Significant Age Gaps in Relationships

Gemme · 04-16-2018, 07:40 AM

I tend to gravitate towards older partners and, for me, that has worked better than partnering with younger folks. I've been in a couple of serious relationships with younger folks with a 6-7 year age gap and neither has worked for me for a variety of reasons but I think people that are older than me are thinking about longevity and companionship and what it takes to function through the day to day minutiae of life and that's very appealing to me.

Kätzchen · 04-16-2018, 09:30 AM

I think sometimes that age differences might play an role in the longevity of any type of relationship. The best relationships I've ever enjoyed? I've noticed we were close in age (within a couple of years age difference).

I've also had partners who were ten or more years older than me. As far as dating or marital types of an relationship, I actually think the closer we are in age works best for me.

TL1 · 04-16-2018, 11:23 AM

I’ve always been attracted to older. A good ten years or more. I wouldn’t not date someone my age and I have... just going from past experiences and what has worked best.

kittygrrl · 04-16-2018, 11:45 AM

i think being in the same age range works better for the vast majority of people..in my own experience, it's just nice to have in common, the same history or point in time with someone who was also there..history, common interests, lifestyles all play a part...i don't need to relive my youth, burn the candle at both ends nor do i need the cosmic energy from drama to fill the gaps..there are much better things to love

Gayandgray · 04-17-2018, 04:27 PM

My butch spouse is 75 and I’ll be 49 in a couple months. Big age difference (26yrs) but it’s always worked for us all these years. Actually it comes in handy now because if I was her age I might not be able to lift her wheelchair in and out of the car, get her in and out of the shower, etc. Plus I have always been attracted to older women and wouldn’t want someone my own age.

candy_coated_bitch · 04-17-2018, 07:26 PM

My most significant age difference was 17 years. That was maybe four or five years ago. The age wasn't really a problem, we clicked on an emotional and intellectual levels. The only time it was noticeable was when he talked about certain music or TV shows I didn't know because I wasn't born yet to be familiar with them, but we'd just laugh about it.

When I was in my 20's I typically dated folks about ten years older. I've dated someone my own age once. I don't think I could date someone 17 years younger I hate to say. Friendship wise I can bond with folks in their 20's but I'd prefer not to partner with them. No offense!

Right now my partner is nine years older and I don't know that it feels like a "significant" age difference. We mesh well together on pretty much every level. But there is a culture gap with certain tv, movie, and music things. And again we just laugh. No big thing.

MsTinkerbelly · 04-17-2018, 10:32 PM

Kasey is 9 years older than I am, which is pretty typical of most of my romantic relationships. My ex-husband was the same age as I was, so it is not like I can’t date within my age group, but I prefer older.

Absolutely could not date younger.

04-16-2018, 07:40 AM	#1
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04-16-2018, 09:30 AM	#2
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: May 2010 Location: Sharing my life with my granddaughter, family & friends. ツ Posts: 16,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,540 Thanked 33,581 Times in 10,687 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	My thoughts, my experience (personal observation) I think sometimes that age differences might play an role in the longevity of any type of relationship. The best relationships I've ever enjoyed? I've noticed we were close in age (within a couple of years age difference). I've also had partners who were ten or more years older than me. As far as dating or marital types of an relationship, I actually think the closer we are in age works best for me.

04-16-2018, 11:23 AM	#3
TL1 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch of stone Join Date: Dec 2015 Location: East coast Posts: 2,892 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,111 Thanked 3,455 Times in 1,007 Posts Rep Power: 21474848	I’ve always been attracted to older. A good ten years or more. I wouldn’t not date someone my age and I have... just going from past experiences and what has worked best. __________________ "Our bodies were printed as blank pages to be filled with the ink of our hearts”

04-16-2018, 11:45 AM	#4
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: Fae Relationship Status: sipping on honey wine Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,516 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,661 Thanked 22,084 Times in 7,162 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	i think being in the same age range works better for the vast majority of people..in my own experience, it's just nice to have in common, the same history or point in time with someone who was also there..history, common interests, lifestyles all play a part...i don't need to relive my youth, burn the candle at both ends nor do i need the cosmic energy from drama to fill the gaps..there are much better things to love __________________ "We're nine meals from anarchy"" Lewis

04-17-2018, 04:27 PM	#5
Gayandgray Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme-ish, tomboy lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Together a really long time Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: In my mind? On a tropical island Posts: 4,862 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,584 Thanked 12,886 Times in 3,081 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	My butch spouse is 75 and I’ll be 49 in a couple months. Big age difference (26yrs) but it’s always worked for us all these years. Actually it comes in handy now because if I was her age I might not be able to lift her wheelchair in and out of the car, get her in and out of the shower, etc. Plus I have always been attracted to older women and wouldn’t want someone my own age. __________________

04-17-2018, 07:26 PM	#6
candy_coated_bitch Pixie Stick How Do You Identify?: The arteest formerly known as musicfemme. Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Happily taken. Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Northampton, MA Posts: 11,293 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,723 Thanked 31,824 Times in 6,109 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	My most significant age difference was 17 years. That was maybe four or five years ago. The age wasn't really a problem, we clicked on an emotional and intellectual levels. The only time it was noticeable was when he talked about certain music or TV shows I didn't know because I wasn't born yet to be familiar with them, but we'd just laugh about it. When I was in my 20's I typically dated folks about ten years older. I've dated someone my own age once. I don't think I could date someone 17 years younger I hate to say. Friendship wise I can bond with folks in their 20's but I'd prefer not to partner with them. No offense! Right now my partner is nine years older and I don't know that it feels like a "significant" age difference. We mesh well together on pretty much every level. But there is a culture gap with certain tv, movie, and music things. And again we just laugh. No big thing. __________________ My Etsy Shop My Patreon My Website

04-17-2018, 10:32 PM	#7
MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,906 Times in 5,017 Posts Rep Power: 0	Kasey is 9 years older than I am, which is pretty typical of most of my romantic relationships. My ex-husband was the same age as I was, so it is not like I can’t date within my age group, but I prefer older. Absolutely could not date younger.