Respect of Femme Sensabilities

[evolveme]

Originally Posted by Corkey

So you are basically questioning peoples honesty with your own bias? Yea I can see how that would be a problem.
I don't care if a femme, butch str8 gay trans what ever label you want to attach cusses. I'm an adult, if it offends me I'll say something. Thing is it usually doesn't unless the (word) in question is racist, sexist, agist, fat intolerant, or in other words is attacking another human being.

Well, Corkey, I utilized the term "we," in order to show solidarity and in an attempt not to "other" my listener. I knew that whether I did that or not wouldn't matter, because more often than not, and quite unfortunately, people tend to personalize the opinions of others, as you appear to have done here.

See, I use profanity quite often. Perhaps it's a matter of class conditioning and that I've never made the attempt to rewire my language so that others could feel more comfortable or accept my language as less-offensive.

As a result, and like Snow, I've been told, that I should use more appropriate language for a "lady" more times than I can count. In nearly every relationship that I've been in, when my then-partner wished to hurt me, I was told I was "trashy," not that it hurt. Corkey, I'm not trashy, but my mother was born of poor and not-even-working class people.

Subsequently, I've witnessed how much more free men and masculine people are to use profane terms and expressions. Further, if a masculine person does not hold to certain Emily Post-like protocols, well, s/he/hy's just being a guy. But far be it for a woman to let fly a "good goddamn" on a Sunday morning, brother. My opinion is that folks really don't feel the same about it. And I think there is a perfectly patriarchal, socially-conditioned reason for it.

Which means it isn't personal. Not one bit.