Cancer Support and Caregivers Who Are Trail Blazers!

rustedrims · 03-27-2018, 02:36 PM

I am home now with my cats. It feels good. I get my MRI on the 16th to check things out in my head. I feel ok and getting a few things cleaned up around here. I left Moms on my own. She just wouldn't let up. I couldnt even put the blanket on the bed right. Had enough. When I was there she took very good care of me and I was very comfortable. I believe I over stayed my welcome. She also had a very hard time seeing me with that stuff and not being well. I do love my Mom very much. Its just been hard on all of us. I could eat as much as 3 horses and now I am eating barely enough to keep a mouse alive. Getting better with my appetite. 17 hits of radiation doesn't help either. Seeing the Dr. on the 20th to look at the MRI pictures. As long as things look good I am going to ask for 2 more weeks off then back to work. If things don't work out at work I will be able to retire comfortably. I want to work another year to teach that cancer that it didn't win. I did !

My heart goes out to us all. We will fight the fight and win !
Thank you for reading and caring the way you all do.

Sheila

Chained Daisy · 03-29-2018, 07:38 AM

Hi Wrangler,

That`s tough your Mom wasn't able to complete her chemo just yet, I`m sure you are both waiting for the treatment to be done with, yes, chemo is indeed a bitch.

As I read your post it I was reminded just how that conflict of emotions feels, having a Mom who rewards, care, concern and devotion with cruel words and thinks they are entitled to say anything they wish regardless of the hurt inflicted, I have been there so often. When you have had a similar relationship with a parent you understand just how that feels.

It sounds like she is very blessed to have you around, in her life and caring for her. Remember you are entitled to feel hurt and want some breathing space from her when she behaves this way, I`m telling you that as I wish I had told myself that more often years ago !

So here`s hoping she can get the last round of chemo soon, the scan results bring what is hoped for and that her pain eases too.

Stay strong and know you and your Mom are sent positive thoughts for brighter days.

Daisy

Gayandgray · 03-29-2018, 09:27 AM

My spouse’s oldest daughter who lives in Indiana had told us she has liver cancer. We were waiting for all her tests to come back. Today she called and said it’s stage 4 and they are giving her maybe a year. My spouse is heartbroken and is not taking this well at all. Her daughter and her husband are flying out here a week after Easter to see us all one last time. I feel so helpless.

Chained Daisy · 03-29-2018, 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Gayandgray

My spouse’s oldest daughter who lives in Indiana had told us she has liver cancer. We were waiting for all her tests to come back. Today she called and said it’s stage 4 and they are giving her maybe a year. My spouse is heartbroken and is not taking this well at all. Her daughter and her husband are flying out here a week after Easter to see us all one last time. I feel so helpless.

I am so sorry to hear this, the worst news.

Thoughts are with all of you, life can be so cruel.

easygoingfemme · 03-29-2018, 03:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Gayandgray

My spouse’s oldest daughter who lives in Indiana had told us she has liver cancer. We were waiting for all her tests to come back. Today she called and said it’s stage 4 and they are giving her maybe a year. My spouse is heartbroken and is not taking this well at all. Her daughter and her husband are flying out here a week after Easter to see us all one last time. I feel so helpless.

I am so very sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to your whole family...

Wrang1er · 04-10-2018, 12:55 PM

Mom got her CT scan today. We'll know next Tuesday if the cancer is gone. If it's gone I will be throwing her a "Kicked Cancer's Ass" party!

clay · 04-10-2018, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Wrang1er

Mom got her CT scan today. We'll know next Tuesday if the cancer is gone. If it's gone I will be throwing her a "Kicked Cancer's Ass" party!

Sending you both gentle hugs & positive energies for an "all clean" report! Know you are in my thoughts always my friend!

Wrang1er · 04-10-2018, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by clay

Sending you both gentle hugs & positive energies for an "all clean" report! Know you are in my thoughts always my friend!

Thank you, Clay. It is much appreciated. Everyone here has been super supportive.

