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I would like people to comment about their process of growing older, whether it be becoming elderly, or moving from youth to adulthood or adulthood to middle age.
I’m 65, soon to be 66 and while I really embrace this crone stage, I find myself pondering how difficult things can be because of my age. Little things like being able to open up canned goods. Big things like using a Rototiller. Realizing that my memory isn’t is solid as it used to be. I horrifyingly discovered that I am, THE crotchety old lady that chases kids out of her yard in the neighborhood! Lol. There’s things that I yearn to still do. There’s things I am so so happy that I did back in the day, even if I can’t do them again now. I’m pissed with all the medical tests they put me through . And I hate changing the way I eat. I always had a sweet tooth but now I’m pre-diabetic. I need to really concentrate on what foods I eat. I am so grateful that I am in a loving relationship with my husband. And at this point I’m far enough away from all my old relationships to realize the value of them, and feel grateful for the lessons I learned from them. Maybe that’s why this last relationship is working so well…
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We are all going to do it, like it or not. The worst part I find that once I retired and was on my own then the old me started to move in. I lost interest in a lot of things (not that lol) and started to bore me. I really don't like going to special places or holidays or even dinner, alone. Many people your age are interested in younger women to help them feel younger. I found that younger people had very little in common with my life style. Yes we both like going dancing but there is a huge difference in style and music preferences. I use to love to party till well into morning but not now. I use to drink and smoke and dance till dawn, not now. It is nice to chat and become somewhat acquainted from a distance but the problem is, once you meet it may be someone totally different than who you had envisioned through conversation.
If you find you have a good deal in common it is nice to know the differences you have also so that you can make an effort to enhance your relationship (if it comes to that). Do things your new partner or even friend enjoys even if you have never done so before. Be willing to overlook small things that annoy you (they will.) If possible exchange pictures, speak on the phone as it is nice to hear a voice. I have used Skype in the past to talk to the little one so I like to use it in its three steps to get to know the other person. You can message and read and answer right away, then you can talk without the phone and then you can see each other and know if this is the person you expected her to be from your conversations. I do not do Uhaul, ever. I like to know a little before I even think of making friends. Anyway are you sorry I am spouting off LOL. Well I am done and ty for letting this old butch say her piece. |
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Stamina, I have none it is gone. I do more piddling that actual get er done when doing my chores. I live way out in the country so I dint worry about kids in my yard, but it infuriates me to have the neighbors dogs in my yard or running my livestock. Keep in mind I am 100 yards off the road and my property is fenced. I don't really like going places alone anymore. Probably from PTSD from falling in 2016 while on vacation. Had I been alone then I'd been screwed. I enjoy eating out but crying kidd or kids playing on their computers with the sound up, well let's just say I loose my patience pretty quickly with parents who allow this. Parents and kids is a whole other conversation of behaviors I don't tolerate well anymore. Yes I am one of those who almost daily now will say...at the risk of sounding like Mom or Nannie or Pa...you get the idea. These kids these days...when I was 20...
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Also, I too am sounding like my parents lately, when I’m talking to other people’s kids! (I am very grateful that my grandchildren are well behaved and really nice human beings.) I have seen such brats out there. No discipline. True sense of entitlement even on the very youngest! So that’s when old ageisms creep out of my mouth! I gotta give them some wisdom! Lol.
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I’ve also come to the conclusion that should anything happened to my husband, I will not look for another living relationship. I am very independent now and I don’t think that I could share my space with anyone else but him. I would love to continue to go on dinner date soon go watch movies together etc. but I’m done with the concept of romantic partners until I die. Part of the reason is that I am now like a case manager for the elderly and disabled. I love seeing these people be very independent and living on their own, but sharing company and time with each other . Some of them are engaged and physical closeness as well and some don’t care. And the magic of that age, 70s and beyond, is all about genuine enjoyment. It seems like there’s no jealousy. They don’t question the other persons, attention, or loyalty. They don’t demand monogamy in their companionships. Life is good for them and I kind of think if anything should happen between my husband and I or if he passes first, but I think life will be for me to.
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I have been " feeling my age" more lately than ever before.
There are times i feel young(ish), then i look at how old my kids and grandkids are. My oldest grandkid will be 11 on Jan 2nd. My kids are 35,33,and 26. Yes, I was young when i had them. 2 weeks before i turned 17, two months before i turned 19 and had my youngest at 26.. i am now 52. I went to church today with my Mom, first time stepping into a church building in about 15 yrs, i was looking around at all the people( mostly elderly or grey(ish) and realized.. I fit in more with them than with the younger crowd . I remember how agile i used to be, how i was able to do bunches of things that now i am like. yeah no. I guess i don't have a real direct flow with this post.. just.. old thoughts i reckon
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(I'm offering a prize for the best answer: "Q: How many old(er) lesbians does it take to change a light bulb?" PM me your answers, and I'll pick one. I'm serious, I will send someone a (small) prize. And I'll post the winner and their answer here.) I have dreams about running . . . running everywhere, down a city street, on a country road, around the aisles of a grocery store. I'll wake up and think, "Wow, that felt good. I should do that." And then I'll remember that I can't even walk somewhere without a cane, and sitting down to take breaks after short distances, and just getting out of bed is going to hurt like the dickens in several different places.
