Femmes: How do you like to be treated on a date?

meridiantoo · 09-11-2016, 05:51 PM

I really don't trust grand gestures on first dates, or the first few dates...I've learned the more grandiose the gesture, the more empty it is...my idea of a perfect date is someone who is casual, yet respectful, not entitled or assuming, but hopeful...someone who can enjoy getting to know each other through an uneventful activity. I love when they want to know me, not just me sexually. I love when they don't mention exes or want to know about my past as if I'm under investigation. I love for things to build, gradually.

imperfect_cupcake · 09-13-2016, 11:18 PM

Treat me like you would any regular non-romantic person you are getting to know. Be yourself. If that means you don't swear, are very polite, are extra careful with your language - showing a depth of feelings and sympathy and seriousness to show what a sensative person you are... I'm going to be strung as tight as a trip wire trying to not offend you and go home with relief and not want another date.

If you are casual, swear, tell irreverent jokes/quips/banter, tease me to watch my face light up and laugh, use sarcasm, don't take life so very very seriously, keep it lighter, I will want another date.

kittygrrl · 09-15-2016, 07:49 AM

Gemme · 09-16-2016, 05:14 AM

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Originally Posted by kittygrrl

Wow.

That's a lot of pressure to put on another human being.

I'd be happy with clear and present respect and some good conversation.

09-11-2016, 05:51 PM	#1
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09-15-2016, 07:49 AM	#3
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: Fae Relationship Status: just for fun Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,432 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,626 Thanked 21,999 Times in 7,108 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	make me feel like this- __________________ "We're nine meals from anarchy"" Lewis

09-13-2016, 11:18 PM	#2
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Treat me like you would any regular non-romantic person you are getting to know. Be yourself. If that means you don't swear, are very polite, are extra careful with your language - showing a depth of feelings and sympathy and seriousness to show what a sensative person you are... I'm going to be strung as tight as a trip wire trying to not offend you and go home with relief and not want another date. If you are casual, swear, tell irreverent jokes/quips/banter, tease me to watch my face light up and laugh, use sarcasm, don't take life so very very seriously, keep it lighter, I will want another date.