The Price of Necessity

[Sachita]

no doubt we gotta eat but what are we really spending money on? We're spending money of shit that makes us sick cost us more money to purchase medical care and it cost us the quality of our life.

I mean come on do we really need disposable storage containers and it's a billion dollar industry. Most of the time we re-use them and eventually throw out. Doesnt it make more sense to buy glass storage containers and keep using them forever? PLUS glass isn't leeching harmful chemicals. Or at least buy plastic's you can use a while.

[Glenn]

Well..er.. I was enjoying my coffee and donut this mornin...

[asphaltcowboi]

i was reading this and it made me wonder???
so what about the rubber butch necessities? do you get a new one with every g/f? or do you use a condom and recycle?
if you get a new one with a new g/f what happens to the old one? do they use it to pave the hiways like they do old tires?

[AtLast]

Originally Posted by cody

i was reading this and it made me wonder???
so what about the rubber butch necessities? do you get a new one with every g/f? or do you use a condom and recycle?
if you get a new one with a new g/f what happens to the old one? do they use it to pave the hiways like they do old tires?

LOL... you have a damn point!

Personally, I recycle unless that is not kewl with a lover. Then, again, I am way past the age of multi-gfs! And frankly, dildoes are not the main event and certainly not a necessity for me. simply An accessory that is always one to be negotiated and just not required.

[Sachita]

omg! lol

I insist on my own but I'm with Susan.. I don't change lovers that often and it's not a major priority. when it becomes one then we decide together.

but really is a dildo a necessity? What say you?

[betenoire]

Originally Posted by cody

i was reading this and it made me wonder???
so what about the rubber butch necessities? do you get a new one with every g/f? or do you use a condom and recycle?
if you get a new one with a new g/f what happens to the old one? do they use it to pave the hiways like they do old tires?

I hope to god you don't buy ones made of rubber. Do you know how porous and cootie-hold-on-to rubber is?

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by betenoire

I hope to god you don't buy ones made of rubber. Do you know how porous and cootie-hold-on-to rubber is?

lol- cootie grabbers

[asphaltcowboi]

Originally Posted by betenoire

I hope to god you don't buy ones made of rubber. Do you know how porous and cootie-hold-on-to rubber is?

yes im sure of this... i dont know what they are made of.. i was just wondering what do they do with um are they a recycle item? or is there a huge pile of them at the dump like the plastic bottels.. lol no cooties here.. and no its not nessecary to use them all the time.
it would be weird to think i was driving on them

[Diva]

HA!
I have my own.....I know where they've been.

And I'm SO not wiping with strips of newspaper.....I just must draw the line SOMEwhere....

I'm looking into getting a small wind turbine to generate electricity....I love the idea of having so much electricity, the electric company would pay ME for a change!

[Rockinonahigh]

I agree with ALH about dildos not being a nesary unless its something agreed apon by the one ur with.I have found over they years that wasnt as big a deal as I was led to belive when I first came out years ago..I just go by the adage that the lady gets what the lady wants and when.As for recycleing ..no I dont.

Diva.. as for the wind turbine,its a great idea,my son wanted to put solar panels ond the house but the expense is huge..but the wind turbine will work out fine.Besides its nice to get money back from the electric company after paying the bill for years.

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by Diva

HA!
I have my own.....I know where they've been.

And I'm SO not wiping with strips of newspaper.....I just must draw the line SOMEwhere....

I'm looking into getting a small wind turbine to generate electricity....I love the idea of having so much electricity, the electric company would pay ME for a change!

maybe where you are there's good wind. Here there isnt but a combination of things and having them pay you for a change is good.

So that leads us to a real necessity "ELECTRICITY"

Its one of those things that truly is luxury that we turned into a necessity. So much so that many power bills equal a mortgage payment for others. Is the cost of being cool or warm when it's cold worth a few hundred a month?

[AtLast]

Originally Posted by Sachita

omg! lol

I insist on my own but I'm with Susan.. I don't change lovers that often and it's not a major priority. when it becomes one then we decide together.

but really is a dildo a necessity? What say you?

