what NOT to do in a relationship.......

Soft*Silver · 07-31-2010, 12:34 PM

dont invite your friends over to meet your new girlfriend, then get angry after they leave and tell her you KNOW she was flirting with them....thats really stupid and qualifies you technically as a first class jerk....

when in a supposed committed relationship, dont leave your ex your power of attorney because she has more of a history with you. It makes the new GF feel like she is just on loan....

ditto for whose name is on your checks....

and as beneficiary on your insurance policies

and lets not talk about the will...

and when your new gf tells you that your ex wanted to know if her name was still on all of these, dont turn it around and say your new GF is just jealous when what she really is, is concerned...for you

dont introduce your gf to your family on Christmas as your friend. Especially if you are very out....

the xmas stocking for your ex needs to be sent to her or put in the trash, not back in the xmas box

DONT show people the face your gf makes when she is coming...you might not ever see that face again...

SuperFemme · 07-31-2010, 12:39 PM

do NOT redo my diet and off me magical protein shakes.
i will do things you only have nightmares about to you when you sleep.

do not not not go on and on about marrying me and us having babies after three months of dating. that is gross and VERY scary. my uterus is not rented out easily.

Jesse · 07-31-2010, 12:42 PM

Don't expect your partner to read your mind. Communicate your needs and desires. Statements such as, "Well if you don't know why I am angry, then I certainly am not going to tell you", will not be given attention by me.

The_Lady_Snow · 07-31-2010, 12:45 PM

DO NOT!!! think you can use me as a sushi table....

SuperFemme · 07-31-2010, 12:47 PM

don't tell me you're sending great presents to my kid...and then they never come. you just look like a douche.

The_Lady_Snow · 07-31-2010, 12:48 PM

DO NOT!!!! use my credit card to buy your other girlfriend a present

That's what poly is for.... So we allllllllll know

betenoire · 07-31-2010, 02:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tranzman

Don't expect your partner to read your mind. Communicate your needs and desires. Statements such as, "Well if you don't know why I am angry, then I certainly am not going to tell you", will not be given attention by me.

For fucking real.

And when I ask what your problem is, absolutely don't say "Forget it. I am stupid and wrong anyway." Because we have never had a conversation in which I told you that you were stupid and wrong - maybe you've had that conversation with some other girl, but don't put that shit on me.

And, plus. You know. If you refuse to tell me what your problem is I am not going to sweet-talk it out of you. All you're doing is pissing me off.

weatherboi · 07-31-2010, 02:47 PM

please do not flush my marijuana down the toilet!!!
it will do no one any good!!!

Stearns · 07-31-2010, 03:13 PM

Don't fail to examine the role you may have played in the doo-doo. Maybe you chose to overlook those little red flags that had popped up, or maybe you decided 'unconsciously on purpose' that the relo wasn't good for you and you did stuff to get out of it, in order to preserve your self-hood.

I can't tolerate feeling buffeted about by forces beyond my control. I need to know that I made decisions - unconsciously or not - what those decisions were, and why I made them. Then, I get to decide what to do about it. In doing so, I return my power to me.

07-31-2010, 12:34 PM	#1
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,897 Times in 4,064 Posts Rep Power*: 21474858	dont invite your friends over to meet your new girlfriend, then get angry after they leave and tell her you KNOW she was flirting with them....thats really stupid and qualifies you technically as a first class jerk.... when in a supposed committed relationship, dont leave your ex your power of attorney because she has more of a history with you. It makes the new GF feel like she is just on loan.... ditto for whose name is on your checks.... and as beneficiary on your insurance policies and lets not talk about the will... and when your new gf tells you that your ex wanted to know if her name was still on all of these, dont turn it around and say your new GF is just jealous when what she really is, is concerned...for you dont introduce your gf to your family on Christmas as your friend. Especially if you are very out.... the xmas stocking for your ex needs to be sent to her or put in the trash, not back in the xmas box DONT show people the face your gf makes when she is coming...you might not ever see that face again... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

07-31-2010, 12:42 PM	#3
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,782 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Don't expect your partner to read your mind. Communicate your needs and desires. Statements such as, "Well if you don't know why I am angry, then I certainly am not going to tell you", will not be given attention by me. __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

07-31-2010, 12:45 PM	#4
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07-31-2010, 12:48 PM	#6
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,077 Times in 15,670 Posts Rep Power: 21474875	DO NOT!!!! use my credit card to buy your other girlfriend a present That's what poly is for.... So we allllllllll know __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

07-31-2010, 03:13 PM	#9
Stearns Member How Do You Identify?: Trans Man Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Husband Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: 'nita land Posts: 272 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 385 Thanked 443 Times in 149 Posts Rep Power: 3640	When relationships go bad.... Don't fail to examine the role you may have played in the doo-doo. Maybe you chose to overlook those little red flags that had popped up, or maybe you decided 'unconsciously on purpose' that the relo wasn't good for you and you did stuff to get out of it, in order to preserve your self-hood. I can't tolerate feeling buffeted about by forces beyond my control. I need to know that I made decisions - unconsciously or not - what those decisions were, and why I made them. Then, I get to decide what to do about it. In doing so, I return my power to me.

07-31-2010, 12:39 PM	#2
SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,108 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	do NOT redo my diet and off me magical protein shakes. i will do things you only have nightmares about to you when you sleep. do not not not go on and on about marrying me and us having babies after three months of dating. that is gross and VERY scary. my uterus is not rented out easily.

07-31-2010, 12:47 PM	#5
SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,108 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	don't tell me you're sending great presents to my kid...and then they never come. you just look like a douche.

07-31-2010, 02:47 PM	#8
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