Instant Turn-Offs - Page 5

LoyalWolfsBlade · 07-05-2014, 09:14 PM

Judgmental people
People that have that better than tho attitude
As for possibly partners always answering I don't know when asked what they want to do or where they want to go. I mean some times it's understandable nut are you really that boring that you never know?
People that are always PC
Finally people that assume others ate ignorant because the person does not spell every word correctly after all this is not a class room.

Bèsame* · 07-13-2014, 06:27 PM

Wishy Washy

Are you in or are you out?
Make up your mind!

AnAwkwardAccident · 07-13-2014, 06:56 PM

People that are self-centered and believe the world revolves around them. People that make other's struggles their 'own'. People that lie. People that think money makes the world go round.

homoe · 10-20-2015, 05:02 PM

Anyone who feels the need to be loud and obnoxious out in public! Being loud and drawing attention is the main thing that'll send me running for the hill!

Tuff Stuff · 10-21-2015, 05:37 PM

What do you mean?(not just a bieber song)..people who do not know how to make up their mind.First you wanna go,then you wanna stay..then you want to go left,then you want to go right(damn,it is that JB song)..I hate that! drives me crazy!!..how about this one,how about I leave your indecisive a** by the roadside.

That'll work for me.

homoe · 11-22-2015, 07:58 PM

A loud drunk obnoxious woman!

imperfect_cupcake · 11-22-2015, 09:07 PM

Inflexible traditionalism. Doing things by the rules for the sake of the rules. Massive turn off.

Basically, people who lack critical thinking skills and depend on rules of thumb instead. There are exceptions to everything. What are they? Why?

Rigidity.

I do like decisiveness, but people who make up their mind very quickly, without clear reasoning scare me. People who make decisions quickly, often change them very quickly without clear reasoning too. Without notice.

Capriciousness. Believing absolutely in one thing one day, and emphatically going on about it, then when their emotions change, changing direction and dismissing their past opinion as just something they were going on about. I can't trust their enthusiasm or their will.

It takes a long time for me to make a decision about bigger issues. But I won't go back and forth on something. I'll be very clear I haven't made my mind up, and it will be some time before I do. I want a lot more information before I: buy a flat, purchase a car, go on a six week holiday, get a pet, or get involved in a relationship with someone.

So when I watch people rushing headlong into something, I watch just how long they stick with that decision before they say "meh, that wasn't for me." And walk away from it. Big fat clue that if they do that with other things, they will do that with me. I'd rather someone took their time and didn't make promises before they knew for certain what they wanted long term, not what they want now now now.

imperfect_cupcake · 11-22-2015, 09:08 PM

Are you running into shouty drunk people a lot, homoe?

homoe · 11-22-2015, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

Are you running into shouty drunk people a lot, homoe?

Yes, unfortunately the last few times I've gone out to a bar/pub for food!

giggleluver · 11-22-2015, 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by homoe

Yes, unfortunately the last few times I've gone out to a bar/pub for food!

Speaking of pub, a turn off for me is the smell of beer on the breath, yuck

Nattih · 11-22-2015, 10:59 PM

elusiveness - I value someone who is direct about their intentions at all times

being occupied - If they cant give me their undivided attention, I immediately want to walk away

giggleluver · 11-23-2015, 12:04 PM

Hygiene, especially not washing your hands after you go to the bathroom,

ewww

MysticOceansFL · 11-23-2015, 12:32 PM

Yes , hygiene & smokers are a huge turn off for me.
Among a few others.

Vincent · 11-23-2015, 03:48 PM

lack of manners,my Dad always said manners are free use them,and this includes how you speak and relate to others around you,if you think a homeless person is less than you,we just won't get on.
being secretive,someone who getting information out of is like pulling teeth,I don't want to know your bank details but I think communicating is very important,and I mean a dialogue.
This sounds judgemental,but believing Fox news is actually news,I just know I will drive you nuts.

kittygrrl · 11-23-2015, 04:35 PM

A person insists they never lie, but then you catch them in several
A person who insists they are always right

storyspinner70 · 11-23-2015, 08:07 PM

An instant turn off/on for me is someone's voice

You can look like Selma Hayek (my lifelong lust) or Monica Bellucci, Big Boo or even like Jensen Ackles (my man lust) but you sound like a squeaky toy or Nanny Fine, I just can't. Can't. Conversely, you're not the least bit "conventionally attractive" but you have a voice like roughened velvet or smooth like glass? I'm so there. That's like major for me.

