For those for whom Mother's Day is not a Good Day

Kätzchen · 05-11-2025, 07:52 PM

Thank you Ruthie for your thread.

I’m a mother; and my own mother, as nice and sincere as she once could be, used to be a big part of my life until I learned how she betrayed us at our own expense. I still experience fallout each Mother’s Day. 💔

Mother’s Day can be such a cruel holiday.

Thanks Ruthie for a place to come sit and breathe during stressful days like today.

GeorgiaMa'am · 05-11-2025, 09:36 PM

Happy Mother's Day, Mama. This is the second Mother's Day of my life that we can't be together. I miss you so much.

Remember how Mother's Day used to be our day, alone? My birthday only a few days away, or occasionally the same day. No dad, no sister, just you and me, the only day of the year that was just ours. We would do things together like bake, or when you were younger we would go to the plant nursery and plant things in my yard. Several years we went to the Botanical Gardens; remember the year we took a class on native plants? Sometimes we substituted Saturday for Sunday so we could do fun things like take a class or sightsee. Once we took the whole weekend and went to Callaway Gardens. We both loved the butterfly house. We stayed in a cabin, and you got suspicious when I let you beat me at Scrabble.

This year, I baked an apple walnut cake and thought of all the delicious things we made together in that Bundt pan. It turned out pretty well, but it was a lot of work. There were lots of apples to peel and chop, and stirring the thick batter was like stirring peanut butter. I twisted my wrist and bent an industrial stainless steel spoon stirring it; sorry about your spoon. I got that recipe from the New York Times. Don't think I'll be making that one again.

I love you. I hope you have a wonderful Mother's Day wherever you are, whatever you're doing, whether or not you're a mother now. I will always remember you.

Gráinne · 05-11-2025, 10:45 PM

Definitely not my favorite holiday. Working in the store, it's all flowers and cards and "Happy Mother's Day" to me until I'd rather stick a fork in my eye than go on.
My mother died a week before Mother's Day 1996. One of my children is passed, another is in shaky health and maybe worse, becoming more disabled. I know it's irrational but I had three, and while I know one is thriving (and called his mother), I couldn't help the other two. I love my children beyond distraction but TBH if I'd known what could happen, I'm not sure I'd have done it.

Bèsame* · 05-13-2025, 05:19 PM

Well ..it definitely was a trying day. First Mother's Day without her. I stayed away from the stores, that's for sure.

I remember we had pedicures last year and I got one on Saturday night. It was very sad, looking over at the empty chair. Sunday morning, I went and got an apple fritter, our favorite donut. I had coffee in a china coffee cup I had given her one year.

The rest of the day, was just memories of Mom.

I miss you so....💝💝

05-11-2025, 07:52 PM	#1
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: May 2010 Location: Sharing my life with my granddaughter, family & friends. ツ Posts: 16,142 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,544 Thanked 33,569 Times in 10,678 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	Thank you Ruthie for your thread. I’m a mother; and my own mother, as nice and sincere as she once could be, used to be a big part of my life until I learned how she betrayed us at our own expense. I still experience fallout each Mother’s Day. 💔 Mother’s Day can be such a cruel holiday. Thanks Ruthie for a place to come sit and breathe during stressful days like today. __________________ “The way someone treats you is not a reflection of your worth: It’s a reflection of their emotional capacity,” ~ Jillian Turecki.

05-11-2025, 09:36 PM	#2
GeorgiaMa'am Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Ma'am Preferred Pronoun?: Ma'am Relationship Status: widowed - involved, poly Join Date: May 2010 Location: Georgia Posts: 6,452 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39,638 Thanked 28,506 Times in 5,821 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Happy Mother's Day, Mama. This is the second Mother's Day of my life that we can't be together. I miss you so much. Remember how Mother's Day used to be our day, alone? My birthday only a few days away, or occasionally the same day. No dad, no sister, just you and me, the only day of the year that was just ours. We would do things together like bake, or when you were younger we would go to the plant nursery and plant things in my yard. Several years we went to the Botanical Gardens; remember the year we took a class on native plants? Sometimes we substituted Saturday for Sunday so we could do fun things like take a class or sightsee. Once we took the whole weekend and went to Callaway Gardens. We both loved the butterfly house. We stayed in a cabin, and you got suspicious when I let you beat me at Scrabble. This year, I baked an apple walnut cake and thought of all the delicious things we made together in that Bundt pan. It turned out pretty well, but it was a lot of work. There were lots of apples to peel and chop, and stirring the thick batter was like stirring peanut butter. I twisted my wrist and bent an industrial stainless steel spoon stirring it; sorry about your spoon. I got that recipe from the New York Times. Don't think I'll be making that one again. I love you. I hope you have a wonderful Mother's Day wherever you are, whatever you're doing, whether or not you're a mother now. I will always remember you. __________________ -GeorgiaMa'am It's true that you are blessed and lucky It's true that you are touched by something that will grow and bloom in you. -10,000 Maniacs

05-11-2025, 10:45 PM	#3
Gráinne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Neither, nada, out of the box Preferred Pronoun?: My name always works Relationship Status: Happy whatever happens Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Little Rock Posts: 1,864 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,117 Thanked 7,386 Times in 1,457 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Definitely not my favorite holiday. Working in the store, it's all flowers and cards and "Happy Mother's Day" to me until I'd rather stick a fork in my eye than go on. My mother died a week before Mother's Day 1996. One of my children is passed, another is in shaky health and maybe worse, becoming more disabled. I know it's irrational but I had three, and while I know one is thriving (and called his mother), I couldn't help the other two. I love my children beyond distraction but TBH if I'd known what could happen, I'm not sure I'd have done it. __________________ The odds of going to the store for a loaf of bread and coming out with only a loaf of bread are three billion to one. ~Erma Bombeck

05-13-2025, 05:19 PM	#4
Bèsame* Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femm Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: loved by many Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Closer to the waves Posts: 15,405 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,157 Thanked 40,976 Times in 10,753 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Well ..it definitely was a trying day. First Mother's Day without her. I stayed away from the stores, that's for sure. I remember we had pedicures last year and I got one on Saturday night. It was very sad, looking over at the empty chair. Sunday morning, I went and got an apple fritter, our favorite donut. I had coffee in a china coffee cup I had given her one year. The rest of the day, was just memories of Mom. I miss you so....💝💝 __________________ kisses A kiss is a whisper in your mouth. Can I borrow a kiss? I promise to give it back.