Significant Age Gaps in Relationships

candy_coated_bitch · 04-17-2018, 07:26 PM

My most significant age difference was 17 years. That was maybe four or five years ago. The age wasn't really a problem, we clicked on an emotional and intellectual levels. The only time it was noticeable was when he talked about certain music or TV shows I didn't know because I wasn't born yet to be familiar with them, but we'd just laugh about it.

When I was in my 20's I typically dated folks about ten years older. I've dated someone my own age once. I don't think I could date someone 17 years younger I hate to say. Friendship wise I can bond with folks in their 20's but I'd prefer not to partner with them. No offense!

Right now my partner is nine years older and I don't know that it feels like a "significant" age difference. We mesh well together on pretty much every level. But there is a culture gap with certain tv, movie, and music things. And again we just laugh. No big thing.

MsTinkerbelly · 04-17-2018, 10:32 PM

Kasey is 9 years older than I am, which is pretty typical of most of my romantic relationships. My ex-husband was the same age as I was, so it is not like I can’t date within my age group, but I prefer older.

Absolutely could not date younger.

Chained Daisy · 04-18-2018, 05:57 AM

In my last LTR my butch was 8 years older, previous one we were around the same age. I am usually drawn to older butches/FTM`s. I have never been in a relationship with any one younger and could never have imagined that happening.

Ultimately though love makes the world go around and age is just a number

Signmypapyrus · 04-18-2018, 03:56 PM

I prefer older women and the few I have gone on dates with have been older. I mean, at least ten years older, if not more. I imagine when I eventually want a relationship I’ll end up with someone older.

I think it makes sense in queer or same sex relationships.

introverted1 · 04-22-2018, 02:34 PM

Since my mid-30s, I usually end up with people who are five to six years younger than me. I realize that is not a huge age gap.

Whoever can communicate well and keep up with me on the hiking trail is ideal.

introverted1 · 04-22-2018, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by introverted1

Since my mid-30s, I usually end up with people who are five to six years younger than me. I realize that is not a huge age gap.

Whoever can communicate well and keep up with me on the hiking trail is ideal.

You know, I'm going to add a qualifier to that last line... I have been with people who could not keep up with me very well on the hiking trail, but I was just so darned grateful that they were out there with me at all. I love to be outside.

AllFemme · 04-26-2018, 07:12 PM

I briefly dated a butch who was 20 years older than me. It was nothing but a great experience. I like a butch at any adult age, but have always had a thing for older butches.

Tuff Stuff · 09-07-2018, 09:50 PM

Older women have always been my thing. But as I am ageing,five or less years younger than me works,but nothing under forty years.

Nothing wrong with younger ladies,just how I feel about it.

C0LLETTE · 09-07-2018, 10:09 PM

I can see the benefit of a gf 50 years younger than me as long as she can afford to pay for a therapist.

JDeere · 09-08-2018, 01:17 AM

Mines still the same!

Esme nha Maire · 04-26-2018, 10:34 PM

My one lesbian relationship was with a woman 11 years my junior, and the age difference didn't matter a damn, despite my being in my early 30's and her being in her early twenties, so the percentage difference in age was huge.

I think it depends on the personalities involved. I wouldn't rule out dating someone in their twenties, so long as they were reasonably mature and there weren't any other problems (hey, I don't have the energy I once did!). And I certainly wouldn't rule out someone older! That said, in some respects I'm under-mature for my age, and look younger than I am, whilst being rather more decrepit than most would expect due to various medical oddities.

My ideal is someone a bit more grounded than me, and better able to cope with those aspects of the world I find problematic, with integrity and a good sense of humour. Given those - I'm not too concerned about their age, so long as they are over 20!

Bèsame* · 04-29-2018, 11:08 AM

Please don't look like a child I could of had , or look like my father..

I just could not kiss that age difference.

But, I've almost always have been the tallest one !

DapperButch · 04-29-2018, 12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Bèsame*

Please don't look like a child I could of had , or look like my father..

I just could not kiss that age difference.

But, I've almost always have been the tallest one !

haha how tall are you?

Bèsame* · 04-29-2018, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

haha how tall are you?

ALMOST always...
Its refreshing to find my height, or even close to it. ...😉

04-17-2018, 07:26 PM	#1
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introverted1 Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: Jun 2016 Location: introville Posts: 250 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 422 Thanked 740 Times in 212 Posts Rep Power: 7058202	Since my mid-30s, I usually end up with people who are five to six years younger than me. I realize that is not a huge age gap. Whoever can communicate well and keep up with me on the hiking trail is ideal.

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