Showing scars: what are your relationship fears?

JustLovelyJenn · 02-17-2019, 12:40 PM

Being the only one to do the work...

babydollfem · 02-17-2019, 05:38 PM

My biggest fear in relationships is not being able to comfort/help my partner when they need it, not being able to make them feel safe. Sure I'm scared of being cheated on or having my heart broken just like everyone else but that one is the worst.

JDeere · 02-24-2019, 10:44 AM

Not being able to adapt to what she needs

My family scaring her off, that's a huge one! I have judgy mcjudger pants in the family!

JustLovelyJenn · 02-24-2019, 05:09 PM

That all my "little worries" are more than the past trying to sabatage my future...

Mel C. · 02-24-2019, 07:40 PM

That new and shiny will wear off.

~ocean · 02-24-2019, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Mel C.

That new and shiny will wear off.

the "new" does wear off ~ hence the inevitable ~ the shiny keeps on shining ~ with a look , a sexy grin , just the way u look ~

girl_dee · 02-28-2019, 08:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Mel C.

That new and shiny will wear off.

Oh my love i find you more amazing each day and i can’t wait to grow old with you.... it will always feel shiny and new!

pssst... i have the same fear

~ocean · 02-28-2019, 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by girl_dee

Oh my love i find you more amazing each day and i can’t wait to grow old with you.... it will always feel shiny and new!

pssst... i have the same fear

so beautifully said ((((( dee & mel )))))))

cathexis · 05-24-2019, 09:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Mel C.

That new and shiny will wear off.

The new and shiny hasn't worn off in 25 years. I consider myself very lucky. We find something new and amazing about one another daily.
Went through two marriages ~10 years each before finding my true other half.
If you haven't found her/him, keep looking. They're out there.

FireSignFemme · 05-24-2019, 08:29 PM

When we were young her mother told mine how upset she was because her daughter had no friends. So my mom volunteered my services - would it really kill me to be nice to her? I don't know, with any luck. Well it almost got me arrested and she was hauled off to jail. Only then did my mother believe it was as bad as I said it was and no I probably shouldn't be forced to be her “friend” anymore.

Years later I got involved with a woman, kept getting the feeling I knew her from someplace but couldn't place where. She denied it. Well turns out she was that girl, all grown up and living with me because I didn't recognize her, but she knew me! She was like a vicious little psycho Chucky doll come to life when we were young, and decades later even more evil. It was like she had time to perfect her craft.

So one of my worries, concerns it that something like that will happen again. And I'd rather be single, single and celibite even for the rest of my life, than ever have anything like that happen to me again. I would like to be in a relationship but only if it's a healthy one, and that might take some work. And, well the older I get the lazier I am. I mean that's not a flattering thing to admit but it's true.

02-17-2019, 12:40 PM	#1
JustLovelyJenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: That's Need to Know Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Aberdeen, WA Posts: 4,478 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,464 Thanked 13,992 Times in 3,684 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Being the only one to do the work... __________________ --Jenn

02-17-2019, 05:38 PM	#2
babydollfem Junior Member How Do You Identify?: old school stone fem Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: taken by my beautiful butch Join Date: Jan 2019 Location: middle of some corn field in Indiana Posts: 12 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2 Thanked 29 Times in 10 Posts Rep Power: 214755	My biggest fear in relationships is not being able to comfort/help my partner when they need it, not being able to make them feel safe. Sure I'm scared of being cheated on or having my heart broken just like everyone else but that one is the worst. __________________ "at the moment I felt at the center of my own life, the dream still braided like sweetgrass in my memory"

02-24-2019, 10:44 AM	#3
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,835 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Not being able to adapt to what she needs My family scaring her off, that's a huge one! I have judgy mcjudger pants in the family! __________________ Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein

02-24-2019, 05:09 PM	#4
JustLovelyJenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: That's Need to Know Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Aberdeen, WA Posts: 4,478 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,464 Thanked 13,992 Times in 3,684 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	That all my "little worries" are more than the past trying to sabatage my future... __________________ --Jenn

02-24-2019, 07:40 PM	#5
Mel C. Long-time Member How Do You Identify?: WIB - woman identified butch Preferred Pronoun?: Your choice...not really a button for me Relationship Status: ♡ married 1/1/2019♡ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,149 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,772 Thanked 6,828 Times in 1,621 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	That new and shiny will wear off.

05-24-2019, 08:29 PM	#10
FireSignFemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: N/A Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: WA Posts: 4,434 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 37,962 Thanked 10,293 Times in 3,147 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	When we were young her mother told mine how upset she was because her daughter had no friends. So my mom volunteered my services - would it really kill me to be nice to her? I don't know, with any luck. Well it almost got me arrested and she was hauled off to jail. Only then did my mother believe it was as bad as I said it was and no I probably shouldn't be forced to be her “friend” anymore. Years later I got involved with a woman, kept getting the feeling I knew her from someplace but couldn't place where. She denied it. Well turns out she was that girl, all grown up and living with me because I didn't recognize her, but she knew me! She was like a vicious little psycho Chucky doll come to life when we were young, and decades later even more evil. It was like she had time to perfect her craft. So one of my worries, concerns it that something like that will happen again. And I'd rather be single, single and celibite even for the rest of my life, than ever have anything like that happen to me again. I would like to be in a relationship but only if it's a healthy one, and that might take some work. And, well the older I get the lazier I am. I mean that's not a flattering thing to admit but it's true.