What "title" do you use for your SO? what do they use for you?

stephfromMIT · 08-15-2012, 02:41 PM

Amanda and I call each other fiancee. Once we marry, we'll both be "wife".

The_Lady_Snow · 08-15-2012, 03:04 PM

If people insisted on knowing our titles, they would be Master and slave.

starryeyes · 08-15-2012, 03:19 PM

Daddy first and babe in public. Ummm... Yeah. That's it. I call her other things too but she would KILL me if I posted them here. Lol.

She calls me baby girl, hunnie and beautiful or something to that effect.

:-)

aishah · 08-15-2012, 03:24 PM

i call c. husband. or sometimes husbandy. or sometimes partner. c. calls me wife, wifey, or baby girl. r. and i use partner or boyfriend/girlfriend.

LaneyDoll · 08-15-2012, 07:31 PM

Owner and pup for us.

In vanilla world, it is boyfriend/girlfriend. But, I also call him "baby" and "sweetheart."

When he is really good or I want to make him sink a little, I call him "Spartan." (He is very protective of me).

thedivahrrrself · 08-15-2012, 07:43 PM

I think "lover" describes us best.

And of course, I have all kinds of pet names I use that I won't be sharing here...

Bard · 08-15-2012, 08:00 PM

Desd is my wife my partner and my better half

princessbelle · 08-15-2012, 08:03 PM

Upon introduction, we use Partner.

In private,
Sir
Daddy

Loads of pet names...well this is the South, we do that a lot.

Depending on our moods and the ebb and flow.

ruffryder · 08-15-2012, 08:07 PM

she calls me papi, daddy, babe, amor. I call her babe, babygirl, beautiful every day!, amor. In public she is my girl, g/f, or partner.

nycfem · 08-15-2012, 08:32 PM

Note: I went a bit overboard with this post because I just couldn't stop myself.

BB calls me Jenny, Jennifer, and Jen. Fascinating, I know.

I call BB Cindy, Boston, Daddy, Boston Butch, and sometimes whatever name I feel like. My mom calls BB Cindola (Yiddish- we're both from Jewish families).

I refer to BB as my husbutch, my partner, my wife, my boifriend, or my girlfriend. BB refers to herself as my "opening act" because hy tends to arrive at events earlier than me.

For pronouns all feminine pronouns are for me, and BB goes by and I use for her either masculine or feminine pronouns. If I were living in a zanier world I'd love to use and have everyone use the "ze" pronoun for all of us.

I identify as lesbian or a bi dyke (this for me, means I have made the life choice from a young age to have relationships that are not with bio men). BB is not at all bi, IDs as lesbian, and also has secondary trans butch leanings as well. We both ID as feminists, and I ID as a bottom/sub/baby girl, and BB IDs as a top/dominant/Daddy. I ID as a masochist and BB is neither a masochist or a sadist. I have a poly nature, though I only flirt because this is our agreement, and we have a monogamous relationship. All of our varied sexual and gender identities somehow work for us because we've been happily in love for over seven years, and it just keeps getting better!

spritzerJ · 08-16-2012, 06:40 AM

I find what we call our SO's very interesting. I just adore Jennifer's post above. It reminds me of how delightfully layered our relationships can be.

In public or at work I use partner. Mostly because boifriend would not make sense to co workers and girlfriend isn't how Stoney would want to be called.

The General calls Stoney DJ and I call hym DJ most of the time with others.

When I am just talking to hym, or a few friends that get it, I use Jack. I use various terms of endearment (honey, sweetheart, sweetie). Daddi as often as possible.

We are approaching the phase in our relationship that involves scratching out words on forms and rewriting. I'll probably put partner or SO. We'll see how that goes.

Corkey · 08-16-2012, 01:04 PM

I have several Titles from her, but they are private. I call her by her name most often. On here she is Ami.

jac · 08-16-2012, 01:35 PM

I love when she calls me Jack, Honey, Syr, and Daddi... She is my Sweatheart, Beautiful, Doll and Babygirl.

When speaking of Spritz to others I refer to her as my girlfriend or Jenn.
I feel we are approaching the next level of our relationship and even though we have no intention of having a legalized marriage, wife and wifey are right there on the tip of my tongue when I speak of her.

And we have a couple others but nothing we need to put out there.... those are for "ear whispers"!!

RNguy · 08-16-2012, 03:12 PM

99.87340837 % of the time she calls me daddy
The other .0135234782 % she will say Blake and I know she is a littttttlllleee upset when I get called Blake .
I call her all kinds of goofy names that make no Sence to make her laugh and say stop making up words

DamonK · 08-16-2012, 03:23 PM

She is girl, girlfriend, partner.

He is boyfriend.

girl_dee · 08-16-2012, 10:06 PM

Leather titles are Master and slave

Everywhere else she is Syr and Daddi, and a few others that i won't be posting !

i am girl, the girl (my personal favorite), dee, little girl, babygirl, and a few others that i certainly won't be posting!

