How Do You Self-Identify...and why.

indigo · 12-11-2017, 07:29 PM

"queer femme" resonates best with my self-awareness, exploration and life experiences so far.

charley · 01-10-2018, 07:51 AM

Yes, this is an interesting thread.
As this is a site where sexual preferences are discussed openly, my sexual orientation and that of others on this site are given an opportunity to be owned up to - and, this very fact allows for openness and transparency and something which is not something that I would be inclined to announce verbally to others in real life, apart from many being aware that I am - in their words - “gay/homosexual/lesbian”.
So, I have always had a masculine psyche; I am a soft butch, and have always related better to soft femmes.
Having said that and because of all the meditation I have done, would have say that I have "become" gentler verbally, and less blunt, and am now able to relate verbally to all kinds of people, basically because I no longer seem to have any more psychological (emotional) reactions - such as anger, etc. I like being this way.
To those on this site, "How do I identify?" ... soft butch, female.
When I hear a straight man use the expression, "I am a man!", it gives me the sense that he feels that just because he is biologically male, it gives him some entitlements, some privileges - which in themselves, are the basis of all the sexism and misogyny in this patriarchal world. Hence, calling myself "a woman" would be in my opinion feeding the drama of that very problem that we all live with.
Biologically speaking, it is a fact that I am female, and as far as I am concerned, that is not a belief. And, as I am more interested in facts rather than beliefs, anything else would fall into the realm of ideas about facts, rather than facts per se.
Fortunately, in Canada, people can now opt out of gender identification on their passports by placing an "x" there, signifying a gender-neutral position (joining countries such as Australia, Denmark, Germany, Malta, New Zealand, Pakistan, India, Ireland and Nepal that provide various third-options).
To myself, "How do I identify?" ... human being

akiza · 01-10-2018, 09:37 AM

nice one ^^ how do i identify? asked years before i'ld have said lesbian easy ^^ with the time i've breathed in phase with femme or i do said fem lesbian at times ^^ it's just right to me hard to explain but right ^^

Clyde · 01-10-2018, 10:52 AM

A simple and complex topic

I identify as a Queer Butch, though lately I have also embraced the term "non-binary", which I think is very apt for me.

JDeere · 02-07-2018, 08:23 PM

Male Ided Butch. Pretty simple except people don't really get it.

Signmypapyrus · 03-07-2018, 08:25 AM

Queer femme.

AmazonDC · 03-07-2018, 09:46 AM

Queer Stone Daddy.. and all that applies

01-10-2018, 10:52 AM	#4
Clyde Member How Do You Identify?: Mr. Queer Butch. Preferred Pronoun?: He/They. Relationship Status: Butchelor. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland. Posts: 256 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 320 Thanked 700 Times in 195 Posts Rep Power: 11912191	A simple and complex topic I identify as a Queer Butch, though lately I have also embraced the term "non-binary", which I think is very apt for me. __________________ Find a reason to be happy right now.

03-07-2018, 08:25 AM	#6
Signmypapyrus Junior Member How Do You Identify?: * Preferred Pronoun?: * Join Date: Mar 2018 Location: * Posts: 66 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 59 Thanked 181 Times in 53 Posts Rep Power: 1675671	Queer femme. __________________ “(I)f we are going to be kind, let it be out of simple generosity, not because we fear guilt or retribution.” --from Disgrace by JM Coetzee

12-11-2017, 07:29 PM	#1
indigo Junior Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme-like Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2017 Location: Germany Posts: 68 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 41 Thanked 184 Times in 58 Posts Rep Power: 859004	"queer femme" resonates best with my self-awareness, exploration and life experiences so far.

01-10-2018, 07:51 AM	#2
charley Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: gentle stonebutch [vanilla] Relationship Status: single Join Date: Dec 2017 Location: canada Posts: 497 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 906 Thanked 1,204 Times in 422 Posts Rep Power: 0	Yes, this is an interesting thread. As this is a site where sexual preferences are discussed openly, my sexual orientation and that of others on this site are given an opportunity to be owned up to - and, this very fact allows for openness and transparency and something which is not something that I would be inclined to announce verbally to others in real life, apart from many being aware that I am - in their words - “gay/homosexual/lesbian”. So, I have always had a masculine psyche; I am a soft butch, and have always related better to soft femmes. Having said that and because of all the meditation I have done, would have say that I have "become" gentler verbally, and less blunt, and am now able to relate verbally to all kinds of people, basically because I no longer seem to have any more psychological (emotional) reactions - such as anger, etc. I like being this way. To those on this site, "How do I identify?" ... soft butch, female. When I hear a straight man use the expression, "I am a man!", it gives me the sense that he feels that just because he is biologically male, it gives him some entitlements, some privileges - which in themselves, are the basis of all the sexism and misogyny in this patriarchal world. Hence, calling myself "a woman" would be in my opinion feeding the drama of that very problem that we all live with. Biologically speaking, it is a fact that I am female, and as far as I am concerned, that is not a belief. And, as I am more interested in facts rather than beliefs, anything else would fall into the realm of ideas about facts, rather than facts per se. Fortunately, in Canada, people can now opt out of gender identification on their passports by placing an "x" there, signifying a gender-neutral position (joining countries such as Australia, Denmark, Germany, Malta, New Zealand, Pakistan, India, Ireland and Nepal that provide various third-options). To myself, "How do I identify?" ... human being

01-10-2018, 09:37 AM	#3
akiza Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: khaleessi lol ^-^ just go with aki,ana,kit or princess Relationship Status: single Join Date: May 2017 Location: Congo-brazzaville Posts: 774 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 318 Thanked 623 Times in 285 Posts Rep Power: 0	nice one ^^ how do i identify? asked years before i'ld have said lesbian easy ^^ with the time i've breathed in phase with femme or i do said fem lesbian at times ^^ it's just right to me hard to explain but right ^^

02-07-2018, 08:23 PM	#5
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Male Ided Butch. Pretty simple except people don't really get it.

03-07-2018, 09:46 AM	#7
AmazonDC Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: DC Join Date: Nov 2015 Location: colorado Posts: 499 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 346 Thanked 1,485 Times in 430 Posts Rep Power: 13453159	Queer Stone Daddy.. and all that applies