The Older LGBTIQ Crush Thread - Post Age 40

scootebaby · 06-08-2010, 03:54 PM

ok so i read this wrong...i thought our crushes had to be 40 or above--even tho some i posted arent....didnt realize u had to BE 40 to post....damn old ageism

UofMfan · 06-08-2010, 04:26 PM

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Originally Posted by scootebaby

ok so i read this wrong...i thought our crushes had to be 40 or above--even tho some i posted arent....didnt realize u had to BE 40 to post....damn old ageism

Are you earnestly asking the question or just throwing this out there?

scootebaby · 06-08-2010, 07:40 PM

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Originally Posted by UofMfan

Are you earnestly asking the question or just throwing this out there?

actually it was a little of both at first,however i have since figured it out...thanks!

UofMfan · 06-08-2010, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by scootebaby

actually it was a little of both at first,however i have since figured it out...thanks!

I am glad you figured it out. At times it is best to ask.

Diva · 06-08-2010, 07:52 PM

There is something wildly intoxicating about a chiseled face (some might read that as wrinkles) with grey/greying hair on a butch/guy......and, when they open their mouths, and what I hear is intelligent, Gentlemanly, respectful brilliance, tempered with a good sense of humor and grace......and someone who gets me in all my quirkiness.......

THAT'S when I crush. Hard.

T D · 06-08-2010, 08:42 PM

I always had such a crush on Sophia Loren and Raquel Welch.... I think I'm kinda drawn to exotic women

Venus007 · 06-08-2010, 10:31 PM

Yeah, what she said

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Originally Posted by Diva

There is something wildly intoxicating about a chiseled face (some might read that as wrinkles) with grey/greying hair on a butch/guy......and, when they open their mouths, and what I hear is intelligent, Gentlemanly, respectful brilliance, tempered with a good sense of humor and grace......and someone who gets me in all my quirkiness.......

THAT'S when I crush. Hard.

apretty · 06-08-2010, 11:32 PM

ez is over 40 and totally crushable:

and my first crush ever, ellie hernandez:

she taught women's studies at uc berkeley and i was smitten. (don't laugh!)

(plus, she said my paper on 'a room of one's own' was thesis-quality: swoon!)

AtLast · 06-09-2010, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Diva

There is something wildly intoxicating about a chiseled face (some might read that as wrinkles) with grey/greying hair on a butch/guy......and, when they open their mouths, and what I hear is intelligent, Gentlemanly, respectful brilliance, tempered with a good sense of humor and grace......and someone who gets me in all my quirkiness.......

THAT'S when I crush. Hard.

Dammit! Why can't my hair turn gray! What has turned just intermingles with the colors and I want to look distinquished! Plus gray/white hair adds lift.... ya'all have fun with that one!

Strappie · 06-10-2010, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Diva

There is something wildly intoxicating about a chiseled face (some might read that as wrinkles) with grey/greying hair on a butch/guy......and, when they open their mouths, and what I hear is intelligent, Gentlemanly, respectful brilliance, tempered with a good sense of humor and grace......and someone who gets me in all my quirkiness.......

THAT'S when I crush. Hard.

Diva... you talking about me again?? *blushing*

Martina · 06-08-2010, 04:53 PM

Our poet laureate, Kay Ryan

Martina · 06-08-2010, 05:04 PM

Author of Crybaby Blues. Sigh. She is married to another professor. They have two kids.

Martina · 06-08-2010, 05:21 PM

another of Kay Ryan. She can write too. Big Sigh. She's more or less local, but no sightings of yet.

Soft*Silver · 06-08-2010, 05:42 PM

Elizabeth Montgomery was my first crush as a child, watching Bewitched. As she aged, she became all the more beautiful to me.

Isabelle Rosallini makes my head swirl..the reaction is immediate and intense when I run across her in a film unexpectantly

Queen Latifa is HOT, as is Tracie Chapman.

If Kirstie Alley would just butch out already, I would ask her to marry me. Anyone who loves lemurs is ok in my book...

I love butches of size, too, and there just isnt any in the media (that I know of). The ones who have been in my life were very attractive to me. None of them were truly ok with their size. I was!

On a context note, I want to point out how it feels when you are the young blonde, slim, blue eyed porcelain skinned female in this country. My daughter is one of those. I worked HARD at getting her to not buy into the "desired image" of our culture. She hated that people saw her as that image and devalued me, her mother, who has always been plump, curvy, dark, olive skinned, and now, older and silver haired. She has always valued people for who they are and not what they look like and has had to battle those stereotypes...as well as people who unintentionally devalue her beauty because it IS the desired image. She loves to be beautiful and will advocate her right to be beautiful but also fights to include, not exclude anyone in the realm of beautiful...

she told me the other day, "Mo, you havent looked more beautiful than you do now"...wow...I was blown away...but I had to think it over and realized that she was right...and it was exactly how I felt about myself too!

I WANT a butch with wrinkles, and lovely looser skin, and silver in their hair. Youth feels so unfamiliar to me and I have no desire to lean against someone who hasnt dialed a rotary phone nor ever listened to 45s...the only dance I do nowadays are with those who treasure my aging process...