JDeere · 01-21-2016, 10:00 PM

I call her by her name, Babe, baby

She calls me by my name, babe, baby and other names in private

betruetoyoursoul · 01-22-2016, 12:49 AM

I have learned in my personal experience my ltp does not like to be called by their name...(I found that out fast*S)..So depending on who I am introducing my S.O. to , it will vary. This is my partner, Babe, Love, Sweetheart, my wild one, precious, my better half (I could go on and on lol)...Now when by ourselves and/or intimate then it becomes a bit more edgy*W* and personal* covered Cough* lol

For me: I am usually introduced by:She,Her,BabyGirl and more...

I have to say there are times when introducing we do introduce each other to people by our names...All depends on the situation....

Gayandgray · 01-23-2016, 06:31 PM

I call her by her name, or honey, or some special names in private. She calls me by my name or babe. When speaking to someone else I will refer to her as my spouse/partner, she refers to me as her wife.

gotoseagrl · 01-23-2016, 06:49 PM

I call her Daddy all the time and also my Partner (to others), my Love, and about 10 different Tigers - Sleepy Tiger, Silly Tiger, Sneaky Tiger, you get the idea. And she calls me baby, babygirl, sweetie or kitten.

08-15-2012, 02:41 PM	#1
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08-15-2012, 03:04 PM	#2
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,098 Times in 15,676 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	Snow or weatherboi If people insisted on knowing our titles, they would be Master and slave. __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden Last edited by The_Lady_Snow; 08-15-2012 at 03:16 PM. Reason: name

08-15-2012, 03:19 PM	#3
starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,052 Times in 2,076 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Daddy first and babe in public. Ummm... Yeah. That's it. I call her other things too but she would KILL me if I posted them here. Lol. She calls me baby girl, hunnie and beautiful or something to that effect. :-) __________________ "It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to fall down. Get up! Look sickening....and make them eat it!" - Latrice Royale Starry

08-15-2012, 07:31 PM	#5
LaneyDoll Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Girly girl femme Preferred Pronoun?: She; Ma'am; Miss ;) Relationship Status: Pitbull protected. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 2,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,892 Thanked 7,683 Times in 1,607 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Owner and pup for us. In vanilla world, it is boyfriend/girlfriend. But, I also call him "baby" and "sweetheart." When he is really good or I want to make him sink a little, I call him "Spartan." (He is very protective of me). __________________ There are beauties who stop traffic and then there are beauties who grow obsessively in the hearts of the susceptible.

08-15-2012, 07:43 PM	#6
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08-15-2012, 03:24 PM	#4
aishah Member How Do You Identify?: queer stone femme shark baby girl Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, little one Relationship Status: dating myself. Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: dallas, tx Posts: 1,495 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,823 Thanked 6,442 Times in 1,288 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	i call c. husband. or sometimes husbandy. or sometimes partner. c. calls me wife, wifey, or baby girl. r. and i use partner or boyfriend/girlfriend.

08-15-2012, 08:00 PM	#7
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08-15-2012, 08:03 PM	#8
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,499 Times in 5,201 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Upon introduction, we use Partner. In private, Sir Daddy Loads of pet names...well this is the South, we do that a lot. Depending on our moods and the ebb and flow. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

08-15-2012, 08:07 PM	#9
ruffryder Senior Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: guy ones Relationship Status: ... Join Date: May 2011 Location: chillin' in FL Posts: 3,690 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,951 Thanked 9,678 Times in 2,875 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	she calls me papi, daddy, babe, amor. I call her babe, babygirl, beautiful every day!, amor. In public she is my girl, g/f, or partner.

08-15-2012, 08:32 PM	#10
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,792 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,982 Thanked 21,599 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	nycfembbw and BBinNYC Note: I went a bit overboard with this post because I just couldn't stop myself. BB calls me Jenny, Jennifer, and Jen. Fascinating, I know. I call BB Cindy, Boston, Daddy, Boston Butch, and sometimes whatever name I feel like. My mom calls BB Cindola (Yiddish- we're both from Jewish families). I refer to BB as my husbutch, my partner, my wife, my boifriend, or my girlfriend. BB refers to herself as my "opening act" because hy tends to arrive at events earlier than me. For pronouns all feminine pronouns are for me, and BB goes by and I use for her either masculine or feminine pronouns. If I were living in a zanier world I'd love to use and have everyone use the "ze" pronoun for all of us. I identify as lesbian or a bi dyke (this for me, means I have made the life choice from a young age to have relationships that are not with bio men). BB is not at all bi, IDs as lesbian, and also has secondary trans butch leanings as well. We both ID as feminists, and I ID as a bottom/sub/baby girl, and BB IDs as a top/dominant/Daddy. I ID as a masochist and BB is neither a masochist or a sadist. I have a poly nature, though I only flirt because this is our agreement, and we have a monogamous relationship. All of our varied sexual and gender identities somehow work for us because we've been happily in love for over seven years, and it just keeps getting better! Last edited by nycfem; 08-15-2012 at 08:39 PM.

