Thank you to my Ex for...

CherylNYC · 12-05-2021, 02:55 PM

I'm grateful to my long, long ago ex for showing me what it's like to live in a clean, structured environment. That was a super important growth step. I think I might have seemed half feral before we moved in together nearly 30 years ago.

I'm grateful to a more recent ex for helping me learn what I really value in my relationships, romantic or otherwise. If I ever stumble into romance again I'll be so much better equipped. That spills into all my relationships, too. I'm far better acquainted with my own worth now.

Cin · 12-06-2021, 12:53 PM

I can thank all my exes for helping me understand that there are many ways to look at any issue. Right and wrong are not set in stone. It is more fluid than that, there is more grey. Things are not so black and white and the world is a better place for it.

I discovered that as positive as I am that I am right and that once I explain my position my partner will see the light, it just isn't so. I have all my exes to thank for that lesson. It pretty much took every last one of them for I am a slow learner. Everybody thinks they're right. Perspective is everything. Being right is not as meaningful as one would think. It is more important is to understand the other person's point of view.

I also learned through all the women I have loved that compassion, understanding, empathy and kindness is as important as love in any relationship.

I also learned love is a verb.

All my lessons from all my past exes have brought me to this place in my life where I can be a loving, caring and kind partner to my wife. Without all my experiences with all my exes, as difficult as some were and as heartbreaking as some others have been, I might not be the person I am and be capable of sustaining a relationship with the most wonderful woman in the world. And that would have been terribly unfortunate for me. So I thank all my exes for helping me grow into a person who was able to stay in a relationship for 18 years with the love of my life. And we are still going strong. I am so lucky to have found Truly Scrumptious who fills all my dark places with light. I love you my dark angel, my magical mystery girl.

12-05-2021, 02:55 PM	#1
CherylNYC Member How Do You Identify?: Stonefemme lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: I'm a woman. Behave accordingly. Relationship Status: Single, not looking. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NYC Posts: 1,467 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,474 Thanked 7,111 Times in 1,205 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I'm grateful to my long, long ago ex for showing me what it's like to live in a clean, structured environment. That was a super important growth step. I think I might have seemed half feral before we moved in together nearly 30 years ago. I'm grateful to a more recent ex for helping me learn what I really value in my relationships, romantic or otherwise. If I ever stumble into romance again I'll be so much better equipped. That spills into all my relationships, too. I'm far better acquainted with my own worth now. __________________ Cheryl

12-06-2021, 12:53 PM	#2
Cin Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Truly Madly Deeply Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: In My Head Posts: 2,815 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,333 Thanked 10,402 Times in 2,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I can thank all my exes for helping me understand that there are many ways to look at any issue. Right and wrong are not set in stone. It is more fluid than that, there is more grey. Things are not so black and white and the world is a better place for it. I discovered that as positive as I am that I am right and that once I explain my position my partner will see the light, it just isn't so. I have all my exes to thank for that lesson. It pretty much took every last one of them for I am a slow learner. Everybody thinks they're right. Perspective is everything. Being right is not as meaningful as one would think. It is more important is to understand the other person's point of view. I also learned through all the women I have loved that compassion, understanding, empathy and kindness is as important as love in any relationship. I also learned love is a verb. All my lessons from all my past exes have brought me to this place in my life where I can be a loving, caring and kind partner to my wife. Without all my experiences with all my exes, as difficult as some were and as heartbreaking as some others have been, I might not be the person I am and be capable of sustaining a relationship with the most wonderful woman in the world. And that would have been terribly unfortunate for me. So I thank all my exes for helping me grow into a person who was able to stay in a relationship for 18 years with the love of my life. And we are still going strong. I am so lucky to have found Truly Scrumptious who fills all my dark places with light. I love you my dark angel, my magical mystery girl. __________________ The reason facts don’t change most people’s opinions is because most people don’t use facts to form their opinions. They use their opinions to form their “facts.” Neil Strauss