-2015, 07:24 PM	#6
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,560 Times in 14,919 Posts Rep Power: 21474890	I was NEVER in! It's been pretty obvious I'm a dyke so ...LOL

10-20-2015, 07:43 PM	#7
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,315 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9408454	I could never hide it from anyone,either..the fact I was a baby butch...and I definitely sure as hell can't hide it today.I liked girls at an early age and I never came out,I was who I was...my whole family knew what I was..besides,being queer kind of runs in my family's DNA.