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Old 09-16-2010, 01:19 PM   #1
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I just hope to get through it all calmly and with dignity and no crying.

I hope I can just say no to events I do not want to attend with no guilt and attend the events I say I will and feel really good and feel present while I am there.

I have not been a fan of big family occasions since my mother died and we moved to the US when I was 13. I would seriously rather skip the whole thing...but my Cynthia loves family and holidays, so I hope I can be positive and have fun with her.
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I usually find some orphan Thanksgiving to go to, spend it by myself or work. I definitely try to work on Christmas because I don't like Christmas at all. I prefer Thanksgiving over Christmas.

This year I will be going to Diva's pre-thanksgiving dinner since I live 7 minutes away. On actual Thanksgiving I'm not sure what I will be doing. Me and Gemme will find something to do or have something ourselves.

For Christmas I have no clue. Again I don't like Christmas so hopefully it will involve Chinese food and a movie.

Have I mentioned I don't like Christmas?

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I usually find some orphan Thanksgiving to go to, spend it by myself or work. I definitely try to work on Christmas because I don't like Christmas at all. I prefer Thanksgiving over Christmas.

This year I will be going to Diva's pre-thanksgiving dinner since I live 7 minutes away. On actual Thanksgiving I'm not sure what I will be doing. Me and Gemme will find something to do or have something ourselves.

For Christmas I have no clue. Again I don't like Christmas so hopefully it will involve Chinese food and a movie.

Have I mentioned I don't like Christmas?

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I dont like it either and Chinese Food and a movie sounds DIVINE! I like Halloween!
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I dont like it either and Chinese Food and a movie sounds DIVINE! I like Halloween!
I love love love Halloween. It's the only day I can dress like a total goober and get away with it. I can't wait!! I like passing out candy and seeing all the costumes and seeing who's mom made their costume.
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I love love love Halloween. It's the only day I can dress like a total goober and get away with it. I can't wait!! I like passing out candy and seeing all the costumes and seeing who's mom made their costume.
I like to fix theme food and act like a goober too! Yeayyyyyy!
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All of my family whoever they are are christian I'm Jewish so I only celebrate Hanukkah and Thanksgiving but don't usually do anything on those days. Its too much to cook a whole turkey on Thanksgiving. This year I think I will be moving to a warmer climate so maybe there will be something I can do there. Like the beach??
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Duck n cover.
We will not be going to anyones home this year...yey!
We will have dinner at our home for a change, minus the in-laws I have a feeling.
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I usually find some orphan Thanksgiving to go to, spend it by myself or work. I definitely try to work on Christmas because I don't like Christmas at all. I prefer Thanksgiving over Christmas.

This year I will be going to Diva's pre-thanksgiving dinner since I live 7 minutes away. On actual Thanksgiving I'm not sure what I will be doing. Me and Gemme will find something to do or have something ourselves.

For Christmas I have no clue. Again I don't like Christmas so hopefully it will involve Chinese food and a movie.

Have I mentioned I don't like Christmas?

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i seriously contemplated inviting myself to Diva's & trying to drive to Tx.

Nasty chinese buffet sounds good!
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::::soft eyes on those who mourn the loss of loved ones:::::

let me share with you a tradition my family does at xmas every year. It is not xtian, it is druid/pagan, tho some forms of it were adopted and adapted into xtian carpathian mtn area customs...

on xmas eve, we fast all day, to cleanse our body and to prepare for the huge feast that our gods and goddesses provide...

at dinner time, when the night sky turns past indigo and into violet, the table is set, with one extra seating. That seat is to invite all our passed over ancestors and loved ones to join us.

we dine by candlelight to break the darkness and to provide an envelope of sacred light around us

we join hands and give praise for the bounty of last year, for the health of ourselves and our beasts, for the governance of and support by our gods and goddesses, etc

we pass around a clove of garlic and bite off a piece...to chase the devil away...

we heap on our plate unleavened bread, soaked in lightoil and poppyseed

and top it with prunes

all of which are sacred foods from our region

afterwards, we blow out the candle, thank our ancestors for joining us and clear off the table. As a child, I followed my father outside so he ould give the leftovers to the animals. As part of this was generated thru xtian lore, it was believed this was the nite the good lord would ask the animals if their master was kind to them. If so, the land and the family were blessed. If not, atonement was set for the following year. Not punishment. Atonement.

I remember watching my father scratch the animals on their head and remind them to tell baby jesus how each nite he carried buckets of fresh water out to them even in the coldest of weathers. I have never met a more kind farmer in my life than my father...he taught me how to love the animals who serve us...

perhaps this year an extra place setting could be set at your tables...
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::::soft eyes on those who mourn the loss of loved ones:::::

let me share with you a tradition my family does at xmas every year. It is not xtian, it is druid/pagan, tho some forms of it were adopted and adapted into xtian carpathian mtn area customs...

on xmas eve, we fast all day, to cleanse our body and to prepare for the huge feast that our gods and goddesses provide...

at dinner time, when the night sky turns past indigo and into violet, the table is set, with one extra seating. That seat is to invite all our passed over ancestors and loved ones to join us.

we dine by candlelight to break the darkness and to provide an envelope of sacred light around us

we join hands and give praise for the bounty of last year, for the health of ourselves and our beasts, for the governance of and support by our gods and goddesses, etc

we pass around a clove of garlic and bite off a piece...to chase the devil away...

we heap on our plate unleavened bread, soaked in lightoil and poppyseed

and top it with prunes

all of which are sacred foods from our region

afterwards, we blow out the candle, thank our ancestors for joining us and clear off the table. As a child, I followed my father outside so he ould give the leftovers to the animals. As part of this was generated thru xtian lore, it was believed this was the nite the good lord would ask the animals if their master was kind to them. If so, the land and the family were blessed. If not, atonement was set for the following year. Not punishment. Atonement.

I remember watching my father scratch the animals on their head and remind them to tell baby jesus how each nite he carried buckets of fresh water out to them even in the coldest of weathers. I have never met a more kind farmer in my life than my father...he taught me how to love the animals who serve us...

perhaps this year an extra place setting could be set at your tables...
What a wonderful way to celebrate!

I usually end up at the in-laws or relatives I have nothing in common with wishing I were home.

I can't tell you how lucky you are to have had a kind father who loved and cherished animals.
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