The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

Soon · 06-26-2010, 07:23 AM

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Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

Good Morning Lofters and happy Saturday. I hope everyone is doing good. I've got a stomach bug so am pretty much laying low. Have a wonderful day everyone!

cuddlyfemme · 06-26-2010, 07:27 AM

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Originally Posted by HowSoonIsNow

thank you so much for the birthday wishes!!

Sunny · 06-26-2010, 07:33 AM

I hope everyone is staying cooooollllllll! It has been pretty hot here by the ocean. We do have a breeze all the time though. It makes it bearable. Well have to go to work today at least there is air there. They do keep it steamy.

cuddlyfemme · 06-26-2010, 07:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Sunny

I hope everyone is staying cooooollllllll! It has been pretty hot here by the ocean. We do have a breeze all the time though. It makes it bearable. Well have to go to work today at least there is air there. They do keep it steamy.

i love ocean breezes....i'm glad where you work there is at least air. its supposed to get hot here in, columbia too. i think today is a day where i stay inside

Lady_Wu · 06-26-2010, 07:59 AM

HAPPY BIRTHDAY,
CUDDLYfEMME!!!

cuddlyfemme · 06-26-2010, 08:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Lady_Wu

HAPPY BIRTHDAY,
CUDDLYfEMME!!!

Thank you so much Lady_Wu for the birthday wishes!!!!

ruthie14 · 06-26-2010, 01:58 PM

I am such an idiot. Apparently I have trouble figuring out if someone is interested in me or not. Been dating this one woman... told me she was interested.. Asked me for dates... flirted.. etc etc.. now she tells me she is not "ready for a relationship". Is she? or is she just NOT interested. We found each other on a dating site for heavens sake. WTF... do I have a sign on my head? Having a stiff drink. My head says its her issue... but the rest of me is thinking there is something wrong with me. I give up.

cuddlyfemme · 06-26-2010, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

I am such an idiot. Apparently I have trouble figuring out if someone is interested in me or not. Been dating this one woman... told me she was interested.. Asked me for dates... flirted.. etc etc.. now she tells me she is not "ready for a relationship". Is she? or is she just NOT interested. We found each other on a dating site for heavens sake. WTF... do I have a sign on my head? Having a stiff drink. My head says its her issue... but the rest of me is thinking there is something wrong with me. I give up.

Ruthie, I'm so sorry that happened...its happened to me too, so i understand. I just don't get it, why people do this. If they aren't ready for a relationship, ok....but to put yourself on a dating site, find someone and say "i'm not ready for a relationship" is something i can't wrap my head around

Jet · 06-26-2010, 05:06 PM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

I am such an idiot. Apparently I have trouble figuring out if someone is interested in me or not. Been dating this one woman... told me she was interested.. Asked me for dates... flirted.. etc etc.. now she tells me she is not "ready for a relationship". Is she? or is she just NOT interested. We found each other on a dating site for heavens sake. WTF... do I have a sign on my head? Having a stiff drink. My head says its her issue... but the rest of me is thinking there is something wrong with me. I give up.

Sorry Ruthie,
but I don't get why you're upset. Did she tell you at the onset that she wanted a relationship and then changed her story? Can u just date and have a good time without commitments? If I'm way off the mark, it's because I don't see the issue with her not wanting a relationship. jus' sayin'

Oneida · 06-26-2010, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

I am such an idiot. Apparently I have trouble figuring out if someone is interested in me or not. Been dating this one woman... told me she was interested.. Asked me for dates... flirted.. etc etc.. now she tells me she is not "ready for a relationship". Is she? or is she just NOT interested. We found each other on a dating site for heavens sake. WTF... do I have a sign on my head? Having a stiff drink. My head says its her issue... but the rest of me is thinking there is something wrong with me. I give up.

I get it, Ruthie. It stinks, but you have to dust yourself off and remain positive. She wasn't the one. Better to find that out sooner than later (i.e., after a lot of invested time, etc. That's my theory anyway.)

Be good to you!

Luckydwg07 · 06-28-2010, 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

I am such an idiot. Apparently I have trouble figuring out if someone is interested in me or not. Been dating this one woman... told me she was interested.. Asked me for dates... flirted.. etc etc.. now she tells me she is not "ready for a relationship". Is she? or is she just NOT interested. We found each other on a dating site for heavens sake. WTF... do I have a sign on my head? Having a stiff drink. My head says its her issue... but the rest of me is thinking there is something wrong with me. I give up.

I've met you Ruthie.....aint nothin wrong with you girl

Some people are just punks Ruthie & don't know their own mind or they are leading people on by have several to pick from the online dating pool and thinks its one of those bachelor shows on tv. Just plain rude!!

IttyBittyFem · 06-29-2010, 03:53 AM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

I am such an idiot. Apparently I have trouble figuring out if someone is interested in me or not. Been dating this one woman... told me she was interested.. Asked me for dates... flirted.. etc etc.. now she tells me she is not "ready for a relationship". Is she? or is she just NOT interested. We found each other on a dating site for heavens sake. WTF... do I have a sign on my head? Having a stiff drink. My head says its her issue... but the rest of me is thinking there is something wrong with me. I give up.

THERE IS
NOTHING
WRONG WITH YOU

Apparently, you two just didn't click. It happens Ruthie. However, your date was already showing poor signs of communication, so it just may be a good thing how it ended up.

Chalk this one up for experience. Not every single person you meet will work out. There's lots of weeding to be performed prior to walking in the Garden of Love.

I think you're super special and any Butch that's fortunate enough to cross your path, will know that instantly when you're just being you.

06-26-2010, 07:33 AM	#3
Sunny Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: New Jersey Posts: 423 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 396 Thanked 745 Times in 283 Posts Rep Power: 6521617	Hot! Hot! Hot! I hope everyone is staying cooooollllllll! It has been pretty hot here by the ocean. We do have a breeze all the time though. It makes it bearable. Well have to go to work today at least there is air there. They do keep it steamy. __________________ Sunny

06-26-2010, 07:59 AM	#5
Lady_Wu Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Queer Stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: M'Lady Relationship Status: given up looking sigh Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: somewhere buried under a pile of books Posts: 197 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 285 Thanked 300 Times in 105 Posts Rep Power: 155956	Happy Birthday! HAPPY BIRTHDAY, CUDDLYfEMME!!! __________________ I'm the Yin in the Yang and the Yang in the Yin.

06-26-2010, 01:58 PM	#7
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	I am such an idiot. Apparently I have trouble figuring out if someone is interested in me or not. Been dating this one woman... told me she was interested.. Asked me for dates... flirted.. etc etc.. now she tells me she is not "ready for a relationship". Is she? or is she just NOT interested. We found each other on a dating site for heavens sake. WTF... do I have a sign on my head? Having a stiff drink. My head says its her issue... but the rest of me is thinking there is something wrong with me. I give up.