Significant Age Gaps in Relationships

MsTinkerbelly · 04-17-2018, 10:32 PM

Kasey is 9 years older than I am, which is pretty typical of most of my romantic relationships. My ex-husband was the same age as I was, so it is not like I can’t date within my age group, but I prefer older.

Absolutely could not date younger.

Chained Daisy · 04-18-2018, 05:57 AM

In my last LTR my butch was 8 years older, previous one we were around the same age. I am usually drawn to older butches/FTM`s. I have never been in a relationship with any one younger and could never have imagined that happening.

Ultimately though love makes the world go around and age is just a number

Signmypapyrus · 04-18-2018, 03:56 PM

I prefer older women and the few I have gone on dates with have been older. I mean, at least ten years older, if not more. I imagine when I eventually want a relationship I’ll end up with someone older.

I think it makes sense in queer or same sex relationships.

introverted1 · 04-22-2018, 02:34 PM

Since my mid-30s, I usually end up with people who are five to six years younger than me. I realize that is not a huge age gap.

Whoever can communicate well and keep up with me on the hiking trail is ideal.

introverted1 · 04-22-2018, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by introverted1

Since my mid-30s, I usually end up with people who are five to six years younger than me. I realize that is not a huge age gap.

Whoever can communicate well and keep up with me on the hiking trail is ideal.

You know, I'm going to add a qualifier to that last line... I have been with people who could not keep up with me very well on the hiking trail, but I was just so darned grateful that they were out there with me at all. I love to be outside.

AllFemme · 04-26-2018, 07:12 PM

I briefly dated a butch who was 20 years older than me. It was nothing but a great experience. I like a butch at any adult age, but have always had a thing for older butches.

SaltyButch · 04-26-2018, 07:46 PM

I've had a tendency to date younger women mostly because some my age act way too old....and I am very young at heart. I have experienced the comments "oh you are a dirty old butch"...why should I be perceived like that when men have been doing it for ages.

An age gap is not the gap to worry about, if we can relate, understand and enjoy life with each other what's wrong with that. There may be some life experience that we can't relate to, but I assure you that some younger women have experienced more than I ever will.

So if she doesn't know a show called The Brady Bunch I'm okay with that as long as we both respect, care for and love each other isn't that all that really matters.

Tuff Stuff · 09-07-2018, 09:50 PM

Older women have always been my thing. But as I am ageing,five or less years younger than me works,but nothing under forty years.

Nothing wrong with younger ladies,just how I feel about it.

C0LLETTE · 09-07-2018, 10:09 PM

I can see the benefit of a gf 50 years younger than me as long as she can afford to pay for a therapist.

JDeere · 09-08-2018, 01:17 AM

Mines still the same!

CherylNYC · 09-08-2018, 09:41 AM

A 23 year old tried to pick me up at a bar a few months ago! I'm not making this up. I'm more than three decades older than she was. NO! I mean, HELL no.

I formerly dated women who were significantly older, but now the energy difference between elders and myself is usually, (but not always), just too large. I'm super-active and very fit. If I ever decide to date again it would ideally be a woman who is within 10 years of me in either direction.

Esme nha Maire · 04-26-2018, 10:34 PM

My one lesbian relationship was with a woman 11 years my junior, and the age difference didn't matter a damn, despite my being in my early 30's and her being in her early twenties, so the percentage difference in age was huge.

I think it depends on the personalities involved. I wouldn't rule out dating someone in their twenties, so long as they were reasonably mature and there weren't any other problems (hey, I don't have the energy I once did!). And I certainly wouldn't rule out someone older! That said, in some respects I'm under-mature for my age, and look younger than I am, whilst being rather more decrepit than most would expect due to various medical oddities.

My ideal is someone a bit more grounded than me, and better able to cope with those aspects of the world I find problematic, with integrity and a good sense of humour. Given those - I'm not too concerned about their age, so long as they are over 20!

Bèsame* · 04-29-2018, 11:08 AM

Please don't look like a child I could of had , or look like my father..

I just could not kiss that age difference.

But, I've almost always have been the tallest one !

DapperButch · 04-29-2018, 12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Bèsame*

Please don't look like a child I could of had , or look like my father..

I just could not kiss that age difference.

But, I've almost always have been the tallest one !

haha how tall are you?

Bèsame* · 04-29-2018, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

haha how tall are you?

ALMOST always...
Its refreshing to find my height, or even close to it. ...😉

MaddieRobbie · 09-05-2018, 11:25 AM

I primarily date people older than myself. There's a confidence that comes from maturity I'm just drawn to...

My relationships with older partners are mostly drama free and as complicated as we choose to make them. If there's kids and my partner prefers to keep that part of their life separate, I'm not offended (and if they do, I understand they've had a whole life of their own before I showed up). Sex on a first date isn't taboo or anything more than being true to what we're feeling in the moment.