Chained Daisy · 03-29-2018, 11:35 AM

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Originally Posted by rustedrims

I am home now with my cats. It feels good. I get my MRI on the 16th to check things out in my head. I feel ok and getting a few things cleaned up around here. I left Moms on my own. She just wouldn't let up. I couldnt even put the blanket on the bed right. Had enough. When I was there she took very good care of me and I was very comfortable. I believe I over stayed my welcome. She also had a very hard time seeing me with that stuff and not being well. I do love my Mom very much. Its just been hard on all of us. I could eat as much as 3 horses and now I am eating barely enough to keep a mouse alive. Getting better with my appetite. 17 hits of radiation doesn't help either. Seeing the Dr. on the 20th to look at the MRI pictures. As long as things look good I am going to ask for 2 more weeks off then back to work. If things don't work out at work I will be able to retire comfortably. I want to work another year to teach that cancer that it didn't win. I did !

My heart goes out to us all. We will fight the fight and win !
Thank you for reading and caring the way you all do.

Sheila

Hi Shelia, Home with my cats is my favourite place to be ! Hoping your appetite comes back and you can build your strength to get back to work, I get how you feel you want to be able to return. Wishing you gentle days,

Daisy

rustedrims · 09-09-2018, 10:54 AM

Well been through hell and back. Tough part over and back to work a few weeks now. I want to hopefully get 1 more year then retire. Working gets my brain firing and that is what I need now. Doing what the doctors told me to do. Feeling better and I still have a long way to go. Thank you all for your support and you all know you have mine. I love you all very much.. Rustedrims Sheila

easygoingfemme · 03-29-2018, 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by rustedrims

I am home now with my cats. It feels good. I get my MRI on the 16th to check things out in my head. I feel ok and getting a few things cleaned up around here. I left Moms on my own. She just wouldn't let up. I couldnt even put the blanket on the bed right. Had enough. When I was there she took very good care of me and I was very comfortable. I believe I over stayed my welcome. She also had a very hard time seeing me with that stuff and not being well. I do love my Mom very much. Its just been hard on all of us. I could eat as much as 3 horses and now I am eating barely enough to keep a mouse alive. Getting better with my appetite. 17 hits of radiation doesn't help either. Seeing the Dr. on the 20th to look at the MRI pictures. As long as things look good I am going to ask for 2 more weeks off then back to work. If things don't work out at work I will be able to retire comfortably. I want to work another year to teach that cancer that it didn't win. I did !

My heart goes out to us all. We will fight the fight and win !
Thank you for reading and caring the way you all do.

Sheila

I'm glad you're home. That radiation buildup can be hard. When I was in it it was even harder than chemo sometimes and the lasting effects on my skin and muscle in the area that was hit is permanently changed. Hoping for a quick easy MRI, positive results, and a smooth transition back into your new normal.

rustedrims · 09-25-2018, 02:08 PM

I am doing real good and back at work. Things are going well at work and remembering my job. I am glad I am back. It is my therapy and gets my brain a cracking and snapping. Forget about the surgery the thing is I haven't worked in 9 months. Feels good to get out and feel like I did something with the day. My hair is growing back. It looks a little lighter and baby soft. I love being home with my kitties. One of the sisters wont leave me alone. I was gone a long time. January is my reality of what I deal with every day. Getting my MRI and CT scan. The six month check on things. The last check nothing bad showed up. A good feeling. Sometimes I am still afraid to go to sleep. I still get scared. Sheila

easygoingfemme · 10-16-2018, 03:33 PM

Had my annual bloodwork today. Almost three years since finishing chemo/radiation/surgery madness. My lord the anxiety leading up to those appointments. Anyway, I got a perfect all clear, better than what they usually even see in the perfect realm of blood work. Celebrating. That appointment was weighing hard on me. There's been so much disturbing in the world and I was supposed to go last week but it turned out I had to bury my cousin that day and reschedule. The anxiety just built and built while I waited for a reschedule. Thankfully someone cancelled. Otherwise I'd have had to wait for the next appointment in December. Not cool. Celebrate with me tonight!

girl_dee · 10-16-2018, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by easygoingfemme

Had my annual bloodwork today. Almost three years since finishing chemo/radiation/surgery madness. My lord the anxiety leading up to those appointments. Anyway, I got a perfect all clear, better than what they usually even see in the perfect realm of blood work. Celebrating. That appointment was weighing hard on me. There's been so much disturbing in the world and I was supposed to go last week but it turned out I had to bury my cousin that day and reschedule. The anxiety just built and built while I waited for a reschedule. Thankfully someone cancelled. Otherwise I'd have had to wait for the next appointment in December. Not cool. Celebrate with me tonight!

