Long Distance Relationships

Sam · 06-13-2010, 06:40 PM

Dude.

i so understand your frustration.

Although i am no longer in a LDR, i was for 18 months. OMG it was seriously hard. So many ups and downs.

Be happy you are making it work and august aint that far away. You have 3 years under your belt, its working it self out.

Just keep doing what your doing and before you know it, it will be august.

My ex and i broke up every month for something or another, but with deep communication we picked ourselves up and moved on.

At this point after the breakup we are not even friends. i wish things were different, but LD is so hard.

If i had to do it again, i would do things differently, serious note!

Good Luck Linus, you got this in the bag

PearlsNLace · 06-13-2010, 06:51 PM

When Paphigleo and I started dating we had to seriously consider wich of the 2 evils we were willing to face-

Having a long distance relationship,
or
Doing the 2nd date UHual thing.

We decided we would rather move to fast, and face the risks, than the expense and agony of the long distance.

We planned an exit strategy for each of us, if moving him in didnt work. We planned a dating strategy too- that is still in effect.

He moved here in January, and at this point I do think we made the right choice.

My heart goes out to each of you who are working with the distance. It can be a rough one.

ravfem · 07-20-2010, 01:55 PM

...i think this is an appropriate quote:

Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

chefhottie25 · 08-25-2010, 12:17 PM

i have recently started a long distance relationship. we communicate in some form daily...but it is limited because we also have a 3 hour time difference. so when it is getting late or past my bedtime; she is in the early evening hours. i have sacrificed a few hours of sleep here and there so we can talk longer. it is definitely worth it. i hope for the day when we are in the same time zone. it sucks waking up alone.

Linus · 08-25-2010, 12:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by chefhottie25

i have recently started a long distance relationship. we communicate in some form daily...but it is limited because we also have a 3 hour time difference. so when it is getting late or past my bedtime; she is in the early evening hours. i have sacrificed a few hours of sleep here and there so we can talk longer. it is definitely worth it. i hope for the day when we are in the same time zone. it sucks waking up alone.

chefhottie: I can appreciate that. It's hard when it's an LDR. It's harder when there is a timezone difference. One of the things I'd do is go back to old-fashioned romance and write love letters. I even once scanned my hands and sent that to K so she could "touch" me.

chefhottie25 · 08-25-2010, 01:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Linus

chefhottie: I can appreciate that. It's hard when it's an LDR. It's harder when there is a timezone difference. One of the things I'd do is go back to old-fashioned romance and write love letters. I even once scanned my hands and sent that to K so she could "touch" me.

that is a great idea. i have been sending her missing you cards

Waldo · 08-25-2010, 01:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Linus

chefhottie: I can appreciate that. It's hard when it's an LDR. It's harder when there is a timezone difference. One of the things I'd do is go back to old-fashioned romance and write love letters. I even once scanned my hands and sent that to K so she could "touch" me.

When are you moving Linus - August is almost over. Have you found a job out in LA?

Linus · 08-25-2010, 01:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Waldo

When are you moving Linus - August is almost over. Have you found a job out in LA?

August 31 is the day I fly to L.A with the cranky old cat. (she is soooo going to love this, I just know it.. NOT).

Movers come on Friday for all the boxes; a friend comes over the weekend for some stuff she wanted and 1800GotJunk will get the rest on Monday.

As for job, my job can be anywhere in the US as long as I'm near an airport.

So no job switching for me.

07-20-2010, 01:55 PM	#3
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06-13-2010, 06:40 PM	#1
Sam Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 2/11/2011 Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: I'll let you know Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1,131 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,101 Thanked 668 Times in 363 Posts Rep Power: 0	Dude. i so understand your frustration. Although i am no longer in a LDR, i was for 18 months. OMG it was seriously hard. So many ups and downs. Be happy you are making it work and august aint that far away. You have 3 years under your belt, its working it self out. Just keep doing what your doing and before you know it, it will be august. My ex and i broke up every month for something or another, but with deep communication we picked ourselves up and moved on. At this point after the breakup we are not even friends. i wish things were different, but LD is so hard. If i had to do it again, i would do things differently, serious note! Good Luck Linus, you got this in the bag

06-13-2010, 06:51 PM	#2
PearlsNLace Member How Do You Identify?: queer Preferred Pronoun?: They/Them & her/she Relationship Status: Lucky, very lucky Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portlandia, Oregon Posts: 427 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 875 Thanked 1,284 Times in 315 Posts Rep Power: 6505518	When Paphigleo and I started dating we had to seriously consider wich of the 2 evils we were willing to face- Having a long distance relationship, or Doing the 2nd date UHual thing. We decided we would rather move to fast, and face the risks, than the expense and agony of the long distance. We planned an exit strategy for each of us, if moving him in didnt work. We planned a dating strategy too- that is still in effect. He moved here in January, and at this point I do think we made the right choice. My heart goes out to each of you who are working with the distance. It can be a rough one.

08-25-2010, 12:17 PM	#4
chefhottie25 Member How Do You Identify?: boi Preferred Pronoun?: hy Relationship Status: happily taken Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: ohio Posts: 1,406 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26 Thanked 889 Times in 478 Posts Rep Power: 1175217	i have recently started a long distance relationship. we communicate in some form daily...but it is limited because we also have a 3 hour time difference. so when it is getting late or past my bedtime; she is in the early evening hours. i have sacrificed a few hours of sleep here and there so we can talk longer. it is definitely worth it. i hope for the day when we are in the same time zone. it sucks waking up alone.