What do people think about speed dating?

[FireSignFemme]

Originally Posted by homoe

Has anyone else ever either heard or attended one of these events?

No but I did try speed dating once. Well I don't know that it was speed dating proper, like they used to show on television but I did do, if not that, something simillar. For me it wasn't a pleasant experience. First there was the possible, potential stranger danger factor. Not liking it - people coming unknown/not recommended by trustworthy, reliable sources. We had to give our real names and what if afterwards some kook followed me, stalked us. The alley we'd went down to get there wasn't very comforting at all. Like this would be nice, safe, fun place, full of non-creepy people, we were headed to. But having a friend with me gave me courage. It turned out it was a mostly male/female heterosexual, maybe bisexual thing going on. I didn't see any butch lesbians, at least not any obvious ones. There was one woman who told me she was butch and only there dressed femme because her friends had convinced her she'd have better luck finding a match to date if she toned it down some, tried dressing more femme. She pulled off her wig to prove it to me but come on she was there in a wig and a dress with makeup on, attempting to try and deceive people. I certainly wasn't going to take her at her word. No to truly determine it, that would require closer inspection, from a distance, with binoculars. Just because well if she was a butch, pretending to be femme, who's to say she wasn't a man pretending to be a butch lesbian, or a serial killer pretending to be some Dudley Do-Rite. Not that there's anything wrong with being a man or femme or a Good Samaritan it's just - be yourself because there is nothing attractive or even remotely interesting about a consummate liar. I don't know, maybe it would have been a different experience in a honest environment. But on the other hand if I haven't felt a compelling need to try it again, in over a quarter of a century, well I think that right there is very telling, speaks a lot about how miserable I found the whole experience.

[Greco]

Never...never will "speed" date...doesn't fit with "savoring"...in other words, getting to know a femme woman who deserves more than 5 mins...Greco

[PlatinumPearl]

I haven't tried speed dating but I think I would just to see what it's like.

I wouldn't need a lot of time to know if I vibe with someone. I just need a couple of minutes to know if there's enough interest, curiosity and commonalities to build on.

[akiza]

hum i suppose it's a nice concept but it's a nope for me i'll need a little time to learn about the other so no

[Clyde]

Sounds a tad overwhelming.

[Jesse]

Sounds like I would need to bring my running shoes and workout apparel.

[Kätzchen]

I'd most likely never do 'speed dating'.

I look at it this way: people have countless ways to get to know another person. In our everyday lives, we work with others at work or casually meet people while shopping for groceries or while waiting in line at the post office or while driving in traffic or riding public transit (etc). I view each set of instances as an way to get to know others. It takes time, for me, to really know someone.

Hence, why I think speed dating is more like some over the top way to know someone. Again, it's not my first choice in trying to know someone better.