Significant Age Gaps in Relationships

Esme nha Maire · 04-26-2018, 10:34 PM

My one lesbian relationship was with a woman 11 years my junior, and the age difference didn't matter a damn, despite my being in my early 30's and her being in her early twenties, so the percentage difference in age was huge.

I think it depends on the personalities involved. I wouldn't rule out dating someone in their twenties, so long as they were reasonably mature and there weren't any other problems (hey, I don't have the energy I once did!). And I certainly wouldn't rule out someone older! That said, in some respects I'm under-mature for my age, and look younger than I am, whilst being rather more decrepit than most would expect due to various medical oddities.

My ideal is someone a bit more grounded than me, and better able to cope with those aspects of the world I find problematic, with integrity and a good sense of humour. Given those - I'm not too concerned about their age, so long as they are over 20!

Bèsame* · 04-29-2018, 11:08 AM

Please don't look like a child I could of had , or look like my father..

I just could not kiss that age difference.

But, I've almost always have been the tallest one !

DapperButch · 04-29-2018, 12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Bèsame*

Please don't look like a child I could of had , or look like my father..

I just could not kiss that age difference.

But, I've almost always have been the tallest one !

haha how tall are you?

Bèsame* · 04-29-2018, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

haha how tall are you?

ALMOST always...
Its refreshing to find my height, or even close to it. ...😉

MaddieRobbie · 09-05-2018, 11:25 AM

I primarily date people older than myself. There's a confidence that comes from maturity I'm just drawn to...

My relationships with older partners are mostly drama free and as complicated as we choose to make them. If there's kids and my partner prefers to keep that part of their life separate, I'm not offended (and if they do, I understand they've had a whole life of their own before I showed up). Sex on a first date isn't taboo or anything more than being true to what we're feeling in the moment.

...and they're simply more fun to be with and around. The last butch I dated took me bowling on our first date - we didn't have to shout at each other over a club or be in the trendiest bar in town. We drank beers and bowled while I tried to look sexy in the silly shoes. Amazing.

clay · 09-05-2018, 12:46 PM

Several months back, I was talking seriously with someone, not on this site, either!, who was 19 years my junior. While fun to talk with, and all, I found the maturity level differences to be too much, for me.

The age difference didn't bother her at all. I would have felt awkward in public, because, folks would "assume" I was the mom or grandmom, and I hate that when folks make assumptions!

For me, and this is tried & true, I do well with someone 10 years younger, and no more or less!

It is different for different folks, but I wouldn't ever date anyone older than me.

04-29-2018, 11:08 AM	#2
Bèsame* Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femm Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: loved by many Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Closer to the waves Posts: 15,433 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,185 Thanked 41,033 Times in 10,777 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Please don't look like a child I could of had , or look like my father.. I just could not kiss that age difference. But, I've almost always have been the tallest one ! __________________ kisses A kiss is a whisper in your mouth. Can I borrow a kiss? I promise to give it back.

09-05-2018, 11:25 AM	#5
MaddieRobbie Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Free Join Date: Aug 2018 Location: Brooklyn Posts: 96 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34 Thanked 311 Times in 79 Posts Rep Power: 2491088	Age difference. I primarily date people older than myself. There's a confidence that comes from maturity I'm just drawn to... My relationships with older partners are mostly drama free and as complicated as we choose to make them. If there's kids and my partner prefers to keep that part of their life separate, I'm not offended (and if they do, I understand they've had a whole life of their own before I showed up). Sex on a first date isn't taboo or anything more than being true to what we're feeling in the moment. ...and they're simply more fun to be with and around. The last butch I dated took me bowling on our first date - we didn't have to shout at each other over a club or be in the trendiest bar in town. We drank beers and bowled while I tried to look sexy in the silly shoes. Amazing.

09-05-2018, 12:46 PM	#6
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,662 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	Several months back, I was talking seriously with someone, not on this site, either!, who was 19 years my junior. While fun to talk with, and all, I found the maturity level differences to be too much, for me. The age difference didn't bother her at all. I would have felt awkward in public, because, folks would "assume" I was the mom or grandmom, and I hate that when folks make assumptions! For me, and this is tried & true, I do well with someone 10 years younger, and no more or less! It is different for different folks, but I wouldn't ever date anyone older than me. __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

04-26-2018, 10:34 PM	#1
Esme nha Maire Member How Do You Identify?: Tomboyish eccentric antique femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jul 2017 Location: UK Posts: 642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,196 Thanked 2,078 Times in 541 Posts Rep Power: 19310770	My one lesbian relationship was with a woman 11 years my junior, and the age difference didn't matter a damn, despite my being in my early 30's and her being in her early twenties, so the percentage difference in age was huge. I think it depends on the personalities involved. I wouldn't rule out dating someone in their twenties, so long as they were reasonably mature and there weren't any other problems (hey, I don't have the energy I once did!). And I certainly wouldn't rule out someone older! That said, in some respects I'm under-mature for my age, and look younger than I am, whilst being rather more decrepit than most would expect due to various medical oddities. My ideal is someone a bit more grounded than me, and better able to cope with those aspects of the world I find problematic, with integrity and a good sense of humour. Given those - I'm not too concerned about their age, so long as they are over 20!