Breaking it down - describe the Femme that you are

The_Lady_Snow · 05-30-2010, 09:59 PM

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Daddy.....

JustJo · 05-31-2010, 08:43 AM

I am the femme still discovering myself...learning that the person I have always been is truly just fine...even with my many contradictions.

I am quiet and frequently shy...but laugh loud enough to be heard down the block, and am happy to talk on stage in front of hundreds.

I am analytical and intelligent...but scattered and sometimes struggle with the simplest things.

I am a doting and indulgent mother who puts my son's well-being first in all things. I am the almost-stepmom who looks forward to putting my partner's son in the same place in my life and heart.

I am loving, accomodating, taking care of those I care about.

I have infinite patience with the young, the old, the sick, and those who are doing their best....no matter how little that may be. I have no patience at all with stupidity, cruelty, hypocrisy, arrogance and posers.

I have an incredibly long fuse and am very slow to anger...the bomb at the end, however, is large. You don't want to let it get there.

I endure. Growing up in a narcissistic household I was taught that I did not matter, that my needs didn't count, and that my purpose was only to provide for others. I have learned that these are lies. That took time...and some difficult experiences. I had to sit at the bottom looking up to see the truth.

With most people, I trust quickly but not deeply. I truly trust two people on this earth...and am not related by blood to either of them.

I take people at face value and give them the benefit of the doubt...until they prove otherwise. Once someone shows me that I cannot trust them...then I am done. I have a long memory...for both kindness and cruelty.

I love peace, compromise, quiet and order.

I have a silly side...which I indulge. I turn 8 years old the minute I walk through the gates at DisneyWorld. I like that.

I love the beach more than any other place on the planet. I enjoy simple things...going for a drive, flea markets, going to the movies, bbq in the backyard.

I love to travel...and look forward to exploring more of the world with my partner.

I cook, bake, love polka dots and kitten heels...I am Betty Crocker with an MBA.

I am affectionate...I love to hug, kiss, dance barefoot in the kitchen.

I work hard, but not fast...and I achieve my goals. I am persistent. I am stubborn, opinionated, pushy and...if you read this far you already know...I'm wordy.

tantalizingfemme · 05-31-2010, 02:00 PM

FemMe

I am:
Long painted finger nails, manicured toes
Make-up every day, hair always done
Dresses and heels
Jewelry and hair clips
Hair product whore
Skin product aficionado
Feminine

I am:
Independent
Loving single mother for 16 years
Fierce protector
Soccer mom
Taxi cab
ATM machine
Maker of school lunches
Homework checker
Unpaid maid
Example

I am:
Loyal, hard-working employee
Bill payer
Homeowner
Repair person
Gardner
Wanna-be coupon queen

I am:
Lover of beautiful home decorating
Lacking of any ability or desire to decorate
Fashion conscious
Not a shopper
Careful with money
Prone to blowing a lot on a good haircut

I am:
A loving partner
Submissive
Domestic
A cook
Care taker
Stone

I am:
Loyal to those I love
Caring
Outspoken
Love unconditionally
Trusting
Trustworthy
Confident

I am:
Proud to be me

Strappie · 05-31-2010, 05:19 PM

The power of a Femme is simply amazing!

Ladies... all I can say is this thread is AMAZING! Thank you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and your soul.

oblivia · 06-03-2010, 12:16 AM

I am...

A little girl femme: Carefree and truly adoring of rainbows... butterflies... rainbows... pink... unicorns... and eating lucky charms for breakfast at work much to the dismay of my special-k and kashi-crunching coworkers.

A professional femme: A would-be workaholic intent on maintaining work-life balance and mostly succeeding, an office mouse and not a corporate climber. I'm most content in the guts of the business, working the business not watching it and have no interest in stepping into middle (or upper) management.

A pagan femme: My spiritual path lies mostly on the shores of Avalon with my like-minded Sisters but it also is on my Yoga mat and in dharma and meditation and a good old fashioned full moon circle.

A believer femme: I believe. I believe in people, I believe in the people I love. I believe in things that people tell me I shouldn't believe in - like Unicorns and fairies and dragons and true love. I'm not afraid to believe. I've been hurt like crazy for believing, and I will never stop.

