Butch Pronouns - A Questionaire

[Bard]

Ok I use hy most of the time I am stone butch and it just fits but I try to not be offended if called something other.it doen't have to define me I know who I am and and am pretty happy just being that

Originally Posted by Nat

I have spent much of yesterday and today reading and re-reading the "Men with boobs" thread, and the use of default butch pronouns is one of many themes involved in that discussion.

I'm going to attach a poll, but there is not a poll that can cover every person's experience, thoughts, etc. So, in addition to the poll, I'm going to put a more inclusive questionaire below.

What I would like to do is ask anybody who participates in this thread to first fill out and post the questionaire - before addressing another person's answers to the questionaire.

If a question definitely does not apply to you, please write "N/A"

The Butch Pronoun Questionaire

1. How do you identify? Stone Butch

2a. What is your preferred pronoun (when referencing yourself)? Hy

2b. Do you feel like your preferred pronoun fits you perfectly? in some ways I am a female id butch but the male side is much stronger

2c. Did you have another or other preferred pronouns in the past? nope

3a. Does your preferred pronoun vary depending on setting? NA

3b. If so, can you please explain why and how?

4. How important is it to you that people use your preferred pronoun? it really is not

5a. If somebody refers to you by the pronoun, "he," and this is not your preferred pronoun, how do/would you feel? it does not really bother me they most likely don't know me

5b. How do/would you react? I don't

6a. If somebody refers to you by the pronoun, "she," and this is not your preferred pronoun, how do/would you feel? see above

6b. How do/would you react?

7a. If somebody refers to you by the pronoun, "hy," and this is not your preferred pronoun, how do/would you feel?

7b. How do/would you react?

8a. If somebody refers to you by the pronoun, "zie," and this is not your preferred pronoun, how do/would you feel? OK this i think would bug me

8b. How do/would you react? would ask what the heck and correct them

9a. When speaking of a specific butch, do you strive to ensure you are using that person's preferred pronoun? it is the proper thing to do

9b. If not, why not?

9c. If not, what do you see as the possible effects for that butch and others in the community?

10a. Do you associate different traits with different butch pronouns? yeah can not explain but yes

10b. Do you feel that different pronouns clue you in about how a butch may look, think, feel, dress, act, talk, walk, fuck, bond? it can but I don't want to judge

10c. Do you associate different ideologies, alliances or belief systems with different butch pronouns?no

11a. If you are referring to a butch, and you have not had the opportunity to find out what that person's preferred pronoun is, do you use a default pronoun? I try not to I don't wish to accidently offend

11b. If so, which pronoun do you use and why?

11c. If not, what do you do instead?

11d. Would you advocate a community-wide standard in this case? If so, what would it be and why?

12a. If you are referring to a hypothetical butch, do you use a default pronoun?

12b. If so, which pronoun do you use and why?

12c. If not, what do you do instead?

12d. Would you advocate a community-wide standard in this case? If so, what would it be and why?

13a. Do you tend to partner with butches who use a certain pronoun more often than others?

13b. If so, what pronoun?

13c. If so, can you share your thoughts about why this may be?

14a. Are there times when you have been corrected for using an incorrect pronoun for a butch?

14b. If so, how did you feel about it and how did it influence you?

15. Do you have any other thoughts regarding the use of butch pronouns?

16. If you could add a question to this questionaire, what would it be?