The other big one is if we just don't click intellectually or in our humor. Those are deal breakers. I value cleverness above almost everything else.

*Anya* · 11-23-2015, 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by candy_coated_bitch

Dirty fingernails.

Yes!! This!!

Dirty nails gross me out. I even notice if someone on a TV show has dirty nails.

job · 11-23-2015, 11:55 PM

No matter how good someone looks, if they belittle someone else FOR NO REASON, it's a done deal. Not only will you be unattractive, I will also instantly dislike you as a person...and trip you when you walk by....just kidding. 😃

homoe · 11-24-2015, 01:34 AM

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Originally Posted by kittygrrl

A person insists they never lie, but then you catch them in several
A person who insists they are always right

YES, nothing more of a turn off than a "know it all"!

C0LLETTE · 11-24-2015, 08:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by homoe

YES, nothing more of a turn off than a "know it all"!

I'm not big on "know nothings" (deliberating if I should add an "lol" here)

07-05-2014, 09:14 PM	#81
LoyalWolfsBlade Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pre-Op FtM, Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones plz Relationship Status: Single but haven't given up on finding the One Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: I gaze upon the same moon as you do Posts: 3,827 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,214 Thanked 9,646 Times in 3,123 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Judgmental people People that have that better than tho attitude As for possibly partners always answering I don't know when asked what they want to do or where they want to go. I mean some times it's understandable nut are you really that boring that you never know? People that are always PC Finally people that assume others ate ignorant because the person does not spell every word correctly after all this is not a class room. __________________ Life should never be stagnant hence my quest for new knowledge will continue until my last breath. Wolf

07-13-2014, 06:27 PM	#82
Bèsame* Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femm Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: loved by many Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Closer to the waves Posts: 15,383 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,120 Thanked 40,947 Times in 10,734 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	Wishy Washy Are you in or are you out? Make up your mind! __________________ kisses A kiss is a whisper in your mouth. Can I borrow a kiss? I promise to give it back.

11-22-2015, 09:07 PM	#87
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,710 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Inflexible traditionalism. Doing things by the rules for the sake of the rules. Massive turn off. Basically, people who lack critical thinking skills and depend on rules of thumb instead. There are exceptions to everything. What are they? Why? Rigidity. I do like decisiveness, but people who make up their mind very quickly, without clear reasoning scare me. People who make decisions quickly, often change them very quickly without clear reasoning too. Without notice. Capriciousness. Believing absolutely in one thing one day, and emphatically going on about it, then when their emotions change, changing direction and dismissing their past opinion as just something they were going on about. I can't trust their enthusiasm or their will. It takes a long time for me to make a decision about bigger issues. But I won't go back and forth on something. I'll be very clear I haven't made my mind up, and it will be some time before I do. I want a lot more information before I: buy a flat, purchase a car, go on a six week holiday, get a pet, or get involved in a relationship with someone. So when I watch people rushing headlong into something, I watch just how long they stick with that decision before they say "meh, that wasn't for me." And walk away from it. Big fat clue that if they do that with other things, they will do that with me. I'd rather someone took their time and didn't make promises before they knew for certain what they wanted long term, not what they want now now now. Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 11-22-2015 at 09:09 PM.

11-23-2015, 12:04 PM	#92
giggleluver Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer femme, Mostly bottom, little Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, girl Relationship Status: Happy, single, polyamorous Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Pacific Northwest Posts: 62 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 93 Thanked 174 Times in 39 Posts Rep Power: 1718001	Hygiene, especially not washing your hands after you go to the bathroom, ewww __________________ Giggle *You can't buy happiness, but you can buy ice cream and that is pretty much the same thing.* Love is life. All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love. ~Leo Tolstoy

11-23-2015, 12:32 PM	#93
MysticOceansFL Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Preferred Pronoun?: People call me by my nic name. Relationship Status: Not Single, Not Desperate. Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 3,833 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,645 Thanked 4,033 Times in 1,720 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Yes , hygiene & smokers are a huge turn off for me. Among a few others. __________________ Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation. It is said, " Some lives are linked across time..... Connected by an ancient calling that echoes through the ages "......

