Transgender Woman Needs Your Support In Texas

[Liam]

Originally Posted by Dylan

Insight by Lisa Harney about this case. The comments are worth reading also.

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Dylan

Thank you Dylan, for sharing Lisa Harney's piece, I particularly liked the part I bolded.

So, if we’re going to ever have a useful conversation about disclosure? It has to start there. It can’t be a debate about when or if trans people should tell cis people that they’re trans. It can’t focus on the needs and problems of trans people with reliable passing privilege (or who are assumed to have that passing privilege). It can’t even be about disclosure because disclosure is not the problem. It has to be about the fact that transphobia is a systematic, institutionalized force, and its primary purpose is to deny us the right to exist.

[firie]

Dylan and I are going to call a few groups tomorrow and one of our club owning friends and see if we can get a benefit together (he's always up for doing something at the queer bar), so maybe we can get some local talent together and try to raise awareness and maybe some money for Nikki's legal defense.

If local folks are interested in brainstorming, we'd like to do a fundraiser or something, and try to throw some Austin support Nikki's way. If anyone from the Austin area is interested, let us know.

[Arwen]

Originally Posted by firie

Dylan and I are going to call a few groups tomorrow and one of our club owning friends and see if we can get a benefit together (he's always up for doing something at the queer bar), so maybe we can get some local talent together and try to raise awareness and maybe some money for Nikki's legal defense.

If local folks are interested in brainstorming, we'd like to do a fundraiser or something, and try to throw some Austin support Nikki's way. If anyone from the Austin area is interested, let us know.

I'd be happy to do one card readings for $5 donations or something like that if you do this and there's a corner I can hide in with a table and 2 chairs.

[firie]

Originally Posted by Arwen

I'd be happy to do one card readings for $5 donations or something like that if you do this and there's a corner I can hide in with a table and 2 chairs.

Awesome. There are plenty of people that would love that I am sure, that is so awesome. Thank you. We will let you know what we can find out tomorrow.

[Heart]

By calling Nikki a "gold digger," accusing her of manipulating and deceiving her husband, etc, Longoria is engaging in hateful transphobic misogyny something that trans women are routinely subjected to. It's horrific and ironic that while asserting that Nikki is really a man, they use some of the oldest, most sexist woman-hating tropes in the book.

[PapaC]

Originally Posted by Heart

By calling Nikki a "gold digger," accusing her of manipulating and deceiving her husband, etc, Longoria is engaging in hateful transphobic misogyny something that trans women are routinely subjected to. It's horrific and ironic that while asserting that Nikki is really a man, they use some of the oldest, most sexist woman-hating tropes in the book.

Funny that, eh?

This case is very very upsetting. Honestly? It has rattled a few personal disphoric feelings the last couple of days that I've tried very hard not to personalize it, but I feel like while I'm having some struggle in reaching out to Nikki (like on Facebook), I feel somewhat responsible to stay connected. (make sense?)

I think Nikki's case is one of many many MANY cases out there that are living proof to why I maintain a queer identity, why this community, and trans community are vital for my personal survival as well as others.

I wanted to seek out the support group last night in part because of this case and what feelings it has brought up.

I read earlier comments about how this case 'is like all inheritance cases', and why I can understand the desire for a 'balanced' viewpoint (and I really do), and really get the whole 'two sides' concept, there's so much NOT in balance with this case, so much going against Nikki that I'm personally not vested in considering all the supposed 'nuances' and 'details' that may or may not exist. Like firie said, no of this crap would be in the news or considered if Nikki didn't have a trans existence.

This is just gross. period.

I remain grateful for those passionate and close enough and commited enough to this case to keep us informed.

Thank you.

[BullDog]

Originally Posted by Heart

By calling Nikki a "gold digger," accusing her of manipulating and deceiving her husband, etc, Longoria is engaging in hateful transphobic misogyny something that trans women are routinely subjected to. It's horrific and ironic that while asserting that Nikki is really a man, they use some of the oldest, most sexist woman-hating tropes in the book.

I was thinking the same thing Heart. She has been subjected to extreme misogyny as well as transphobia (and of course the two are intertwined anyway)- classic textbook case of a gold digger woman who supposedly deceives her husband to take his money- yet seen as not-woman.

She was the primary breadwinner. How is she a gold digger out to take his money? She was helping raise his children. How was there any financial gain from this relationship for her? I see none.

The husband's mother and family, on the other hand, are trying to financially gain after his death and "freeze out" Nikki. I have yet to see one news report discussing how vindictive and money grubbing the family is being. They really haven't even pretended that it's the welfare of the boys they are concerned about.

Also, the judge freezing the life insurance proceeds when she is the named beneficiary is just unbelievable. That's only supposed to happen in extreme cases of fraud or where it is believed a suicide or foul play was involved. I believe she will ultimately prevail on getting the insurance proceeds although no guarantees. If she does she has to go through tons and tons of hoops to get it and meanwhile she has to rely on donations to live.

I don't believe for one second that the husband was deceived. Anyway, they were living their lives, having to deal with child custody issues, she's the main breadwinner and they are living as husband and wife. He supposedly finds out during a custody case that she was born male and all hell breaks loose?

He was fine and happy being married to and living with a woman and she is providing major financial support, helping to take care of the children, and then all of sudden none of this matters because of the fact that when she was born she was assigned the sex male, even though she has been living for a woman all her adult life? Even if hadn't known (which I don't believe for a second) where is the fucking crime here???? Does every non trans person who gets married tell their prospective spouse absolutely everything about their past? If they don't, when their spouse dies are all of their assets frozen due to "fraud?" He was married to a woman and they were living their lives. How does this so-called revelation make anything different in what the two of them had shared together? WTF???

[Soon]

Within all this phobia, hatred and injustice, I can't wrap my mind around the fact that HER account/HER monies are frozen.

How is that possible?

What was her husband's occupation? Wasn't she the primary (or sole?) breadwinner? How can her OWN money be inaccessible!? How can a judge render one's own income inaccessible to the person who earns it? (am I getting it right or missing something?)