A kinky femme: I am a submissive and a masochist but my masochism is never really just physical, there is always an emotional link or need or connection with the experience. I have had transformative experiences on the cross or over a bench or up on a rack and I continue to have transformative experiences every time I dive deeper into my submission and commitment to my Owner (who is also my Wife).

A shy femme: I'm an online socializer and am shy or timid (or ridiculously babbly and unfocused) in person. It's hard for me to make friends in person because I feel awkward and I trust people too easily and am too invested in their opinion of me. I am raw and real and this makes me vulnerable. But I am authentic and so the friendships I do make are genuine ones.

A romantic femme: I know I am a walking stereotype in some ways. I like to be the nurturer and the cook and the homemaker and the child-rearer and the white-picket fence gazer. I love old fashioned chivalry. I love romantic gestures. I'm that girl that swoons over hand picked daisies and a surprise picnic and thinks romance isn't about money but about heartfelt gestures that make me feel appreciated. I thrive on finding ways to let my one and only know how appreciated and adored she is as well, and this is part of the romantic thrill for me.

A mothering femme: Parenting is a part of my identity now, because it has - in so many ways - changed my outlook on life, my priorities, and my ability to deal with life and to accept responsibility for myself, my actions, and their consequences. Being a parent to these boys (young men now) has been and is one of the most rewarding things about my life.

A questioning, seeking femme: I'm always learning, growing, evolving and becoming. I fit best with others who are also on this path. Being on a growth path/journey in this life can be challenging... and it can be hard to make friends and then lose them as your paths go different directions or one moves on while the other has to stay a while. Growing hurts, but it's worth it.

A silly femme: no explanation required.

Puplove · 06-03-2010, 01:50 AM

I am my own self, who I know I am and who I love.
I do not fit into the traditional girly girl, I do not fit into an andro description - I am myself.
Very femme in that I love my feminine self, sparkles, glitter, dresses etc.
Very myself in that I recognize that I love all the feminine things but do not love to take the trouble to wear them.
I am comfortable in myself, my non-made-up self, in jammies or torn up shorts and tshirt. And I don't have to wear dresses or makeup to be recognized as a professional, strong career woman.
But I love to be dressed up and made up and feeling very lovely and fancy. (but I look and feel weird in makeup)

I love the power of myself, knowing I can manage and rock my own life, from career, leadership, finances and owning my own home -- and am strong enough to let the right butch in to be a partner in my life, helping, contributing and creating a shared life.
I am learning the power of handing over some of that power and control and letting myself depend on another, even though I don't NEED him - but I WANT him.
I am also learning the depth of my traditional girl as I plan a wedding and discover how deeply rooted my love of all of those little girl Barbie dreams are, even though I never recognized them before. I used to scoff at them - now I recognize the joy and power of them and embrace them.

I am powerful and I own myself in my own femme-ness. I make myself more powerful by allowing my butch to have a role in my life and sharing some of the power with him as my partner.

And I am very silly. And smart. And funny. And good at math. And a hater extraordinaire.

blue33 · 08-31-2010, 06:44 AM

I just wanted to thank all of you sweet, passionate,intelligent femmes for opening your hearts and sharing what makes you the unique individuals you are! My heart beats strongly for all of you and I wish you the nothing but the best life has to offer, you deserve it and then some......cheers to all of you that make our warm butch hearts beat endlessly.....Thank you!

Lady Pamela · 09-07-2010, 03:41 PM

This is such an incredible thread..I had to bounce it so others who haven't seen it, will know it is here.

I just re-read every single one and I do believe I am standing a bit straighter with pride..lol

I think it is wonderful to see so many write here without hesitation and in honesty..thank you all.

05-30-2010, 09:59 PM	#1
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,080 Times in 15,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	I AM Daddy..... __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

