PTSD and Trauma recovery

[Apocalipstic]

Holding space for all of us!

CCB, I hope he is old and dies...I mean, goes into a nursing home soon, then you won't have to see him. The good part about getting older is that for me, those people are not still around! Sending love and space and holding the high watch for you as you process.

Welcome Witch, looks like you found the right place! xoxoxo

Amulette and K - I can only stand EMDR form time to time. Take care of yourselves. Baths, plenty of sleep and lots of water.

K - dearest friend. Best to you in your new EMDR endeavor. It does help blur the edges of the pain. It's difficult at the time, but I can really tell the difference over time. I have also had brain spotting, which is similar but not as difficult to process.

Its a decent week for me. I am not sleeping well, but also not hiding under my desk at loud sounds. I struggle with maybe getting a less stressful job, but think what I do is important.

Sweet calming vibes to all of you!

[JustLovelyJenn]

I did some self care this week that really helped me. I set some boundaries for those around me and I have been working on creating a welcoming space for myself. We had to do some rearranging in our home to make sure that everyone has the spaces they need, but, its helping already... even with the stacked boxes I am trying to sort through I still feel like my space is more of what I need, and my daughter is feeling the same way in her new space.

What do you all do to create safe spaces for yourself? What things help you feel comfortable? What things do you absolutly need for that feeling of security?

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

I did some self care this week that really helped me. I set some boundaries for those around me and I have been working on creating a welcoming space for myself. We had to do some rearranging in our home to make sure that everyone has the spaces they need, but, its helping already... even with the stacked boxes I am trying to sort through I still feel like my space is more of what I need, and my daughter is feeling the same way in her new space.

What do you all do to create safe spaces for yourself? What things help you feel comfortable? What things do you absolutly need for that feeling of security?

What a great post! I have to have my own space too! Its weird too, sometimes I have to move things around till I feel safe. I recently moved and have boxes too lol. Its a studio basically 2 large rooms and I had one as living room and one as kitchen/bedroom. I did not feel right in that room...so I (with help) moved my bed into the larger living room and it feels perfect. I have huge windows with lots of trees and it calms me. It is in a huge house built in the 1920s, separated into studios. Nashville has gotten hellishly expensive. Anyway, having people in the house at night, but not in my space, is really helpful. I am not scared that way.

I'm working on getting unpacked. I organized my books last weekend and that gave me a sense of calm too.

Ohhhh, and I have always had a grocery store phobia thing where I get overwhelmed and have to leave. However, something I find is helping is that I do not have to explain to anyone what I bought, and why....and things can go in my bags how I want....and I am less stressed about it.

Even at work, I have my own office and I got floral paintings at a church festival and international gifts from clients to decorate. I had maintenance take out almost all of the overhead lighting. Too much bright light makes me anxious.

I am super glad to hear you are carving out space for you and that your daughter has a mom who understand she needs her own space.

Sending love your way!

J

[homoe]

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I've always had a need for my own space to be uncluttered. If things are not in their place I feel disorganized and out of sync. If my bedroom is not in pie order at bedtime, I know I won't be getting a good nights rest.

I attribute this to childhood trauma, which at this point, I'd rather not get into.

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by homoe

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I've always had a need for my own space to be uncluttered. If things are not in their place I feel disorganized and out of sync. If my bedroom is not in pie order at bedtime, I know I won't be getting a good nights rest.

I attribute this to childhood trauma, which at this point, I'd rather not get into.

I like my space fairly uncluttered....unless, someone else is trying to control my space...then, something inside me flips and my area is a disaster. Some sort of inner rebellion going back to childhood too probably.

[candy_coated_bitch]

Thank you all for your kindness and being willing to read my post and hold the space for me I asked for--easygoingfemme, Katzchen, Apocslipstic, Amulette, Jenn. I hope I'm not forgetting anyone!!! Welcome Witch.

Jenn, I'm so glad you're working on creating space that works for you. That's so important. I also need my own safe space that's just mine. I have my own bedroom even though I live with my girlfriend. It works for us.

Partially I do need this because of past trauma and needing to be able to have a space I can control. I use it for my tarot, witchy rituals and spells, journaling, and painting. Also meditating when I get around to it. It's soooo nice to have that space and I'm lucky to have it as well as a partner that understands my need for it and not only respects it but is not offended that I need it.

TRIGGER WARNING: Talk of an abuser

Apocslipstic: unfortunately my uncle is alive and well and will probably not kick the bucket any time soon. I wish he would. But for now I have mostly reconciled to the fact that I will see him at times. It's worth it to guarantee I get to have a relationship with my parents and cousins and their kids.

Anyway. Therapy on Tuesday. I will finally talk about seeing him and stop avoiding it.

[Apocalipstic]

CCB, I like to have my own bedroom too and totally appreciate if my partner is not threatened by this. Sometimes, I even need to sleep alone if I am having a bad night.

Ugh, so sorry your uncle is so young.

Best at therapy!

all!