Martina · 06-08-2010, 05:56 PM

In femmes, Lena Olin is my favorite. As i was growing up though it was Diana Rigg (The Avengers) and Anne Francis (Honey West).

ruthie14 · 06-08-2010, 05:57 PM

*sigh...* k.d. lang... she just gets better with age if you ask me! * swooooooooooooooon*

OH, and Atlasthome... looks damn hot in a tux... trust me on that!!! *fanning*

AtLast · 06-08-2010, 06:58 PM

[QUOTE=softness;125987]

On a context note, I want to point out how it feels when you are the young blonde, slim, blue eyed porcelain skinned female in this country. My daughter is one of those. I worked HARD at getting her to not buy into the "desired image" of our culture. She hated that people saw her as that image and devalued me, her mother, who has always been plump, curvy, dark, olive skinned, and now, older and silver haired. She has always valued people for who they are and not what they look like and has had to battle those stereotypes...as well as people who unintentionally devalue her beauty because it IS the desired image. She loves to be beautiful and will advocate her right to be beautiful but also fights to include, not exclude anyone in the realm of beautiful...

she told me the other day, "Mo, you havent looked more beautiful than you do now"...wow...I was blown away...but I had to think it over and realized that she was right...and it was exactly how I felt about myself too!

QUOTE]

Love what your daughter said to you.

Also, I'm glad you brought this context up. I think many women that do fit the blonde, leggy , perfect body type are often viewed as dumb in our culture- the dumb blonde. And yes, tye devaluing goes much further.

My late partner's daughter is simply gorgeous and brilliant. Guess which attribute she continually was stereotyped as? LOL, she also was one hell of a feminist early on and not one to mince words. Yup, her Mamma taught her well!

Then we have the butch looks stereotypes..... ARGH!!

Spirit Dancer · 06-08-2010, 06:28 PM

Queen Latifah Set it Off

Chaz Bono

Spirit Dancer · 06-08-2010, 06:31 PM

Jane Mansfield

AtLast · 06-08-2010, 06:47 PM

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Jane Mansfield

OMG!!! and her daughter, Mariska Hagarty is beautiful and over 40, I believe... please someone say she is!!

06-08-2010, 05:42 PM	#14
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,908 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	Elizabeth Montgomery was my first crush as a child, watching Bewitched. As she aged, she became all the more beautiful to me. Isabelle Rosallini makes my head swirl..the reaction is immediate and intense when I run across her in a film unexpectantly Queen Latifa is HOT, as is Tracie Chapman. If Kirstie Alley would just butch out already, I would ask her to marry me. Anyone who loves lemurs is ok in my book... I love butches of size, too, and there just isnt any in the media (that I know of). The ones who have been in my life were very attractive to me. None of them were truly ok with their size. I was! On a context note, I want to point out how it feels when you are the young blonde, slim, blue eyed porcelain skinned female in this country. My daughter is one of those. I worked HARD at getting her to not buy into the "desired image" of our culture. She hated that people saw her as that image and devalued me, her mother, who has always been plump, curvy, dark, olive skinned, and now, older and silver haired. She has always valued people for who they are and not what they look like and has had to battle those stereotypes...as well as people who unintentionally devalue her beauty because it IS the desired image. She loves to be beautiful and will advocate her right to be beautiful but also fights to include, not exclude anyone in the realm of beautiful... she told me the other day, "Mo, you havent looked more beautiful than you do now"...wow...I was blown away...but I had to think it over and realized that she was right...and it was exactly how I felt about myself too! I WANT a butch with wrinkles, and lovely looser skin, and silver in their hair. Youth feels so unfamiliar to me and I have no desire to lean against someone who hasnt dialed a rotary phone nor ever listened to 45s...the only dance I do nowadays are with those who treasure my aging process... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

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scootebaby Timed Out How Do You Identify?: yes dear Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: south florida Posts: 2,494 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,264 Thanked 6,737 Times in 1,777 Posts Rep Power: 0	ok so i read this wrong...i thought our crushes had to be 40 or above--even tho some i posted arent....didnt realize u had to BE 40 to post....damn old ageism

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Diva Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Diva Preferred Pronoun?: Diva Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Chez Diva Posts: 11,879 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,263 Thanked 17,174 Times in 5,239 Posts Rep Power: 0	There is something wildly intoxicating about a chiseled face (some might read that as wrinkles) with grey/greying hair on a butch/guy......and, when they open their mouths, and what I hear is intelligent, Gentlemanly, respectful brilliance, tempered with a good sense of humor and grace......and someone who gets me in all my quirkiness....... THAT'S when I crush. Hard.

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AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,828 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	[QUOTE=softness;125987] On a context note, I want to point out how it feels when you are the young blonde, slim, blue eyed porcelain skinned female in this country. My daughter is one of those. I worked HARD at getting her to not buy into the "desired image" of our culture. She hated that people saw her as that image and devalued me, her mother, who has always been plump, curvy, dark, olive skinned, and now, older and silver haired. She has always valued people for who they are and not what they look like and has had to battle those stereotypes...as well as people who unintentionally devalue her beauty because it IS the desired image. She loves to be beautiful and will advocate her right to be beautiful but also fights to include, not exclude anyone in the realm of beautiful... she told me the other day, "Mo, you havent looked more beautiful than you do now"...wow...I was blown away...but I had to think it over and realized that she was right...and it was exactly how I felt about myself too! QUOTE] Love what your daughter said to you. Also, I'm glad you brought this context up. I think many women that do fit the blonde, leggy , perfect body type are often viewed as dumb in our culture- the dumb blonde. And yes, tye devaluing goes much further. My late partner's daughter is simply gorgeous and brilliant. Guess which attribute she continually was stereotyped as? LOL, she also was one hell of a feminist early on and not one to mince words. Yup, her Mamma taught her well! Then we have the butch looks stereotypes..... ARGH!!