Neurodiversity

[violaine]

jen, i'm really sorry about the recent loss of your dog losing a close family member is so difficult, and i hope that you will be gentle to yourself right now.

i also understand the feelings of frustration with the 'no hidden agenda' situation. repeat.repeat.repeat. there's more to write about this, and it gets very confusing to me too, so you're not alone!

do you think some of the police or not 'projection' of DA being 'mean, rude, and devious' simply stems from a lack of capacity [wiring] to even go deeper and/or to see outside of self, with compassion - in some, maybe it just isn't there ?

in that case, what do you do- keep apologising?

[suebee]

This is a story similar to Violaine's: an eighteen year old autistic boy was picked up by the police and held in jail because they thought he was drunk. I think his real offense was "walking while autistic".

[christie]

Originally Posted by violaine

http://www.newsweek.com/2010/07/08/i...c-a-crime.html

Originally Posted by cybersuebee

This is a story similar to Violaine's: an eighteen year old autistic boy was picked up by the police and held in jail because they thought he was drunk. I think his real offense was "walking while autistic".

Belle and Sue -

Thank you both for posting these stories. I think that awareness training for our emergency responders and our law enforcement agencies is needed more than ever and I am encouraged at the number of agencies taking steps to do so.

There has recently been a new awareness site launched.

http://awaare.org/

There are forms that you can print out and complete and take to your local law enforcement/emergency response agencies to make them aware of family members and their challenges. I have them on my desk to complete and take to our local sheriff's office and to drop off at the volunteer fire dept down the street. Even as functional as Bratboy is, I worry about how he might react during an emergency situation and this might be a way to prevent something unfortunate.

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by violaine

Jen, I'm really sorry about the recent loss of your dog losing a close family member is so difficult, and i hope that you will be gentle to yourself right now.

i also understand the feelings of frustration with the 'no hidden agenda' situation. repeat.repeat.repeat. there's more to write about this, and it gets very confusing to me too, so you're not alone!

do you think some of the police or not 'projection' of DA being 'mean, rude, and devious' simply stems from a lack of capacity [wiring] to even go deeper and/or to see outside of self, with compassion - in some, maybe it just isn't there ?

in that case, what do you do- keep apologising?

Thank you for your kind words about Mac, She was 15 and everyone loved her. It was the hardest decision I have ever had to make. I laid next to her and held her the entire time.

I think the police as are afraid every moment they are at work, so many of them are killed in the line of duty, that they are taught to look for signs and to see anger or not answering as a threat. Hopefully as more people are open about AS and Autism, there will be more training and understanding for them. Also parents like Christie who fill out paperwork and take it to emergency responder personnel help too.

I apologize because conflict freaks me out and when I was a kid, no one knew about AS, so it was always deemed my fault if I did not react appropriately as the daughter of Southern Baptist Missionaries. I was in the spotlight 24/7 which makes me very jumpy. When I get that feeling, I apologize and apologize and don't trust that I am actually right. I berate and berate myself. Maybe because it seems familiar? I am in therapy and we are working on this.

xoxoxoxxoxo

Thank you for reading and for your kindness!

I hope everyone has a great day!

[violaine]

thank you, jen.

this sentence has nothing to do with SB's in general- or is against your family.

there were a few SB's in my family growing up, and i clashed with them big time because i questioned 'hypocrisy' whenever i saw it. without apologies.

hang in-

ox

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by violaine

thank you, jen.

this sentence has nothing to do with SB's in general- or is against your family.

there were a few SB's in my family growing up, and i clashed with them big time because i questioned 'hypocrisy' whenever i saw it. without apologies.

hang in-

ox

I experienced total hypocrisy and thought something was wrong with me that I could not act how they wanted me to, be what they wanted me to be. I even look stressed in my baby pictures.

I questioned constantly from age 3 on and was abused because of it and because my adopted father was crazy....but that's another discussion.

No one knew about AS, even if kids wrote with left hand they were abused back then. Teachers were usually mean, and kids allowed to bully. Plus I was in another country back and forth. A coping mechanism I learned was to apologize whether or not I think I am wrong. I do it when I think I have offended, whether or not what I said was in my opinion offensive. Make sense?

I am really working on the apologizing thing.

xoxoxx

[violaine]

yes, jen. you make perfect sense.

anyone who knowingly causes people to doubt their own 'perceptions' is doing a lot of harm to the child/person, and i would imagine themself.

i'm glad you're talking to someone :bunchflowers:

[violaine]

http://aspergeradults.ca/

[Liam]

Originally Posted by violaine

http://aspergeradults.ca/

Thank you, for introducing me to this blog, violaine, while reading her work, I came across this statement, which really hit home.

Having Aspergers is that living paradox of understanding so much, being blessed with amazing intellectual and thinking capacity – a very quick mind – and yet, that not mattering, socially at all.