I'll say it again... no it is not. I know this is a personal thang for each of us.... which is kewl. What can get me miffed is having the dildo as every butches necessity stereotype. We are (as well as femmes) different about this stuff.

LOL... yup, thinking choosing one's own is part of positive self-care! Plus, shopping together can be a very erotic and sensual part of the dance between us. And one that can reveal a lot of important information that any lover would like to know about someone they are sharing intimacy with.

OK... yes, I am a monogamous, pretty much vanilla, non-stone, FIB... and am aware of the fact that everyone is different about this stuff. Enjoy whatever you find enjoyable! Bar none!

[SuperFemme]

Originally Posted by AtLastHome

I'll say it again... no it is not. I know this is a personal thang for each of us.... which is kewl. What can get me miffed is having the dildo as every butches necessity stereotype. We are (as well as femmes) different about this stuff.

LOL... yup, thinking choosing one's own is part of positive self-care! Plus, shopping together can be a very erotic and sensual part of the dance between us. And one that can reveal a lot of important information that any lover would like to know about someone they are sharing intimacy with.

OK... yes, I am a monogamous, pretty much vanilla, non-stone, FIB... and am aware of the fact that everyone is different about this stuff. Enjoy whatever you find enjoyable! Bar none!

What irks me about the whole strap-on/dildo thing is that it is equated with masculinity and maleness. As if a woman cannot enjoy it as a woman.

It also irks me that it is a shocker for a Femme to use.

With that said, I am not sure that I'd call it a necessity. I'm creative, and could sustain quite the healthy sexual relationship w/o one, but I do *likey*.

So I suppose that makes it a luxury since it's not in the do or die category.

On the other hand, my beloved is a lot like Jess in regards to the necessity portion.

How's that for an explanation?

I also feel like computers and cell phones are a luxury. I am a mean mean mommy who laughs when her children ask for cell phones. My rule is that nobody on earth under 16 needs a cell phone. Too much b/s happens with them and children to the point that I feel 16 to be the youngest (and a mature 16 at that) a kid should have a phone. It can be a good financial lesson for a teen as well as convenient because you can GPS where the child is.

We've had to pay attention to necessities due to high dollars spent on medication for me.

So: no "convenient" food. that means no stick it in the microwave for 3 minutes and have dinner. instant gratification in the kitchen is costly. i like to plan meals anymore and have the family work together to cook the meal plans. it saves us over $100 a week and gives us good family time.

No fancy cable channels. You'd be amazed at how much more time the kids spend with us when there are not so many choices. We end up playing board games.

Vacations. Not a necessity. Staycations have become fun, which can include camping in the backyard, slumber parties, and free things close to home,. I can't even tell you how much we save.

Newspapers and magazines: luxury (use the library)

Super fancy hair dresser: luxury. same for mani-pedi., it's fun to do at home with the girls and just go to a salon once every three months.

Extra Hot Double Mocha Upside Down Skinny Caramel Macchiato: Luxury.
I quit Starbucks and saves over $25 a week.

Using appliances any old time: Luxury. We wait it out for non-peak hours.

Movies: luxury to go to theater. we wait for dvd's to come out rather than spend $13 per person. With the exception of that damned Twilight because my kid got the grades necessary to make me utilize an exception.

i am rambling now. blah blah blah i could go on for hours. and hours.

[CherylNYC]

Originally Posted by Sachita

omg! lol

I insist on my own but I'm with Susan.. I don't change lovers that often and it's not a major priority. when it becomes one then we decide together.

but really is a dildo a necessity? What say you?

It's necessary for me, and that's why I have my own. It fits just right, too. If someone were to have a problem using mine we could go shopping together.

Derail:
I'm non-monogamous, and a big advocate of safer sex for lesbians. I always use a condom. That way it's fresh every time. Gloves, too. There are many women in our community who have Hepatitis C. Please don't scrimp on safety in the pursuit of minimising waste.

