Unwritten rules....

kittygrrl · 07-31-2022, 01:14 PM

your date needs to know while seeing you?

(I thought) this might be fun..and it's been awhile since we had a new thread..or at least it seems like it

I'd like this to be a safe fun thread to express ideas or thoughts, so no judging please!

Thanks!

kittygrrl · 07-31-2022, 01:16 PM

i don't share well

kittygrrl · 07-31-2022, 06:51 PM

this is quirky...but please don't wear yellow!

Soft*Silver · 07-31-2022, 08:41 PM

The only thing that catches me off guard nowadays with people, is that the moment they start talking about haunted houses I start to panic. I have an unusually panic stricken fear about them. If somebody persists wanting to talk about them when I tell them to stop, I will literally get up and walk away regardless of where I am at. Once, I had a client bring this up during a therapy session. She was a teenager and so was being the typical teen and wanted to rattle me with it when I told her to stop. She kept talking about it. I told her I set my boundaries and if she persisted we would end the session. I was getting up to leave when she decided I was serious.
This has come up during dates too. I don’t know what it is about some people who feel like it’s fun to torment someone that they’re dating. Maybe they like seeing somebody vulnerable. And it’s one of my red flags when they don’t stop when I asked them to

clay · 08-01-2022, 08:31 AM

Fun thread, kitteh!!

Nix that cell phone...OR date ends right then!!

nina03 · 08-01-2022, 11:33 AM

I'm not in the dating scene anymore, but one of my big ones was how people treated waiters or cashiers. If they were rude, and didn't say please and thank you, there was never a second date.

VintageFemme · 08-01-2022, 11:44 AM

Talking about exes when you're with me. I used to do this in my younger years and in recent years when on a date I've realized just how rude it is and how much it bothers me. If only you could turn back time, eh?

While cell phones are fine I think as it's a necessary evil, please don't have a full on conversation with someone while on a date with me. There won't be a second date for sure.

And, I too agree with not treating wait staff with respect and dignity and tipping well.

And, shoes. I hate to say it, but I will judge you by your shoes.

kittygrrl · 08-01-2022, 12:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by clay

Fun thread, kitteh!!

Nix that cell phone...OR date ends right then!!

Clay! Such a good one!

kittygrrl · 08-01-2022, 12:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Soft*Silver

The only thing that catches me off guard nowadays with people, is that the moment they start talking about haunted houses ...

my Achilles heel ..clowns

kittygrrl · 08-01-2022, 12:22 PM

must like coffee!

clay · 08-01-2022, 02:32 PM

Enjoy camping adventures

Soft*Silver · 08-01-2022, 05:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by clay

Enjoy camping adventures

Omg…no camping!! Farming yes. Camping no. Why would anyone want to intentionally rough it for pleasure instead of work???!!!!

Mel C. · 08-01-2022, 07:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Soft*Silver

Omg…no camping!! Farming yes. Camping no. Why would anyone want to intentionally rough it for pleasure instead of work???!!!!

Agreed. Roughing it means no room service.

kittygrrl · 08-02-2022, 03:25 PM

doesn't have to love peanut butter & jelly but will eat it with a smile

kittygrrl · 08-02-2022, 03:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by clay

Enjoy camping adventures

Camping?

...it's my jam:

clay · 08-02-2022, 07:45 PM

spontaneity is a plus

kittygrrl · 08-04-2022, 12:27 PM

loves cats

clay · 08-04-2022, 07:41 PM

enjoys cooking together

Bèsame* · 08-05-2022, 03:33 PM

Please don't be a smoker of cigarettes. And by all means don't try to hide it. It's way to obvious.

