If You Could Turn Back Time, What Would You Do Differently?

gotoseagrl · 08-25-2010, 07:25 AM

i would wait.

Gemme · 08-25-2010, 09:10 AM

I would learn to let go of material things, so I didn't have a whole corner full of boxes to go through from this move.

musicman · 06-03-2011, 07:03 AM

I wouldn't do anything differently. All my decision I've made whether bad or good have brought me to where I am today.

I truly believe , in making decisions and standing by them.

miss entycing · 06-03-2011, 07:46 AM

i surely woulda kept my emotions in check a time or two.. and eyes wide open.
coulda, should, woulda avoided lots of recent hurt.
thank god them doors are nailed shut now, and i wont be revealing emotions no more.
eh.. it is what it is... ya live and learn.

JustJo · 06-03-2011, 08:31 AM

I would have left my family of origin sooner, rather than stuck around trying to "fix" it.

I would have gone into counseling/therapy younger rather than older.

I would have grabbed onto the pain and worked through it, instead of avoiding it so long.

Gráinne · 06-03-2011, 09:10 AM

This is also a deep subject for me.

It has taken a long time, but I believe that if I'd done everything "right", or according to what I was "supposed" to do, I would not be the strong woman I am now, and would not have met the people I've met or had the experiences I've had. Even with its challenges and uncertainty, I feel a hell of a lot happier and alive than some of my friends with the white picket fences and 2.5 kids. I like my scrappiness and quick thinking, all born out of hard times.

I don't regret marrying my husband, because without him I would not have my beautiful children. He was, and is, a good man and a good father. I only wish I had not hurt him. I hope that anyone whom I have hurt through my actions and decisions has long forgiven me.

Do I regret dropping out of college the first time I went? I did, for a long time. Now I realize I was there not for myself but to please my father, and that would never work. I was miserable in my field. It was only after much work on myself that I went back to a school I loved and got into a field that thumps with my very life force. Later still, I got into teaching-in China, of all places. All of that would not have happened if I'd done things "right".

Gradually, I learned not to regret decisions I've made. I tell myself that I made the best choice I had, given the information I had then. For instance, when I was growing up, being gay was simply not an option in that place and time. It's really hard to combat that feeling when it's either a sickness of the soul or a mental illness (that was what we were taught). Who could blame me for feeling I "had" to marry? It simply was not open and more accepted as it is now.

I try not to think in terms of "mistakes". I think life is all one big lesson, and if you don't take risks, you don't drink champagne.

Deborah · 06-03-2011, 09:37 AM

I would have thought more and spoke less

08-25-2010, 07:25 AM	#1
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musicman Member How Do You Identify?: NA Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NA Posts: 209 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 195 Thanked 429 Times in 125 Posts Rep Power: 3610464	What would I do differently I wouldn't do anything differently. All my decision I've made whether bad or good have brought me to where I am today. I truly believe , in making decisions and standing by them.

06-03-2011, 07:46 AM	#4
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06-03-2011, 08:31 AM	#5
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06-03-2011, 09:37 AM	#7
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