Instant Turn-Offs

[kittygrrl]

uncertain
indifferent
spiteful

[RebelDyke]

these are all really good ones.. I could add these to the long list

over-dramatic
doesn't take accountability
twists your words
makes everything your fault
they are too stubborn to talk about problems
cannot compromise
always makes it about them
and always wants it their way
or does not care about your milestones or pivotal moments of life
has double standards
then if they hide things...like stupid little things about themselves and blow it off like it was none of your business... ya have to think ...hmm if they lied about that.. what else they lyin' bout?

but i think most importantly on having all these traits.. they still believe they are nice people.

(these are the short list of traits I have experienced over the years of dating...)

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by RebelDyke

these are all really good ones.. I could add these to the long list

over-dramatic
doesn't take accountability
twists your words
makes everything your fault
they are too stubborn to talk about problems
cannot compromise
always makes it about them
and always wants it their way
or does not care about your milestones or pivotal moments of life
has double standards
then if they hide things...like stupid little things about themselves and blow it off like it was none of your business... ya have to think ...hmm if they lied about that.. what else they lyin' bout?

but i think most importantly on having all these traits.. they still believe they are nice people.

(these are the short list of traits I have experienced over the years of dating...)

Yes, yes and yes a few other times! Where was this post when I could have used it a few years ago?

[Vincent]

Originally Posted by Gemme

Yes, yes and yes a few other times! Where was this post when I could have used it a few years ago?

Yeah,I dont get people who lie,like you're gunna get caught out eventually and I hate liers.
Also a red flag is people who go from one I'm in love to the next I'm in love in 6 weeks,how is that possible?
Ive only loved 2 women,so If I hear that,I'm out of there.
I just left a FB singles group,pretty scary lol

[JDeere]

PSYCHOS not the good kinda crazy women but the actual PSYCHOS who will try to kill you or take the transmission out of your truck.

Narcissicts

[homoe]

Originally Posted by JDeere

PSYCHOS not the good kinda crazy women but the actual PSYCHOS who will try to kill you or take the transmission out of your truck.

Narcissicts

Yikes JD you need a different source or venue for meeting women......

[Chad]

Originally Posted by JDeere

PSYCHOS not the good kinda crazy women but the actual PSYCHOS who will try to kill you or take the transmission out of your truck.

Narcissicts

Been there done that. Watch your back buddy. I have spent too many nights worried that a femme would stab me in my sleep.

[QueenofSmirks]

People who feel the need to tell/show/explain to me how clever they are. Instant turn-off!

[homoe]

Originally Posted by Chad

Been there done that. Watch your back buddy. I have spent too many nights worried that a femme would stab me in my sleep.

Yikes, thankfully I've never experienced this concern....

[Chad]

Originally Posted by RebelDyke

these are all really good ones.. I could add these to the long list

over-dramatic
doesn't take accountability
twists your words
makes everything your fault
they are too stubborn to talk about problems
cannot compromise
always makes it about them
and always wants it their way
or does not care about your milestones or pivotal moments of life
has double standards
then if they hide things...like stupid little things about themselves and blow it off like it was none of your business... ya have to think ...hmm if they lied about that.. what else they lyin' bout?

but i think most importantly on having all these traits.. they still believe they are nice people.

(these are the short list of traits I have experienced over the years of dating...)

Agreed.
People lie about the funniest things like eating candy. Then you find 4 candy wrappers in the car. Makes me scratch my head.

[RebelDyke]

Originally Posted by Chad

Agreed.
People lie about the funniest things like eating candy. Then you find 4 candy wrappers in the car. Makes me scratch my head.

for me it is things more sensitive like 420. I am an advocate for it. I do not partake. I believe it helps some people but every time people have NOT been honest with me on that... it turns out.. it is because they are an addict. SO, people get major major kudos, points, and RESPECT for being up front and honest on that one! if i am going to have that in my life on a daily basis... i think it is something i should know.

know thyself

[Chad]

Originally Posted by RebelDyke

for me it is things more sensitive like 420. I am an advocate for it. I do not partake. I believe it helps some people but every time people have NOT been honest with me on that... it turns out.. it is because they are an addict. SO, people get major major kudos, points, and RESPECT for being up front and honest on that one! if i am going to have that in my life on a daily basis... i think it is something i should know.

know thyself

I get that.

I was young and very social in the 70's and 80's. I knew a lot of folks addicted to drugs and booze. I held more than one human all night that eventually died from drugs. I have been shot at more times then I care to remember and seen the faces of crying parents. It is that lifestyle I hate it is very dangerous to all.
That is also why I hate the smell of patchouli a lot of druggies use that smell to hide the smell of drugs. Been there done that and survived it.