[AtLast]

Originally Posted by CherylNYC

It's necessary for me, and that's why I have my own. It fits just right, too. If someone were to have a problem using mine we could go shopping together.

Derail:
I'm non-monogamous, and a big advocate of safer sex for lesbians. I always use a condom. That way it's fresh every time. Gloves, too. There are many women in our community who have Hepatitis C. Please don't scrimp on safety in the pursuit of minimising waste.

I am SO glad to see you post about Hep C!!! The stats most certainly back you up! Derail here, not a problem to me at all!

And I agree absolutely that safer-sex techniques ought to be and remain on our necessity lists! Sometimes, I am baffled at the neglect in our community concerning our responsibilities with sexual activity. And this has no bearing whatsoever on being poly, monogamous, stone, liking BSDM.. not one thing! Hep C is alive and well in terms of its threat. New data was recently published that we really need to pay attention to.

Also, you are actually bringing something I tyried to gety across in another post---- each of us have our sexual necessities and I really a woman/femme that I am or might want to be sexual with to make her desires, likes, dislikes known. I may not find dildoes/strapping, et. al. necessary (for myself), but a lover might. Just because I don't does not mean I don't enjoy a lover's joy with getting what she wants and likes.


Gloves are grand.... and hey, can be a great part of sensuality... and hotness! They come in long, short... different colors with patterns that rawk, flavors, and it is always good to have some non-latex gloves, dental and damns around! Some people are alergic to latex. Once, I did see a woman that had reactions to silicone... and there are dildoes made of other products available.


LOL.. be prepared!

[christie]

Originally Posted by Sachita

omg! lol

I insist on my own but I'm with Susan.. I don't change lovers that often and it's not a major priority. when it becomes one then we decide together.

but really is a dildo a necessity? What say you?

Just a thought -

To me, its a dildo. To Jess, its a cock. Specifically, Hys cock.

To me, not a necessity. To Jess, yep, it is.

Does that make any sense? We identify the same object very differently which makes it an accessory (as AHL mentioned) to me yet its a necessity for Jess.

I think that also brings about necessity vs. luxury as being very subjective. What I might deem a luxury might be quite necessary for someone else.

I do like the idea of the thread - I think it will be interesting to see the different perspectives.

Here's one for you - Swiffer. To me, a necessity. To someone else, it might seem a luxury and a waste. I have pointed out to someone specifically that if they would like to bring that dust rag and furniture polish over and have at it, I certainly wouldn't stop them!

[Rockinonahigh]

after a fue months out of the closet I met a femme who said all butches had to have sex toys,so I went to Dejavu (strip club/sex toy store) spent a ton of bucks on some very expensive toys and safe sex materals.Yes,ive ued them but I have always been possitive that whom ever I was with at the time understoood that I used safe sex.What has amazed me is at the women who think im nuts....really...some have been down right put out about it.All I can say is sorry ladies this is how it is.

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by christie0918

I think that also brings about necessity vs. luxury as being very subjective. What I might deem a luxury might be quite necessary for someone else.

I do like the idea of the thread - I think it will be interesting to see the different perspectives.

Here's one for you - Swiffer. To me, a necessity. To someone else, it might seem a luxury and a waste. I have pointed out to someone specifically that if they would like to bring that dust rag and furniture polish over and have at it, I certainly wouldn't stop them!

lol- OMG I was addicted to swiffer floor thingy's. I went thru a ton of vacuum cleaners with all this damn dogs. I bought this Eureka Pet Lover vacuum and have been preaching about it like crazy. Theres a recent post on dancingcreekfarm.com This is turning into a NECESSITY for sure! I can hold it in my hand, put whatever nozzle I'm using and start sucking away. Trust me when I tell you that you'll replace Swiffer even for dusting. This thing rocks. Nothing I've ever used sucks up pet hair like this. C the girl that cleans my house, which you also know, loves it too and uses it everywhere.