Dykes And Lesbians To Watch Out For

[naturlover_52]

I am really glad that this page got started. How do identify....as a lesbian and a soft butch one. I have a hard time w/ the terms Dyke and w/ Queer. Mainly because that is not how I see myself. I think w/ the term Dyke, because it has been used for many years as a way of putting us down. As for Queer I know that it is has several connotations, but for me I feel that I don't fit the dictionary definition.

I don't care for labels...I am just me. I am a 41 soft butch lesbian who loves other soft butch women.

NOW I just need to find one near me.

[AtLast]

I'm good with dyke, queer, butch.... Yet, there are times on the site (and the old one) that I too, just get tired of our preoccupation with labels overall. I want to know about the person, not a label.

It is really interesting to see how different age groups, locations, gender identifications and just personal history differ with these terms. But, this is exactly why looking at the individual and what they have experienced is much more valuable than the labels attached to them.

I am mainly a lesbian when I do look at my core.

Oh my giddy aunt! I love you lot, and this site, you challenge me to think and question all sorts about myself and learn about how other folks experience the world too.

I've always considered myself a third gender; I happily id'd as Dyke and Queer for donkeys years; much later in life I found that Genderqueer was an empowering label for me; I prefer masculine pronouns for myself; I'm very happy to be a Genderqueer Dyke.

Whenever I've been called "dyke" as an epithet (it's a very rare occurrence for those that call other folks names generally assume I'm a fella until I open my mouth and speak) I usually commend them on their accurate powers of observation - one just has to encourage the less fortunate when they get something right!

My girl is a Queer Femme but also happy to id as a Dyke.

I have many friends who refuse to claim the label Dyke or Queer, they're Lesbian or Gay.

I struggle with 'gay' I'm definitely not 'gay', I'm far too grumpy to ever be described thus

[BullDog]

Happy Friday Dykes, Lesbians and Friends. It's been a little quiet in the Lesbian Zone lately. Hopefully that's because everyone is enjoying their summer! Welcome to rawk, naturlover_52, Incubus and anyone else new to the thread that I missed.

[The_Lady_Snow]

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[Apocalipstic]

TGIF indeed!

I have never been in here because I thought it was about the cartoon, and I have not read it in so long, I was not sure what I would say....

But since it is not just about the cartoon.....here goes....

I ID as Dyke first and have since back in 1983. One day I was walking down my hall in my college dorm and someone called me a "Fag" behind my back. I spun around and before I could even think...my mouth said "if you are going to call me names, then get your terms right, I am a Dyke, D-Y-K-E!" spun back around and marched off down the hall of my East Tennessee Southern Baptist college with a sneer on my face and my head held high!

I have never had any desire to attend a women's music festival...when I first came out I was given so much crap for being girly that the last place I wanted to be was women's land.....plus I think it might at the very least involve sharing a bathroom....eeek.

I've never really listened to Lesbian music much (meaning at all) unless whomever I was dating at the time made me.

I was thrilled in the 90's to find the B-F community, I had no idea that there were Dykes out there who like Dykes like me. Yeay!

Great thread BullDog!

[lipstixgal]

I id as a lesbian femme woman but have used the term dyke but really don't like it much. I guess it depends on the person but I would rather someone call me a lesbian!!