How romantic are you?

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Originally Posted by ForestGirl88

I tend to be overly practical. I clean the house, fix the faucet, make you a five course dinner and rock your body with things like drinking wine off your skin and letting you completely sit this one out (so to speak).

But......I have a very hard time talking about my feelings or being gushy and vulnerable. I should be butch, but I'm definately femme lol!

Absolutely romantic in the same way. Not fond of grand gestures, I find them embarrassing in a bad way and unpleasant. I throw up from stage fright so attracting a ton of attention is hideous to me.

I think it's romantic when someone makes me a cup of tea, fixes my bike, buys me a book I really want, takes me to see a lecture I've wanted to see, teases me /takes the piss, calls me semi-insulting terms of endearment, picks out shoes they'd like me to wear, ogles my boobs in the restaurant or park or supermarket, surprises me with a road trip to some place science geeky. Or surprises me with something very dark and pervy.

Flowers to me just mean "I've done something shitty and I'm trying to butter you up" and they just no longer have a pleasant link for me.

Like people doing things for me because they *know* me and know what I'd like. Not because "butches do _____ for femmes." Because it means they aren't paying attention to who I am, just my gender, and frankly it feels like I'm a number in a well trodden formula and I could be any femme, cause they did it for them too.

I prefer to tailor my romantic moves to the individual. My exwife loved me baking her favourite bread, picking her flowers and reading her to sleep. Another ex liked me wearing clothes she'd pick out for me, washing her hair and making roast lamb.

I'd prefer to do what others like. But I'm not good with words or being emotionally expressive. I'm good with humour and teasing endearments.