Phone and Text Etiquette - Your Opinion?

[*Anya*]

Great topic Medusa! OK, here goes more truths:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment?

I don't like it and don't generally respond unless I am dressed and my hair is looking good!

Does it depend on who's doing it?
I tend to answer if it is one of my daughters but I have been known to not respond.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?
I leave my phone off at work. I don't have the kind of job that I can answer the phone in the middle of a group or individual session with a client. If I am alone and doing paperwork or notes and if I hear the vibration, I will answer it but it is rare.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not? I actually like texting but I can't do long texts. I have had carpal tunnel and my hand and fingers get fatigued if I text too much. It is easier on my iPad but with my iPhone, it is really difficult for me.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering? I actually have never had anyone do this to me. I don't know anyone that would do this. I would be totally irritated if it did happen.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?
The call would simply go to voice mail. The text, would sit there until the event was finished. Vacation? I have been known to answer it if it was family or a good friend.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?
if it is an emergency-any time. Just to chat, not before 9:00AM or after 9:00PM.

How do you feel about group texting?
If it is about a get together or social event or family crisis-it makes perfect sense. As a regular thing, I don't like it.

Overall, I really don't like talking on the phone for long. After a couple of minutes, I am ready to get off. It used to bug the hell out of my recent ex before we moved in together. She could talk and talk on the phone and just never understood why I really didn't like it. Honestly, it was because she talked and I listened. That gets old really fast for me.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Medusa

I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

I don't face time but I prefer to have something set up in advance because my schedule rarely matches someone else's.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

I'm usually not available to talk during my work day so I just don't answer. My cell is always on vibrate anyway.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

Not really. Too much is lost in translation and lack of body language and facial expressions.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

Stalker much? I'd feel a restraining order coming on.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

If they know about these things and I've not expressed interest in talking during that time frame, then they go to voicemail. If they don't know that I'm otherwise occupied, they go to voicemail.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

That depends on their personal schedule. What may be too early or late for me might be fine for them. I work during the day so super late or super early texting would not put you on my good side.

How do you feel about group texting?

I don't really do it but I've heard horror stories about personal drama coming out by accident because one doesn't know or realize that they are texting the group.

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!

Basically phone etiquette is similar. Don't call someone if you think it might not be appropriate and if you really don't have any times that you would consider inappropriate to call or text then you're 'that' person in the group and that's why some of your calls go to voicemail and some texts are just not answered. Use common sense, be respectful and limit any potentially disruptive psychosis.