Butches: how do you like to be treated on a date?

NitroChrys_Butch · 01-12-2016, 06:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Angeltoes

Recently I had a butch tell me they felt like a 'loser' when I opened the door for them. I honestly wasn't trying to prove a point. I got to the door first, so I opened it and held it open. I'm totally out of practice and don't remember the 'rules' anymore. How do other butchers feel about the door thing?

I would be a gentleman and thank you. I am confident enough to let a woman open a door for Me. And even if I did feel annoyed about (not happening), I sure wouldn't tell her about it.

NitroChrys_Butch · 01-12-2016, 06:28 AM

Do you like being flirted with? Of course. It lets Me know she is into Me.
How much? I like My women classy.
How forward? If she decides that she needs to lace everything sexually or come on strong to get and keep My attention, she is wrong. Sometimes it is all in what she doesn't say that keeps My attention.
Do you prefer someone to go all out in their own way or do you prefer a girl that just is completely casual? I want her to be her. I don't want to wonder on a second date where that woman went. There was a reason I asked her on a date and if she feels like she has to "up her game" to keep Me interested, that never lasts for too long and then it jig is up. It also depends on the date. I will admit a first date might be a 4 star restaurant so I expect her to know how to behave there. OR it might be a picnic on the beach looking for sea glass. Bottom line: she should just be her. I wouldn't have asked her out if she was someone else.
Do you like to be asked out? I am confident enough to be flattered.
Do you like your arm being touched and leaning in or do you prefer to do all the work? I don't want to do all the "work" ... she should let Me know she is glad to be with Me. That calls for interaction and engaging Me in conversation and by her actions.
Do you like her to be agreeable or do you like her playful and sassy? Can I choose both?
How would she behave on a date that would pop your clogs? All depends on if I want My clogs popped. LOL. I have no idea what that means so I will need clarification.

Gemme · 01-12-2016, 06:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Angeltoes

True. I don't think a couple has to stick to their so-called roles to be romantic with each other.

This butch also likes to pull out my chair when we're going to eat and that's very sweet, but I think it may get old after awhile. Sometimes a girl just wants to pull out her own chair and sit down...

Given the initial post about the holding of the door, it sounds like this butch may be old school. If so, that's a part of them and is likely not going to change. If you don't like it or can't deal with it, then you need to have that discussion with them.

imperfect_cupcake · 01-12-2016, 09:34 AM

"Popped your clogs" means really "did it" for you.
For example, what does it for me, is people being confident enough to make a fool of themselves a little to make me laugh. That *really* charms me... Like my exwife when we first met picking up one of the heels I kicked at her in the kitchen of a house party and shoving her face in it, sniffing and acting virile after sniffing it. I couldn't help but burst out laughing. Then she put them on and pranced about the place posing for people.
I totally was sold on spending the rest of the entire night talking to her till 8am. She didn't mind me buying her a beer, she teased me till I grabbed the hat off her head and beat her off her chair with it.

Another ex to make me cheer up when I was sad, was top naked, wrapped up in cling film (her body mod of scarification on her stomach was healing, she had got it done that morning), popped on her motor cycle helmet, got on a chair in front of her huge painting of the moon and yelled "I'm a space man!" "Floating in space!" "Whooooooah!" Etc till I started giggling because it was so stupid. I started falling for her at that point.

That's what "pops my clogs" - being able to make fun of yourself, being able to be confident enough to be an idiot clown to make me smile... That softens me. Makes me do the "D'awwwws"

Is that clearer?

Or it means to die. LOL
I've seen it used as "to die for" or "to die"

TL1 · 01-12-2016, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

"Popped your clogs" means really "did it" for you.
For example, what does it for me, is people being confident enough to make a fool of themselves a little to make me laugh. That *really* charms me... Like my exwife when we first met picking up one of the heels I kicked at her in the kitchen of a house party and shoving her face in it, sniffing and acting virile after sniffing it. I couldn't help but burst out laughing. Then she put them on and pranced about the place posing for people.
I totally was sold on spending the rest of the entire night talking to her till 8am. She didn't mind me buying her a beer, she teased me till I grabbed the hat off her head and beat her off her chair with it.