I am so happy to hear this!!!! Definitely celebrating with you!

clay · 10-17-2018, 07:50 AM

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Originally Posted by easygoingfemme

Had my annual bloodwork today. Almost three years since finishing chemo/radiation/surgery madness. My lord the anxiety leading up to those appointments. Anyway, I got a perfect all clear, better than what they usually even see in the perfect realm of blood work. Celebrating. That appointment was weighing hard on me. There's been so much disturbing in the world and I was supposed to go last week but it turned out I had to bury my cousin that day and reschedule. The anxiety just built and built while I waited for a reschedule. Thankfully someone cancelled. Otherwise I'd have had to wait for the next appointment in December. Not cool. Celebrate with me tonight!

This is AWESOME!!!!! Congratulations, my friend!!

Chained Daisy · 10-17-2018, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by easygoingfemme

Had my annual bloodwork today. Almost three years since finishing chemo/radiation/surgery madness. My lord the anxiety leading up to those appointments. Anyway, I got a perfect all clear, better than what they usually even see in the perfect realm of blood work. Celebrating. That appointment was weighing hard on me. There's been so much disturbing in the world and I was supposed to go last week but it turned out I had to bury my cousin that day and reschedule. The anxiety just built and built while I waited for a reschedule. Thankfully someone cancelled. Otherwise I'd have had to wait for the next appointment in December. Not cool. Celebrate with me tonight!

I am so glad for you, I can imagine your relief, its great news !

rustedrims · 11-04-2018, 09:47 PM

I am doing good and feeling stronger. The first of January I go in for a MRI and CT scan. Gotta get checked out for my 6 months. I know my friends mean well but I just hate to hear them say Hey good luck with your MRI. I am not going to Vegas or racing in the Kentucky Derby. I am getting my head checked to see if there is any cancer. Have been getting good scans. I pray for everyone in here to feel good and get better. We all gotta fight the fight together.

Teddybear · 11-05-2018, 02:11 PM

Tomorrow I go in to have my medi-port put in.

Hopefully soon after that we will start treatment no matter what it is.

Every have a cancer free day or as close to it as possible

03-27-2018, 02:36 PM	#1
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 444 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,123 Thanked 2,553 Times in 367 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I am home now with my cats. It feels good. I get my MRI on the 16th to check things out in my head. I feel ok and getting a few things cleaned up around here. I left Moms on my own. She just wouldn't let up. I couldnt even put the blanket on the bed right. Had enough. When I was there she took very good care of me and I was very comfortable. I believe I over stayed my welcome. She also had a very hard time seeing me with that stuff and not being well. I do love my Mom very much. Its just been hard on all of us. I could eat as much as 3 horses and now I am eating barely enough to keep a mouse alive. Getting better with my appetite. 17 hits of radiation doesn't help either. Seeing the Dr. on the 20th to look at the MRI pictures. As long as things look good I am going to ask for 2 more weeks off then back to work. If things don't work out at work I will be able to retire comfortably. I want to work another year to teach that cancer that it didn't win. I did ! My heart goes out to us all. We will fight the fight and win ! Thank you for reading and caring the way you all do. Sheila __________________ I don't want to be perfect because if I was then I will loose the ability to learn.

03-29-2018, 07:38 AM	#2
Chained Daisy Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: May 2017 Location: Usually underneath a cat Posts: 827 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,673 Thanked 1,811 Times in 531 Posts Rep Power: 21474845	Hi Wrangler, That`s tough your Mom wasn't able to complete her chemo just yet, I`m sure you are both waiting for the treatment to be done with, yes, chemo is indeed a bitch. As I read your post it I was reminded just how that conflict of emotions feels, having a Mom who rewards, care, concern and devotion with cruel words and thinks they are entitled to say anything they wish regardless of the hurt inflicted, I have been there so often. When you have had a similar relationship with a parent you understand just how that feels. It sounds like she is very blessed to have you around, in her life and caring for her. Remember you are entitled to feel hurt and want some breathing space from her when she behaves this way, I`m telling you that as I wish I had told myself that more often years ago ! So here`s hoping she can get the last round of chemo soon, the scan results bring what is hoped for and that her pain eases too. Stay strong and know you and your Mom are sent positive thoughts for brighter days. Daisy __________________ Formerly known as Daisy Chain I am half agony, half hope, Jane Austen