08-16-2012, 06:40 AM	#11
spritzerJ Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: Queer (gender), female (biological marker) Preferred Pronoun?: she will work as a default. Relationship Status: engaged to jac until 8/10/14 Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Maine Posts: 3,154 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,307 Thanked 15,802 Times in 2,905 Posts Rep Power: 0	I find what we call our SO's very interesting. I just adore Jennifer's post above. It reminds me of how delightfully layered our relationships can be. In public or at work I use partner. Mostly because boifriend would not make sense to co workers and girlfriend isn't how Stoney would want to be called. The General calls Stoney DJ and I call hym DJ most of the time with others. When I am just talking to hym, or a few friends that get it, I use Jack. I use various terms of endearment (honey, sweetheart, sweetie). Daddi as often as possible. We are approaching the phase in our relationship that involves scratching out words on forms and rewriting. I'll probably put partner or SO. We'll see how that goes.

08-16-2012, 01:04 PM	#12
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,274 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I have several Titles from her, but they are private. I call her by her name most often. On here she is Ami. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

08-16-2012, 01:35 PM	#13
jac Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: butch stone Preferred Pronoun?: masculine ones work best... Relationship Status: ♥ engaged to spritz ♥ Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: bangor, maine Posts: 3,344 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,720 Thanked 16,492 Times in 2,972 Posts Rep Power: 0	I love when she calls me Jack, Honey, Syr, and Daddi... She is my Sweatheart, Beautiful, Doll and Babygirl. When speaking of Spritz to others I refer to her as my girlfriend or Jenn. I feel we are approaching the next level of our relationship and even though we have no intention of having a legalized marriage, wife and wifey are right there on the tip of my tongue when I speak of her. And we have a couple others but nothing we need to put out there.... those are for "ear whispers"!!

08-16-2012, 03:12 PM	#14
RNguy Member How Do You Identify?: trans Preferred Pronoun?: He preferredably :) Relationship Status: the pitbull <€ Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Birmingham, Alabama Posts: 1,058 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,473 Thanked 2,266 Times in 510 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	haha 99.87340837 % of the time she calls me daddy The other .0135234782 % she will say Blake and I know she is a littttttlllleee upset when I get called Blake . I call her all kinds of goofy names that make no Sence to make her laugh and say stop making up words

08-16-2012, 03:23 PM	#15
DamonK Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Preferred Pronoun?: . Relationship Status: . Join Date: May 2010 Location: . Posts: 2,199 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,527 Thanked 7,762 Times in 1,881 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	She is girl, girlfriend, partner. He is boyfriend.

08-16-2012, 10:06 PM	#16
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,862 Times in 13,915 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Leather titles are Master and slave Everywhere else she is Syr and Daddi, and a few others that i won't be posting ! i am girl, the girl (my personal favorite), dee, little girl, babygirl, and a few others that i certainly won't be posting!

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JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,845 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	I call her by her name, Babe, baby She calls me by my name, babe, baby and other names in private

01-22-2016, 12:49 AM	#18
betruetoyoursoul Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She,Her,BabyGirl Relationship Status: On a Beautiful Journey regardless if I am single or coupled! Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Southern California Posts: 1,564 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,942 Thanked 2,397 Times in 1,093 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I have learned in my personal experience my ltp does not like to be called by their name...(I found that out fastS)..So depending on who I am introducing my S.O. to , it will vary. This is my partner, Babe, Love, Sweetheart, my wild one, precious, my better half (I could go on and on lol)...Now when by ourselves and/or intimate then it becomes a bit more edgyW* and personal* covered Cough* lol For me: I am usually introduced by:She,Her,BabyGirl and more... I have to say there are times when introducing we do introduce each other to people by our names...All depends on the situation.... __________________

01-23-2016, 06:31 PM	#19
Gayandgray Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme-ish, tomboy lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Together a really long time Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: In my mind? On a tropical island Posts: 4,860 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,584 Thanked 12,881 Times in 3,078 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I call her by her name, or honey, or some special names in private. She calls me by my name or babe. When speaking to someone else I will refer to her as my spouse/partner, she refers to me as her wife. __________________

01-23-2016, 06:49 PM	#20
gotoseagrl Senior Member How Do You Identify?: old-fashioned queer stone submissive girl Preferred Pronoun?: mermaid, very lucky babygirl Relationship Status: Saltwater mermaid ♡ Join Date: May 2010 Location: CA Posts: 2,209 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,192 Thanked 6,104 Times in 1,726 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I call her Daddy all the time and also my Partner (to others), my Love, and about 10 different Tigers - Sleepy Tiger, Silly Tiger, Sneaky Tiger, you get the idea. And she calls me baby, babygirl, sweetie or kitten. __________________ Be still when you have nothing to say; when genuine passion moves you, say what you've got to say, and say it hot. D. H. Lawrence