Butches and Bathrooms

Jedi · 07-15-2019, 12:32 AM

The bathroom issue wasn't as bad for me until I moved South. I have never been told so many times I was in the wrong bathroom. I even flashed a crabby old bitchy lady who was hassling me when I really had to pee. Like that was my bathroom pass. I don't know what their problems are anyway. It's not like I'm trying to sneak some perverted nasty bathroom peek at women. Seriously!

Anyone else ever have to prove they had a right to be in a public restroom?

Lyte · 07-15-2019, 08:50 PM

I've never not used the ladies room and I don't recall ever getting dirty looks. Of course, now that I've put that out in to the universe, let's see what happens next time.

I've no idea as to why that has been the case. Maybe cuz I'm tallish... more "imposing?" <~~ that's been said. I've a "softer" ... kinda femme... sort of face? <~~ so I've been told. Or, cuz I don't really acknowledge anyone in a public restroom? I'm in then I'm out. Kinda like clothes shopping.

lol

This is a most intriguing thread. I mean, no one who looks at me could think anything else but DYKE!

So, I'm really curious at to why I've not been hassled. Of course, it could be that I have gotten the nasty glance and just didn't realize. Shrug. Dunno.

cathexis · 07-15-2019, 09:49 PM

Seek out the unisex washroom as much as possible. Even have a mental list of safe places to go, and go out of my way or hold it to use one.

Didn't have as many problems until buzzing my head. Have a large chest and don't bind (asthma), but in a down or leather jacket...

To be brutally honest, I have peed in a cup in the truck and gone behind buildings or between cars at night sometimes to avoid scary situations.

Mel C. · 07-16-2019, 07:16 PM

I've only used the men's restroom by complete accident or to avoid an accident. Using the women's is a mixed bag. Sometimes I get the stares, or the double-takes, or the apologies as they run out to re-read the sign on the door. I've even had kids tell parents that there is a man in the restroom. Funny thing is I'm not very masculine in appearance. I have short hair, am large and wear men't clothing. If anyone bothered looking, they should be able to figure out I'm female but many people act based on superficial features (hairstyle, clothing, etc.). When out with my wife, I prefer that she escort me into the restroom. Otherwise, I just go in and avoid eye contact.

07-15-2019, 12:32 AM	#1
Jedi Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: they are my world Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In a galaxy far, far away Posts: 959 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,002 Thanked 1,730 Times in 544 Posts Rep Power: 12678953	The bathroom issue wasn't as bad for me until I moved South. I have never been told so many times I was in the wrong bathroom. I even flashed a crabby old bitchy lady who was hassling me when I really had to pee. Like that was my bathroom pass. I don't know what their problems are anyway. It's not like I'm trying to sneak some perverted nasty bathroom peek at women. Seriously! Anyone else ever have to prove they had a right to be in a public restroom?

07-15-2019, 08:50 PM	#2
Lyte Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Meh... I'm not very particular about this. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2016 Location: The south... bleh! Posts: 1,744 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,316 Thanked 5,113 Times in 1,504 Posts Rep Power: 21474847	I've never not used the ladies room and I don't recall ever getting dirty looks. Of course, now that I've put that out in to the universe, let's see what happens next time. I've no idea as to why that has been the case. Maybe cuz I'm tallish... more "imposing?" <~~ that's been said. I've a "softer" ... kinda femme... sort of face? <~~ so I've been told. Or, cuz I don't really acknowledge anyone in a public restroom? I'm in then I'm out. Kinda like clothes shopping. lol This is a most intriguing thread. I mean, no one who looks at me could think anything else but DYKE! So, I'm really curious at to why I've not been hassled. Of course, it could be that I have gotten the nasty glance and just didn't realize. Shrug. Dunno.

07-15-2019, 09:49 PM	#3
cathexis Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trotskyist, Anarcho-syndicalist Preferred Pronoun?: They, Them, Their, Sir Bitch Relationship Status: open Join Date: Sep 2016 Location: Great White North! Posts: 4,332 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,812 Thanked 4,706 Times in 1,604 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	Seek out the unisex washroom as much as possible. Even have a mental list of safe places to go, and go out of my way or hold it to use one. Didn't have as many problems until buzzing my head. Have a large chest and don't bind (asthma), but in a down or leather jacket... To be brutally honest, I have peed in a cup in the truck and gone behind buildings or between cars at night sometimes to avoid scary situations.

07-16-2019, 07:16 PM	#4
Mel C. Long-time Member How Do You Identify?: WIB - woman identified butch Preferred Pronoun?: Your choice...not really a button for me Relationship Status: ♡ married 1/1/2019♡ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,149 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,772 Thanked 6,828 Times in 1,621 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I've only used the men's restroom by complete accident or to avoid an accident. Using the women's is a mixed bag. Sometimes I get the stares, or the double-takes, or the apologies as they run out to re-read the sign on the door. I've even had kids tell parents that there is a man in the restroom. Funny thing is I'm not very masculine in appearance. I have short hair, am large and wear men't clothing. If anyone bothered looking, they should be able to figure out I'm female but many people act based on superficial features (hairstyle, clothing, etc.). When out with my wife, I prefer that she escort me into the restroom. Otherwise, I just go in and avoid eye contact.