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when my hair dresser retired when my plumber retired when my financial advisor retired when my physician retired when my therapist retired All of the above including myself, are growing older. May we all give gratitude and appreciation for enjoying our journey with grace! Ks- Last edited by ksrainbow; 12-03-2022 at 10:29 PM. Reason: Thank you Soft for this thread |
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It is wild to me to look around and see so many people i grew up with look older than i think they should be. In my mind, i am about 30 ish... active, etc... yeah no..
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I'm restarting Project Runway and it's blowing my mind how much of a baby Heidi is and Tim too. lol
Also, I found myself envying a woman at my salon today. Her hair is a lovely muted white with the very ends darker, like they have been dipped in ink. I wish my hair would wind up like that but it's not greying evenly (I have white patches on one side and the "normal" salt and pepper elsewhere) and I actually felt a wee bit of something because I knew my hair would not look like hers at any point in my life (naturally, anyway). Even though dying one's hair gray has been popular in recent years with kids, I never had that thought when I was young. Also, the time frame from when my bladder signals 'incoming' and the time that I have to get to the facilities has reduced quite a bit. I have had a few near misses this year. |
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My hair started turning white at the age of 30 or so. My mom said her hair turned around the age of 28 but went grey. My dads hair was pure white as he got older. I dyed mine for many years and by the time I got to be 50 I stopped and it is now pure white. I left it white as it looked like my dads. I like to see others pay to get what I have now LOL. With my dark brown eyes I think it looks pretty good LOL.
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realizing that at our age we have stories of our past that come to light. I'm surprised at what I can recall and how just the little things that can bring a memory to light. But it's not only me. It's taking the time to listen to others' stories as well.
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I'll be turning 62 at the end of this month. I've been noticing some subtle (and not so subtle) changes in my mind and body.
I've had bad, horrible knees for ages now.....9 surgeries, including 2 total joint replacements on each knee, amongst 4 others (arthroscopics and a major reconstruction, back in 1989). On top of this, I am into the beginning stages of Diabetes II. I was told to expect this, since I developed an endocrine disorder while on active duty in the USMC, back in the late 70's/early 80's. The military/VA now consider me to be 100%+ service connected for this problem, in itself. The diabetes is considered secondary to all of this, in addition to hypothyroidism. So, as the years pass, my body is slowly, but surely, breaking down. I walk with a cane nowdays and take a handful of pills each day to try to control the symptoms of the problems I was warned about getting, earlier in my life. The Testosterone I inject, every 2 weeks, has caused me to lose most of the hair on top of my head (male patterned baldness), though I totally don't lack for hair everywhere else!!! I have gray temples now, and most of the hair on my chin (I have a full beard) is now gray. I never ask, "What next??", because, as providence would have it, the fates would send more maladies to visit upon me, just for asking. Someone once said, "Never regret growing old. It is a privilege denied to many.". I never heard anyone tell anyone else to "Never regret getting old AND SICK", as that doesn't really seem to be the object of the game. Does it?? Best wishes for all of us, for good health and peace. ~Theo~
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Luckily for me I'm physically very fit and athletic. Even though I'm 60 my younger co-workers on my very physically demanding jobs are unable to keep up with me. It's my memory that isn't, in the words of a supportive friend, airtight. I forget important conversations, the names of people who I've known for decades, tasks I haven't written down... pretty much everything. This afternoon I dressed up and rushed out of my house to attend the pre-party, the party, and then the concert I had carefully lined up on my calendar. Well, it turns out all that is happening tomorrow, not today. I couldn't figure out why no one was answering the door. I called a friend/co-worker who should have been at the pre-party and she set me straight. I'm beginning to think I should refrain from telling my other co-workers about this, and that I should cease mentioning my memory lapses which I currently laugh about openly. The friend I called today to let me into the party which is happening tomorrow is eight years my senior. She reassured me conspiratorially that she wouldn't tell anyone that I had mixed up the days. Hrrmmmm. Friends tell you that when they think you've just done something they think would be humiliating.
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my plumber: Thankful I have not had to find another one. my physician: My new PA who has been following my rotator cuff injury-she ROCKS! my financial advisor: Replaced by his daughter *All in the Family*works for me! my therapist: Medicare suggested a new provider-appt next Monday! Overall-Getting older is less stressful in hindsight than it was when I started this journey. Enjoying this trek better than I anticipated. Ks- |
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