03-29-2018, 09:27 AM	#3
Gayandgray Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme-ish, tomboy lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Together a really long time Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: In my mind? On a tropical island Posts: 4,862 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,584 Thanked 12,881 Times in 3,081 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	My spouse’s oldest daughter who lives in Indiana had told us she has liver cancer. We were waiting for all her tests to come back. Today she called and said it’s stage 4 and they are giving her maybe a year. My spouse is heartbroken and is not taking this well at all. Her daughter and her husband are flying out here a week after Easter to see us all one last time. I feel so helpless. __________________

09-09-2018, 10:54 AM	#10
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 444 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,123 Thanked 2,553 Times in 367 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	hello everyone Well been through hell and back. Tough part over and back to work a few weeks now. I want to hopefully get 1 more year then retire. Working gets my brain firing and that is what I need now. Doing what the doctors told me to do. Feeling better and I still have a long way to go. Thank you all for your support and you all know you have mine. I love you all very much.. Rustedrims Sheila __________________ I don't want to be perfect because if I was then I will loose the ability to learn.

09-25-2018, 02:08 PM	#12
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 444 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,123 Thanked 2,553 Times in 367 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I am doing real good and back at work. Things are going well at work and remembering my job. I am glad I am back. It is my therapy and gets my brain a cracking and snapping. Forget about the surgery the thing is I haven't worked in 9 months. Feels good to get out and feel like I did something with the day. My hair is growing back. It looks a little lighter and baby soft. I love being home with my kitties. One of the sisters wont leave me alone. I was gone a long time. January is my reality of what I deal with every day. Getting my MRI and CT scan. The six month check on things. The last check nothing bad showed up. A good feeling. Sometimes I am still afraid to go to sleep. I still get scared. Sheila __________________ I don't want to be perfect because if I was then I will loose the ability to learn.

04-10-2018, 12:55 PM	#6
Wrang1er Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me, myself and I Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Here Posts: 1,526 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,112 Thanked 7,043 Times in 1,354 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Mom got her CT scan today. We'll know next Tuesday if the cancer is gone. If it's gone I will be throwing her a "Kicked Cancer's Ass" party!

10-16-2018, 03:33 PM	#13
easygoingfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Lil' Miss Sassy Pants Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: My place by the river Posts: 3,692 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,023 Thanked 14,973 Times in 3,318 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Had my annual bloodwork today. Almost three years since finishing chemo/radiation/surgery madness. My lord the anxiety leading up to those appointments. Anyway, I got a perfect all clear, better than what they usually even see in the perfect realm of blood work. Celebrating. That appointment was weighing hard on me. There's been so much disturbing in the world and I was supposed to go last week but it turned out I had to bury my cousin that day and reschedule. The anxiety just built and built while I waited for a reschedule. Thankfully someone cancelled. Otherwise I'd have had to wait for the next appointment in December. Not cool. Celebrate with me tonight!

11-04-2018, 09:47 PM	#17
rustedrims Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ohio close to Lake Erie and ice-cream places Posts: 444 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,123 Thanked 2,553 Times in 367 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I am doing good and feeling stronger. The first of January I go in for a MRI and CT scan. Gotta get checked out for my 6 months. I know my friends mean well but I just hate to hear them say Hey good luck with your MRI. I am not going to Vegas or racing in the Kentucky Derby. I am getting my head checked to see if there is any cancer. Have been getting good scans. I pray for everyone in here to feel good and get better. We all gotta fight the fight together. __________________ I don't want to be perfect because if I was then I will loose the ability to learn.

11-05-2018, 02:11 PM	#18
Teddybear Senior Member How Do You Identify?: by my name Preferred Pronoun?: He, him Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Here there everywhere. Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,620 Thanked 6,233 Times in 1,687 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Tomorrow I go in to have my medi-port put in. Hopefully soon after that we will start treatment no matter what it is. Every have a cancer free day or as close to it as possible __________________ I am ME take me as I am or leave me be..