05-31-2010, 08:43 AM	#2
JustJo Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: pushy broad Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Follow your heart; it knows things your mind cannot explain. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Southeast corner Posts: 5,633 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,417 Thanked 25,406 Times in 4,660 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I am the femme still discovering myself...learning that the person I have always been is truly just fine...even with my many contradictions. I am quiet and frequently shy...but laugh loud enough to be heard down the block, and am happy to talk on stage in front of hundreds. I am analytical and intelligent...but scattered and sometimes struggle with the simplest things. I am a doting and indulgent mother who puts my son's well-being first in all things. I am the almost-stepmom who looks forward to putting my partner's son in the same place in my life and heart. I am loving, accomodating, taking care of those I care about. I have infinite patience with the young, the old, the sick, and those who are doing their best....no matter how little that may be. I have no patience at all with stupidity, cruelty, hypocrisy, arrogance and posers. I have an incredibly long fuse and am very slow to anger...the bomb at the end, however, is large. You don't want to let it get there. I endure. Growing up in a narcissistic household I was taught that I did not matter, that my needs didn't count, and that my purpose was only to provide for others. I have learned that these are lies. That took time...and some difficult experiences. I had to sit at the bottom looking up to see the truth. With most people, I trust quickly but not deeply. I truly trust two people on this earth...and am not related by blood to either of them. I take people at face value and give them the benefit of the doubt...until they prove otherwise. Once someone shows me that I cannot trust them...then I am done. I have a long memory...for both kindness and cruelty. I love peace, compromise, quiet and order. I have a silly side...which I indulge. I turn 8 years old the minute I walk through the gates at DisneyWorld. I like that. I love the beach more than any other place on the planet. I enjoy simple things...going for a drive, flea markets, going to the movies, bbq in the backyard. I love to travel...and look forward to exploring more of the world with my partner. I cook, bake, love polka dots and kitten heels...I am Betty Crocker with an MBA. I am affectionate...I love to hug, kiss, dance barefoot in the kitchen. I work hard, but not fast...and I achieve my goals. I am persistent. I am stubborn, opinionated, pushy and...if you read this far you already know...I'm wordy. __________________ I'm not tall enough to ride emotional roller coasters

06-03-2010, 01:50 AM	#6
Puplove Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Austin TX Posts: 904 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 879 Thanked 3,215 Times in 705 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I am my own self, who I know I am and who I love. I do not fit into the traditional girly girl, I do not fit into an andro description - I am myself. Very femme in that I love my feminine self, sparkles, glitter, dresses etc. Very myself in that I recognize that I love all the feminine things but do not love to take the trouble to wear them. I am comfortable in myself, my non-made-up self, in jammies or torn up shorts and tshirt. And I don't have to wear dresses or makeup to be recognized as a professional, strong career woman. But I love to be dressed up and made up and feeling very lovely and fancy. (but I look and feel weird in makeup) I love the power of myself, knowing I can manage and rock my own life, from career, leadership, finances and owning my own home -- and am strong enough to let the right butch in to be a partner in my life, helping, contributing and creating a shared life. I am learning the power of handing over some of that power and control and letting myself depend on another, even though I don't NEED him - but I WANT him. I am also learning the depth of my traditional girl as I plan a wedding and discover how deeply rooted my love of all of those little girl Barbie dreams are, even though I never recognized them before. I used to scoff at them - now I recognize the joy and power of them and embrace them. I am powerful and I own myself in my own femme-ness. I make myself more powerful by allowing my butch to have a role in my life and sharing some of the power with him as my partner. And I am very silly. And smart. And funny. And good at math. And a hater extraordinaire. __________________ Alice laughed: "There's no use trying," she said; "one can't believe impossible things." "I daresay you haven't had much practice," said the Queen. "...Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast."

09-07-2010, 03:41 PM	#8
Lady Pamela Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A Lady..Femme..Free Spirit with a touch of survivalist woman in me. Preferred Pronoun?: Spiritual Warrior..She Ra..Baby Doll, or anything close..ha! Relationship Status: In perfect love and perfect trust I believe that will be directed..for now Just friends in my life. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Live in Utah but take trips to Arkansas. Plan to move there eventually. Posts: 2,579 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,073 Thanked 5,940 Times in 1,609 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	bouncing this thread..so everyone sees it..smiles This is such an incredible thread..I had to bounce it so others who haven't seen it, will know it is here. I just re-read every single one and I do believe I am standing a bit straighter with pride..lol I think it is wonderful to see so many write here without hesitation and in honesty..thank you all. __________________ Believe what people show you the first time. It will keep you in balance, and will show you truth! ~~ Author unknown ~~ When negative thoughts come to mind, Let them die stillborn. Speak and do posotive in any situation, And watch your dreams grow and flurish. If you can't say anything posotive, Zip it up. Do not give birth to that which you do not want to see grow. See it, Believe it, Own it, Have it! ~~ Lady Pamela ~~