07-13-2014, 06:56 PM	#83
AnAwkwardAccident Member How Do You Identify?: Trans* Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jun 2014 Location: Where the wild things are Posts: 190 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 123 Thanked 537 Times in 152 Posts Rep Power: 0	People that are self-centered and believe the world revolves around them. People that make other's struggles their 'own'. People that lie. People that think money makes the world go round.

10-20-2015, 05:02 PM	#84
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,549 Times in 14,914 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	Anyone who feels the need to be loud and obnoxious out in public! Being loud and drawing attention is the main thing that'll send me running for the hill!

10-21-2015, 05:37 PM	#85
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,315 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9408454	What do you mean?(not just a bieber song)..people who do not know how to make up their mind.First you wanna go,then you wanna stay..then you want to go left,then you want to go right(damn,it is that JB song)..I hate that! drives me crazy!!..how about this one,how about I leave your indecisive a** by the roadside. That'll work for me.

11-22-2015, 07:58 PM	#86
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,549 Times in 14,914 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	A loud drunk obnoxious woman!

11-22-2015, 09:08 PM	#88
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,710 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Are you running into shouty drunk people a lot, homoe?

11-22-2015, 10:59 PM	#91
Nattih Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: May 2010 Location: always on a plane Posts: 174 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 285 Thanked 633 Times in 164 Posts Rep Power: 13046651	elusiveness - I value someone who is direct about their intentions at all times being occupied - If they cant give me their undivided attention, I immediately want to walk away

11-23-2015, 03:48 PM	#94
Vincent Member How Do You Identify?: Transman Preferred Pronoun?: Him,he Relationship Status: just me Join Date: Apr 2015 Location: Tweed Heads Australia Posts: 427 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,204 Thanked 936 Times in 335 Posts Rep Power: 12178444	lack of manners,my Dad always said manners are free use them,and this includes how you speak and relate to others around you,if you think a homeless person is less than you,we just won't get on. being secretive,someone who getting information out of is like pulling teeth,I don't want to know your bank details but I think communicating is very important,and I mean a dialogue. This sounds judgemental,but believing Fox news is actually news,I just know I will drive you nuts. __________________ https://soundcloud.com/conormont https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kb1y2xyfYSw If Not Me-Who If Not Now-When If Not Here-Where

11-23-2015, 04:35 PM	#95
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: Fae Relationship Status: just for fun Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,399 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,604 Thanked 21,978 Times in 7,093 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	A person insists they never lie, but then you catch them in several A person who insists they are always right __________________ "We're nine meals from anarchy"" Lewis

11-23-2015, 08:07 PM	#96
storyspinner70 Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: VA Posts: 355 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,366 Thanked 987 Times in 289 Posts Rep Power: 8681947	An instant turn off/on for me is someone's voice You can look like Selma Hayek (my lifelong lust) or Monica Bellucci, Big Boo or even like Jensen Ackles (my man lust) but you sound like a squeaky toy or Nanny Fine, I just can't. Can't. Conversely, you're not the least bit "conventionally attractive" but you have a voice like roughened velvet or smooth like glass? I'm so there. That's like major for me. The other big one is if we just don't click intellectually or in our humor. Those are deal breakers. I value cleverness above almost everything else. __________________ So plant your own gardens and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. ― Jorge Luis Borges

11-23-2015, 11:55 PM	#98
job Junior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Join Date: Mar 2015 Location: Vegas area Posts: 47 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182 Thanked 159 Times in 35 Posts Rep Power: 644258	No matter how good someone looks, if they belittle someone else FOR NO REASON, it's a done deal. Not only will you be unattractive, I will also instantly dislike you as a person...and trip you when you walk by....just kidding. 😃