...and they're simply more fun to be with and around. The last butch I dated took me bowling on our first date - we didn't have to shout at each other over a club or be in the trendiest bar in town. We drank beers and bowled while I tried to look sexy in the silly shoes. Amazing.

04-18-2018, 05:57 AM	#2
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Signmypapyrus Junior Member How Do You Identify?: * Preferred Pronoun?: * Join Date: Mar 2018 Location: * Posts: 66 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 59 Thanked 181 Times in 53 Posts Rep Power: 1675671	I prefer older women and the few I have gone on dates with have been older. I mean, at least ten years older, if not more. I imagine when I eventually want a relationship I’ll end up with someone older. I think it makes sense in queer or same sex relationships. __________________ “(I)f we are going to be kind, let it be out of simple generosity, not because we fear guilt or retribution.” --from Disgrace by JM Coetzee

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04-22-2018, 02:34 PM	#4
introverted1 Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: Jun 2016 Location: introville Posts: 250 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 422 Thanked 740 Times in 212 Posts Rep Power: 7058202	Since my mid-30s, I usually end up with people who are five to six years younger than me. I realize that is not a huge age gap. Whoever can communicate well and keep up with me on the hiking trail is ideal.

04-26-2018, 07:12 PM	#6
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04-26-2018, 07:46 PM	#7
SaltyButch Member How Do You Identify?: Old School Butch Preferred Pronoun?: he/she/hey you..... Relationship Status: open to the possibilities Tournaments Won: 5 Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: mississauga ontario canada Posts: 345 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 432 Thanked 1,633 Times in 301 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I've had a tendency to date younger women mostly because some my age act way too old....and I am very young at heart. I have experienced the comments "oh you are a dirty old butch"...why should I be perceived like that when men have been doing it for ages. An age gap is not the gap to worry about, if we can relate, understand and enjoy life with each other what's wrong with that. There may be some life experience that we can't relate to, but I assure you that some younger women have experienced more than I ever will. So if she doesn't know a show called The Brady Bunch I'm okay with that as long as we both respect, care for and love each other isn't that all that really matters.

09-08-2018, 09:41 AM	#11
CherylNYC Member How Do You Identify?: Stonefemme lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: I'm a woman. Behave accordingly. Relationship Status: Single, not looking. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NYC Posts: 1,467 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,474 Thanked 7,111 Times in 1,205 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	A 23 year old tried to pick me up at a bar a few months ago! I'm not making this up. I'm more than three decades older than she was. NO! I mean, HELL no. I formerly dated women who were significantly older, but now the energy difference between elders and myself is usually, (but not always), just too large. I'm super-active and very fit. If I ever decide to date again it would ideally be a woman who is within 10 years of me in either direction. __________________ Cheryl

04-26-2018, 10:34 PM	#12
Esme nha Maire Member How Do You Identify?: Tomboyish eccentric antique femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jul 2017 Location: UK Posts: 642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,196 Thanked 2,078 Times in 541 Posts Rep Power: 19310770	My one lesbian relationship was with a woman 11 years my junior, and the age difference didn't matter a damn, despite my being in my early 30's and her being in her early twenties, so the percentage difference in age was huge. I think it depends on the personalities involved. I wouldn't rule out dating someone in their twenties, so long as they were reasonably mature and there weren't any other problems (hey, I don't have the energy I once did!). And I certainly wouldn't rule out someone older! That said, in some respects I'm under-mature for my age, and look younger than I am, whilst being rather more decrepit than most would expect due to various medical oddities. My ideal is someone a bit more grounded than me, and better able to cope with those aspects of the world I find problematic, with integrity and a good sense of humour. Given those - I'm not too concerned about their age, so long as they are over 20!

04-29-2018, 11:08 AM	#13
Bèsame* Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femm Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: loved by many Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Closer to the waves Posts: 15,410 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,161 Thanked 40,990 Times in 10,757 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Please don't look like a child I could of had , or look like my father.. I just could not kiss that age difference. But, I've almost always have been the tallest one ! __________________ kisses A kiss is a whisper in your mouth. Can I borrow a kiss? I promise to give it back.

09-05-2018, 11:25 AM	#16
MaddieRobbie Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Free Join Date: Aug 2018 Location: Brooklyn Posts: 96 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34 Thanked 311 Times in 79 Posts Rep Power: 2491088	Age difference. I primarily date people older than myself. There's a confidence that comes from maturity I'm just drawn to... My relationships with older partners are mostly drama free and as complicated as we choose to make them. If there's kids and my partner prefers to keep that part of their life separate, I'm not offended (and if they do, I understand they've had a whole life of their own before I showed up). Sex on a first date isn't taboo or anything more than being true to what we're feeling in the moment. ...and they're simply more fun to be with and around. The last butch I dated took me bowling on our first date - we didn't have to shout at each other over a club or be in the trendiest bar in town. We drank beers and bowled while I tried to look sexy in the silly shoes. Amazing.