How have you met the people you've been involved with romantically or sexually?

[CherylNYC]

The really important relationships?

At school.
She was a student in my Pagan/Wiccan study group.
At NYC Pride.
She was drumming at a Goddess party my ex threw.
She came to an LSM meeting.

I've met a few whackdoodles online and will not be trying that again. EVER. I also met my last gf when she showed up at an LSM meeting, but that wasn't a particularly important relationship.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

- Through an ex-boyfriend in high school. He told me, "I know this girl who's a lesbian, and she doesn't care who knows!" He introduced me to her, and that was all she wrote. I was head over heels. It was a short relationship, but an important one.

- In college through friends. It lasted about a year and a half, but then we moved to different cities after school.

- After moving to Atlanta, in the local womyn's chorus I met a woman who had an incredibly similar background to mine. I mean, she grew up on a farm and knew how to can vegetables. We would sit on the porch and shell peas together, and then put them up. She raises chickens now. (I got out just in time - I moved to Atlanta specifically because I was tired of living on a farm.)

- My hairdresser introduced me to one very important person. My relationship with her lasted for 7 years. I was a member of her extended family - until I wasn't. Never want to do that again.

- The latest I met online, and we've been together for 14 years. It started out as a hookup, and I really didn't think it would last more than three weeks. Just goes to show, you never know.