05-31-2010, 02:00 PM	#3
tantalizingfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: * Posts: 4,184 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,957 Thanked 3,984 Times in 822 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	FemMe I am: Long painted finger nails, manicured toes Make-up every day, hair always done Dresses and heels Jewelry and hair clips Hair product whore Skin product aficionado Feminine I am: Independent Loving single mother for 16 years Fierce protector Soccer mom Taxi cab ATM machine Maker of school lunches Homework checker Unpaid maid Example I am: Loyal, hard-working employee Bill payer Homeowner Repair person Gardner Wanna-be coupon queen I am: Lover of beautiful home decorating Lacking of any ability or desire to decorate Fashion conscious Not a shopper Careful with money Prone to blowing a lot on a good haircut I am: A loving partner Submissive Domestic A cook Care taker Stone I am: Loyal to those I love Caring Outspoken Love unconditionally Trusting Trustworthy Confident I am: Proud to be me

05-31-2010, 05:19 PM	#4
Strappie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: I know who I am... Doesn't matter Relationship Status: It's a new day.... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Mpls, MN Posts: 3,283 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,813 Thanked 4,945 Times in 1,350 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	The power of a Femme is simply amazing! Ladies... all I can say is this thread is AMAZING! Thank you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and your soul.

06-03-2010, 12:16 AM	#5
oblivia Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: Married, treasured, and adored Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 472 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,582 Thanked 1,430 Times in 359 Posts Rep Power: 0	I am... A little girl femme: Carefree and truly adoring of rainbows... butterflies... rainbows... pink... unicorns... and eating lucky charms for breakfast at work much to the dismay of my special-k and kashi-crunching coworkers. A professional femme: A would-be workaholic intent on maintaining work-life balance and mostly succeeding, an office mouse and not a corporate climber. I'm most content in the guts of the business, working the business not watching it and have no interest in stepping into middle (or upper) management. A pagan femme: My spiritual path lies mostly on the shores of Avalon with my like-minded Sisters but it also is on my Yoga mat and in dharma and meditation and a good old fashioned full moon circle. A believer femme: I believe. I believe in people, I believe in the people I love. I believe in things that people tell me I shouldn't believe in - like Unicorns and fairies and dragons and true love. I'm not afraid to believe. I've been hurt like crazy for believing, and I will never stop. A kinky femme: I am a submissive and a masochist but my masochism is never really just physical, there is always an emotional link or need or connection with the experience. I have had transformative experiences on the cross or over a bench or up on a rack and I continue to have transformative experiences every time I dive deeper into my submission and commitment to my Owner (who is also my Wife). A shy femme: I'm an online socializer and am shy or timid (or ridiculously babbly and unfocused) in person. It's hard for me to make friends in person because I feel awkward and I trust people too easily and am too invested in their opinion of me. I am raw and real and this makes me vulnerable. But I am authentic and so the friendships I do make are genuine ones. A romantic femme: I know I am a walking stereotype in some ways. I like to be the nurturer and the cook and the homemaker and the child-rearer and the white-picket fence gazer. I love old fashioned chivalry. I love romantic gestures. I'm that girl that swoons over hand picked daisies and a surprise picnic and thinks romance isn't about money but about heartfelt gestures that make me feel appreciated. I thrive on finding ways to let my one and only know how appreciated and adored she is as well, and this is part of the romantic thrill for me. A mothering femme: Parenting is a part of my identity now, because it has - in so many ways - changed my outlook on life, my priorities, and my ability to deal with life and to accept responsibility for myself, my actions, and their consequences. Being a parent to these boys (young men now) has been and is one of the most rewarding things about my life. A questioning, seeking femme: I'm always learning, growing, evolving and becoming. I fit best with others who are also on this path. Being on a growth path/journey in this life can be challenging... and it can be hard to make friends and then lose them as your paths go different directions or one moves on while the other has to stay a while. Growing hurts, but it's worth it. A silly femme: no explanation required.

08-31-2010, 06:44 AM	#7
blue33 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: soft butch Relationship Status: single Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: canada for now Posts: 30 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8 Thanked 27 Times in 8 Posts Rep Power: 81	I just wanted to thank all of you sweet, passionate,intelligent femmes for opening your hearts and sharing what makes you the unique individuals you are! My heart beats strongly for all of you and I wish you the nothing but the best life has to offer, you deserve it and then some......cheers to all of you that make our warm butch hearts beat endlessly.....Thank you!