Another ex to make me cheer up when I was sad, was top naked, wrapped up in cling film (her body mod of scarification on her stomach was healing, she had got it done that morning), popped on her motor cycle helmet, got on a chair in front of her huge painting of the moon and yelled "I'm a space man!" "Floating in space!" "Whooooooah!" Etc till I started giggling because it was so stupid. I started falling for her at that point.

That's what "pops my clogs" - being able to make fun of yourself, being able to be confident enough to be an idiot clown to make me smile... That softens me. Makes me do the "D'awwwws"

Is that clearer?

Or it means to die. LOL
I've seen it used as "to die for" or "to die"

Not my question I know but....

It is indeed clear to me now.

Ascot · 01-12-2016, 02:29 PM

Like the fascinating beast I am.

01-12-2016, 06:28 AM	#2
NitroChrys_Butch Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Cape May Point NJ Posts: 269 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 878 Thanked 703 Times in 199 Posts Rep Power: 3072718	Do you like being flirted with? Of course. It lets Me know she is into Me. How much? I like My women classy. How forward? If she decides that she needs to lace everything sexually or come on strong to get and keep My attention, she is wrong. Sometimes it is all in what she doesn't say that keeps My attention. Do you prefer someone to go all out in their own way or do you prefer a girl that just is completely casual? I want her to be her. I don't want to wonder on a second date where that woman went. There was a reason I asked her on a date and if she feels like she has to "up her game" to keep Me interested, that never lasts for too long and then it jig is up. It also depends on the date. I will admit a first date might be a 4 star restaurant so I expect her to know how to behave there. OR it might be a picnic on the beach looking for sea glass. Bottom line: she should just be her. I wouldn't have asked her out if she was someone else. Do you like to be asked out? I am confident enough to be flattered. Do you like your arm being touched and leaning in or do you prefer to do all the work? I don't want to do all the "work" ... she should let Me know she is glad to be with Me. That calls for interaction and engaging Me in conversation and by her actions. Do you like her to be agreeable or do you like her playful and sassy? Can I choose both? How would she behave on a date that would pop your clogs? All depends on if I want My clogs popped. LOL. I have no idea what that means so I will need clarification. __________________ “Hy who risks and fails can be forgiven. Hy who never risks and never fails is a failure in Hys whole being.”

01-12-2016, 09:34 AM	#4
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	"Popped your clogs" means really "did it" for you. For example, what does it for me, is people being confident enough to make a fool of themselves a little to make me laugh. That really charms me... Like my exwife when we first met picking up one of the heels I kicked at her in the kitchen of a house party and shoving her face in it, sniffing and acting virile after sniffing it. I couldn't help but burst out laughing. Then she put them on and pranced about the place posing for people. I totally was sold on spending the rest of the entire night talking to her till 8am. She didn't mind me buying her a beer, she teased me till I grabbed the hat off her head and beat her off her chair with it. Another ex to make me cheer up when I was sad, was top naked, wrapped up in cling film (her body mod of scarification on her stomach was healing, she had got it done that morning), popped on her motor cycle helmet, got on a chair in front of her huge painting of the moon and yelled "I'm a space man!" "Floating in space!" "Whooooooah!" Etc till I started giggling because it was so stupid. I started falling for her at that point. That's what "pops my clogs" - being able to make fun of yourself, being able to be confident enough to be an idiot clown to make me smile... That softens me. Makes me do the "D'awwwws" Is that clearer? Or it means to die. LOL I've seen it used as "to die for" or "to die" Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 01-12-2016 at 09:38 AM.

01-12-2016, 02:29 PM	#6
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