Stone-Butch · 08-05-2022, 03:56 PM

When out to dinner pay attention to who you are with. Do not cruise the room looking to see who is there or make passes at the waitress. Both are rude and thoughtless. (you should be dumped)

07-31-2022, 01:14 PM	#1
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: wildflower Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in raindrops Posts: 9,220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,543 Thanked 21,856 Times in 7,002 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	Unwritten rules.... your date needs to know while seeing you? (I thought) this might be fun..and it's been awhile since we had a new thread..or at least it seems like it I'd like this to be a safe fun thread to express ideas or thoughts, so no judging please! Thanks! __________________ "MAKE AMERICA THINK AGAIN"

07-31-2022, 01:16 PM	#2
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: wildflower Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in raindrops Posts: 9,220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,543 Thanked 21,856 Times in 7,002 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	i don't share well __________________ "MAKE AMERICA THINK AGAIN"

07-31-2022, 06:51 PM	#3
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: wildflower Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in raindrops Posts: 9,220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,543 Thanked 21,856 Times in 7,002 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	this is quirky...but please don't wear yellow! __________________ "MAKE AMERICA THINK AGAIN"

07-31-2022, 08:41 PM	#4
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,911 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	The only thing that catches me off guard nowadays with people, is that the moment they start talking about haunted houses I start to panic. I have an unusually panic stricken fear about them. If somebody persists wanting to talk about them when I tell them to stop, I will literally get up and walk away regardless of where I am at. Once, I had a client bring this up during a therapy session. She was a teenager and so was being the typical teen and wanted to rattle me with it when I told her to stop. She kept talking about it. I told her I set my boundaries and if she persisted we would end the session. I was getting up to leave when she decided I was serious. This has come up during dates too. I don’t know what it is about some people who feel like it’s fun to torment someone that they’re dating. Maybe they like seeing somebody vulnerable. And it’s one of my red flags when they don’t stop when I asked them to __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

08-01-2022, 08:31 AM	#5
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,015 Thanked 31,701 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474863	Fun thread, kitteh!! Nix that cell phone...OR date ends right then!! __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

08-01-2022, 11:33 AM	#6
nina03 Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: she/her, or they/them Relationship Status: Very married and in love Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Renton, WA Posts: 332 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 242 Thanked 1,000 Times in 261 Posts Rep Power: 8811369	I'm not in the dating scene anymore, but one of my big ones was how people treated waiters or cashiers. If they were rude, and didn't say please and thank you, there was never a second date.

08-01-2022, 11:44 AM	#7
VintageFemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Outside Posts: 2,299 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,828 Thanked 7,622 Times in 1,655 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Talking about exes when you're with me. I used to do this in my younger years and in recent years when on a date I've realized just how rude it is and how much it bothers me. If only you could turn back time, eh? While cell phones are fine I think as it's a necessary evil, please don't have a full on conversation with someone while on a date with me. There won't be a second date for sure. And, I too agree with not treating wait staff with respect and dignity and tipping well. And, shoes. I hate to say it, but I will judge you by your shoes. __________________ Unfinished Business & Open to Serendipity

08-01-2022, 12:22 PM	#10
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: wildflower Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in raindrops Posts: 9,220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,543 Thanked 21,856 Times in 7,002 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	must like coffee! __________________ "MAKE AMERICA THINK AGAIN"

08-01-2022, 02:32 PM	#11
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,015 Thanked 31,701 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474863	Enjoy camping adventures __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

08-02-2022, 03:25 PM	#14
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: wildflower Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in raindrops Posts: 9,220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,543 Thanked 21,856 Times in 7,002 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	doesn't have to love peanut butter & jelly but will eat it with a smile __________________ "MAKE AMERICA THINK AGAIN"

08-02-2022, 07:45 PM	#16
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,015 Thanked 31,701 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474863	spontaneity is a plus __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

08-04-2022, 12:27 PM	#17
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: wildflower Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in raindrops Posts: 9,220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,543 Thanked 21,856 Times in 7,002 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	loves cats __________________ "MAKE AMERICA THINK AGAIN"

08-04-2022, 07:41 PM	#18
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,015 Thanked 31,701 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474863	enjoys cooking together __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

08-05-2022, 03:33 PM	#19
Bèsame* Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femm Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: loved by many Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Closer to the waves Posts: 15,301 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 28,988 Thanked 40,851 Times in 10,667 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	Please don't be a smoker of cigarettes. And by all means don't try to hide it. It's way to obvious. __________________ kisses A kiss is a whisper in your mouth. Can I borrow a kiss? I promise to give it back.

08-05-2022, 03:56 PM	#20
Stone-Butch Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stonebutch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Canada Posts: 3,611 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,201 Thanked 9,271 Times in 2,992 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Unwritten rules When out to dinner pay attention to who you are with. Do not cruise the room looking to see who is there or make passes at the waitress. Both are rude and thoughtless. (you should be dumped)